salmon so tasty it make me eat hasty / when salmon is finished the joy is diminished
so nice you see him twice
Wow... Bad ass...
Seriously badass and awesome 💗
If I say “aww look at the birds” n you say “they’re just sparrows” I’m killing you. Find beauty in nature or else.
simply dont monday
simply don’t tuesday
simply don’t wednesday
simply don’t thursday
I don't speak Spanish but I understand every word
I appreciate 'adn' being preserved in the form of 'qeu', that's absolutely beautiful.
undergoing a process of embiggening
good lord
How much water did you ADD?!?
tumblr is probably the best website because you can say things like “hey. dont cry. suck her sloppy saturday wednesday ok?” and everyone will be like yeah this expresses a coherent thought
if you’ve never seen one before
deer are smaller than you think
raccoons are bigger than you think
bears are smaller than you think but you were pretty close
otters are bigger than you think no even bigger than that
wolves are bigger than you think
wild cats are smaller than you think but hopefully you’ll never see one
chipmunks are smaller than you think
so are mice but you’ve seen a mouse right
you were right about the size of moose, mostly
pigs are bigger than you think
coyotes are that size
so are foxes
woops bears are bigger than you think but only that one type
this is an informational post about mammals if you know more please do tell
revolutionarygays
buffalo are bigger than you’ve ever even imagined. you’ve never seen anything that big in your life i promise
i support this post except you have no idea how big are moose
moose are fucked up big and nothing will ever prepare you for it
What??? The fuck????
Platypus are so much smaller than you think.
Veering from mammals, king cobras are so much bigger than you think, and when you look into their eyes, you can see cognition.
Peafowl are bigger than you think. This is a small (8lb, they’re usually 10-12lb) cameo peacock getting an x-ray:
Geese are smaller than you think.
Swans are bigger than you think.
I’d divorce him too lmao
sustainableseparatists
sisyphereantask
It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.
Basically!
Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.
The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.
These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.
Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.
I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.
When they are speaking about a passion, respond to children as if you would a tenured professor at a prestigious university, and to an adult as if you would a child free of the burdens of adulthood.
Children are desperate to teach the wonders of the world that they know, that they have just learned, and share it with anyone interested. Adults pour passion they didn’t know they had into voluntary obligations, and crave a simple acknowledgment of that passion as being worthy and valid.
“Dear third grader, tell me exactly why you chose <x> as you third favorite carnivorous dinosaur instead of second, as specifically as possible.”
“Hey neighbor, your vegetable garden is absolutely gorgeous this year…and no I’m not just saying that because the tomatoes you gave me last year were absolute perfection.”
And if you can’t respond to the emotional bid at that moment, let them know you heard them. If there’s a gorgeous bird outside, ask your loved one to take a picture so you can share in it together. But by god, hear them. Tell them they were listened to.
The amount of emotional bids that I attempted to engage my husband with before our divorce was astonishing. It would have been nice to have this kind of terminology before hand. Could have saved a lot of time and effort.
I have not realized that all the times I try to share with my family or former friends or lovers only to be ignored or interrupted was really just an emotional bid for attention!
Deeply aware of it but never knew the term.
Anytime i see a bunch of pride flags i have to restrain myself from saying "where mexico" bc i doubt anyone will know I'm referencing this
picture i got at pride last week; here mexico
voice offscreen: Hi, excuse me, i have an appointment for today?
*pause*
second voice: he’s new
first voice: oh. okay
remember when linguini brought a rat he found back to his apartment and got all embarrassed and was like it’s not much. to the rat
When an archer is shooting for fun He has all his skill. If he shoots for a brass buckle He is already nervous. If he shoots for a prize of gold He goes blind Or sees two targets – He is out of his mind.
His skill has not changed, But the prize divides him. He cares He thinks more of winning Than of shooting – And the need to win Drains him of power.
Zhuang Zhou (369 BC - 286 BC)
