After a long shift in a Cardassian hospital Dr. Bashir is finally home.
Had an idea you might be able to use for something: Klingon Soap Operas.
(sigh)
Thanks for the thought. I appreciate your kindness!
But unfortunately, because you've sent me the idea and I've read it, I can now not use it, ever. No matter how much I might like to.
This isn't about you, you understand. And in its way it probably seems like a cruel paradox. You were only trying to be helpful! But if I was working on something for Trek and this concept came up even in casual discussion, I would be honor-bound (and contractually required) to inform them that the idea had come to me from a reader or fan. And then—rightly, from their point of view—they would forbid me to use it, because the idea's originator might some day, despite all their friendly intentions now, sue them over it. And the evidence that I was at fault would be easy to obtain. Sending a DM on any major platform generates an electronic "paper trail" that will confirm its target has opened and read the message in question. And that electronic record can be subpoenaed and submitted as evidence, and would stand up in court.
"Oh, come on, who'd do a thing like that, what are the odds...?" people will say. But it's not generally known that I've already been involved in a high-stakes lawsuit in which someone tried to sue Mattel over material I wrote when developing the initial form of the "Barbie: Fairytopia" universe (and the first Fairytopia film) for them. I'd never so much as met or communicated with the person suing them, had never read even a word of their work... but they still went to great trouble and expense attempting to prove that I'd had access to their material and used it without permission.
Mattel won the suit (as I'd frankly been expecting: the attorney handling their defense was one of the most expert IP lawyers in the US). But it gave me the chills... and made it clear how very wrong things could go, and the kind of damage that could be done to my career and my personal life, if I even accidentally used ideas from unauthorized sources.
Seriously, folks. I know you all mean well! But please don't make me tap the sign. DO NOT SEND ME STORY IDEAS, no matter how vague or general or unformed they may be. To do so is to absolutely guarantee that they will never, ever happen.* (And in my own universes, your innocently-meant suggestion could mean that neither you or anyone else will ever see that particular Young Wizards or Middle Kingdoms plot, no matter how much you'd like to... because I take this stuff seriously.)
...Thanks, all.
*This is also why I don't read fanfic set in my universes. Which you also shouldn't send me: please and thank you.
Please read this before you send me ideas or links to fanfic of any of my stuff. Please.
I saw a post saying that Boromir looked too scruffy in FotR for a Captain of Gondor, and I tried to move on, but I’m hyperfixating. Has anyone ever solo backpacked? I have. By the end, not only did I look like shit, but by day two I was talking to myself. On another occasion I did fourteen days’ backcountry as the lone woman in a group of twelve men, no showers, no deodorant, and brother, by the end of that we were all EXTREMELY feral. You think we looked like heirs to the throne of anywhere? We were thirteen wolverines in ripstop.
My boy Boromir? Spent FOUR MONTHS in the wilderness! Alone! No roads! High floods! His horse died! I’m amazed he showed up to Imladris wearing clothes, let alone with a decent haircut. I’m fully convinced that he left Gondor looking like Richard Sharpe being presented to the Prince Regent in 1813
*electric guitar riff*
And then rocked up to Imladris a hundred ten days later like
Some people have been wondering about the raccoon. Listen. Listennn. Don't ask about the raccoon.
But does the racoon survive the Uruk-Hai? Does he curl up on Aragorn's head, or does he go straight to Faramir? Does he bite Denethor?
My friend. My colleague. My brother my captain my king. I too have been pondering this question, and in my mind there can be only one ultimate outcome.
A few months later
All hail the High Warden of Gondor.
Epilogue: It ADORES Faramir.
I’m going to wear this on my head like a raccoon and show everyone
To be a clone, forced to grow up all too fast, to fight in a war that is not your own.
Finished commission for @cacodaemonia! Just Boil and Waxer enjoying an afternoon nap, what more do you need?
Commissions are still open, you can fins my info here!
Anonymous asked:
is jake gyllenhaal gay??
why would you ask us, a narnia blog, this
first of all WHO is asking this second why did they say jake gyllenhaal and not jack twist
you will have a much healthier relationship with your own mental health if you stop seeing disorders as essential modes of being that you fall into or don't and treat them instead as models through which to view your experiences and put exactly as much stock in as you find they have useful explanatory power to you
stop thinking 'am i X' and instead ask 'is it useful to me to understand my behaviour Y in terms of X'
Star Trek: The Next Generation // S07E11: Parallels
Get To Know Me
Thank you for the tag, @cacodaemonia !
1. Are you named after anyone?
I’d like to think that I named myself after myself.
2. When was the last time you cried?
Yesterday. Not a fun moment, but I’m doing better now.
3. Do you have kids?
No, and I never want any.
4. Do you use sarcasm a lot?
Probably more than I’m aware of.
5. What sports do you play/have you played?
I’m a horseback rider. All other sports and I have been bitter enemies since the day I met my first phys ed teacher at age six.
6. What's the first thing you notice about other people?
Interesting question. I have no idea. I guess I’m usually a bit stressed out in social situations, especially if I’m meeting new people, so I think my attention probably tends to be a bit all over the place.
7. What's your eyes colour?
Blue/hazel and green/brown. Mary Sue me.
8. Scary movies or happy endings?
Happy endings.
9. Any special talents?
I’ve always been good at my native language, as in having a good sense of grammar and so on. I’m also good at memorising random information.
10. Where were you born?
Stockholm, Sweden.
11. What are your hobbies?
Writing, singing, creating music, horseback riding, participating in fandom and geeking out about my favourite media.
12. Do you have any pets?
Nope, though I dream of having the money and energy for a horse one day.
13. How tall are you?
167 cm.
14. Favorite subject in school?
I really liked school, so it’s honestly easier for me to think of which subjects were my least favourite ones. That’d be phys ed followed by history.
15. Dream Job?
Realistically, I’d love to work with editing, proofreading, and translation for an NGO with a cause I’m passionate about. Which is sort of what I already do, but I also have to do a bunch of other stuff that generally tends to involve more social interaction than I’m strictly comfortable with. (I can’t begin to imagine what my dream job would be if social anxiety and fatigue weren’t an issue, but it probably would be something quite different.)
i think if we’re going to have conversations about consent we should talk about how consenting to something doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to be a good experience, and having a bad experience doesn’t necessarily mean someone violated your consent. this can apply to a lot of situations but the two i’m thinking of right now are sex and transition.
you’re getting it on with someone. you enthusiastically consent to having sex with them. afterward, you feel a little weird about it. maybe even distressed. maybe they did something you didn’t enjoy and in the moment you just didn’t say anything. maybe you just realized after the fact that you were not in a good headspace for sex and now your mental health is declining. that doesn’t inherently mean the person you had sex with violated your consent. sometimes it just means you need to take a break from sex or work on communicating your needs or boundaries better during sex.
and with transition, i feel like this is something that gets consistently overlooked but like. there will never be zero detransitioners. there will always be people who decide that actually transition wasn’t right for them. they could have had the best most thorough doctors in the world who did everything by the book and got full informed consent at every step. and some people are still going to decide they don’t like the changes and wish they hadn’t transitioned. that doesn’t mean that the doctors violated their consent, and that doesn’t mean that transition shouldn’t be available to anyone. it just means that we need to have more resources available for folks who detransition.
regret does not automatically mean someone did something wrong. regret is simply one possible result of having bodily autonomy, and i think we need to get more comfortable with that.
anyway, here's some things i've learned and some things i'm working on as a survivor of sexual assault/rape and prolonged abuse that might help people.
one of the things i struggle with is communicating what i want during sex, because it was something i was punished for while i was in an abusive relationship. this means whenever i want something during sex, instead of just asking for it, i panic and start overthinking about how to ask for it and if my partner will be upset if i ask for it and what if they say no and am i a bad person for even asking and maybe i should just shut up and wait for it to be over and you see how this can make sex very unpleasant, yes?
one way i'm working on coping with this is trying to talk to whoever i'm having sex with before we have sex. it's easier if you have a partner, but really anyone you're going to sleep with should be cool with you talking about your likes and dislikes before you have sex. sometimes it even helps to write it out, a list of likes or dislikes or things you want to try or things you notice that trigger you. for me, it's hair pulling, so i always make sure to say something before i hook up with someone. it can feel really really awkward at first, so this one just takes practice.
another thing is i used to get triggered during sex, and occasionally still do, and the biggest issue i had was asking the person to stop. usually i'd just be frozen in place and they'd have no idea anything was even happening. instead of trying to figure out what to do when i got triggered, i practiced telling them to stop while i wasn't triggered so i could practice what i was going to say and do and how i was going to handle it. once i had that skill on my roster, it was easier to say or do something if i did get triggered during sex, whether that was saying "stop" or tapping their arm to let them know to stop. this, again, is even easier if you have a partner or a consistent sexual partner you trust.
another thing i've started doing is telling my fwb anytime he does something i do like. it's a lot easier to communicate because i'm not worried about rejection, and once i got more comfortable communicating that way during sex, communicating what i wanted got a little easier.
it's still an uphill battle for me sometimes, there are still times during sex when i just can't get the words to come out of my mouth, and i'm working on being gentle with myself. if you struggle with this stuff too, it's not your fault, and you also don't have to be afraid of sex. focus on getting to know yourself and your limits, practice communicating, check in with yourself after sex, and know that it does get easier!
To be blunt, this is bonkers. The act of wanting two characters to fall madly in love, and celebrating when they do, is a natural response to fiction.
I wrote about fandom, purity culture, the rise of anti-fans and anti-fandom, and the utter bullshit that is "proship"
I forgot how good it felt to be held by you. ARRIVAL 2016 | dir. Denis Villeneuve
