important things about dan’s coming out video

  • ”spoiler alert i’m not straight”
  • homophobia affects how children grow up and how they view themselves and anyone who says “they’re too young to talk about seXuaLity” regarding healthy gay representation in the media or “the world isn’t fair deal with it” regarding homophobia is an asshole
  • using “gay” as an insult creates a negative connotation that is detrimental to an entire community of people and establishes a sense of inferiority. don’t do it.
  • stand up for people. please. dan talked about how awful his childhood was because he had no friends and everyone was too scared to stand up for him and how his life changed when he met phil because just having one person on his side was so important. even if you don’t think it’s a big deal, please give people support
  • “emo is one of the best things that happened to pop culture in the past 20 years”
  • bisexuality is valid and is not just a trendy label or an excuse for being sexually confused
  • what you say on the internet lasts forever and someone will find it, for better or for worse
  • dan asking god to “make him straight” because he was tired of being abused for his sexuality because it’s 2019 and people still don’t realize that sexuality is not a choice and no amount of praying or sexual conversions or whatever will change that, it’ll only make people feel more hopeless and telling someone to “pray the gay away” or that homosexuality is a sin is an awful thing
  • dan speaking on his attempted suicide. if you’re reading this or if you’ve seen his video, know you are not alone. youtubers and celebrities tend to get idolized and people don’t realize that they are people too and they have struggled too and being in a dark spot doesn’t make you any less of a person. if you’re having problems with suicidal thoughts, know that you have support and call the suicide hotline if you need someone to talk to 1-800-273-8255
  • time heals. even if you feel like your world is ending now, you have a life ahead of you, and that time will give you perspective
  • dan calling phil his soulmate and not just because oMg!1! PhaN!1 but because it’s so important to find someone you feel comfortable around and you love and feel loved back i’m so happy for both of them
  • on that note, dan calling everyone out for being obsessed with his sexuality and about his relationships because yes, it’s fun to see a connection between two people and seeing people happy together makes people happy but that’s no excuse to be creepy and aggressive and try to force people into addressing things they don’t want to share
  • also dan alluding to all the bottom jokes which actually kinda made me laugh but also points out how weird that is like stop
  • don’t force people to disclose their sexuality. don’t out people. just don’t. you don’t know their life story and doing so could threaten their safety. preaching openness and being comfortable with who you are doesn’t work when you’re making someone uncomfortable by pressuring them to say something they don’t want to say yet. and if they’re not gay, it’s just harassment and unhealthy stereotyping. 
  • never react to someone’s coming out with “wE bEen knEw” or something because obviously it’s taking them a lot to share this information with you don’t be a prick
  • “focus on making the world a welcoming place and people will come out when they are ready”
  • using your platform to let people know they don’t have to deal with their experiences alone
  • “every time someone speaks openly about sexuality, it saves lives”
  • representation is so important
  • we all have different experiences in life. don’t judge other people or invalidate their experiences or act like something is or isn’t a problem
  • if you stay silent, you are contributing to the problem
  • society has an unhealthy obsession with labels and human conceptions of particular words varies as the world changes but at the same time, some people derive pride, happiness, and validation with finding a label they identify with so respect that
  • “if you want to use language to express your honest feelings and identity, that’s great and other people should respect what you say. likewise, if you hate labels and you just want to be a formless blob that’s fine too, no one should force you. the only thing that isn’t cool is telling people what they should or should not identify as because that ain’t your problem or your business”
  • “i think it’s unlikely [that god exists] in the same way i know i like DICK but i’m not going to pretend to have a definite answer here” mood.
  • “one thing’s for sure, whatever heterosexual is, i ain’t it”
  • dan appreciating the word “queer”. even though there is some bad history behind it given that it’s a slur, it’s a good umbrella term that avoids having to put yourself into a specific label and is inclusive to everyone. that being said, if you don’t feel comfortable with it, that’s understandable
  • saying you’re gay doesn’t make you spontaneously combust!!!!
  • “i’m here, i’m queer, and don’t worry, i’m still filled with existential fear”
  • dan emailing his family to come out because you should be able to come out anyway you feel comfortable with and also #relatable when you’re both gay AND awkward
  • dan’s mf christian grandmother saying “I hope that now you will feel free to live your life as you want with no pretence” because having an accepting family is so important and my heart goes out to everyone who does not come from an accepting family but it’s just so nice to hear. and also, being old and conservative and christian is not an excuse to be a bigot. you should value the happiness of the people you love over your opposing views
  • dan pointing out the problems in the pride community right now because gender roles, biphobia, transphobia, acephobia, and racism are still huge problems that should be dealt with and we should focus on loving and accepting each other and welcome anyone to the community because everyone is valid
  • climate change plug
  • the fight against homophobia is not over
  • queer people exist. choosing not to accept them is not an option.
  • “living your truth with pride is the way to be happy. you are valid, it gets so much better, and the future is clear: it’s pretty queer”

Zoomed in and found this gem

I think I found someone who knows about the camera

Hello there, observant person!

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uh oh

i encourage you guys to click the link it’s hella rad

bonus:

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special protected fire hydrant

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Hello darkness my old friend

damnnnnn 

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enemy spotted

i spent a solid 10 minutes zooming into the distance to find anything gay

and here they are, reblog for thriving queer energy

look I made a compilation of precious Queen moments that makes you love them even more

This is a big, giant list of Youtube tutorials that will teach you all the basic life skills you need to know in order to be a functional adult. There are a lot of important skills that aren’t included in this list, but this should be enough of a basic guide to get you started and prevent you from making a total mess of yourself. Happy adulting! Household Skills:

Cooking Skills:

Health Skills:

Mental Health Skills:

Relationship and Social Skills:

Job Hunting Skills:

Other Skills:

Tumblr when they were removed by Apple from the App Store:

Tumblr “working as quickly as possible to resolve the issue”:

Tumblr on December 18th looking for 60% of their users:

Underrated post

An Open Letter to Tumblr about the Adult Content Ban and How it is Hurting Your Users:

Recently, Tumblr was removed from the Apple app store due to an incident involving child pornography. This incident is incredibly unfortunate, but it doesn’t stand alone. Tumblr was also removed from the app store due to the large influx of porn bots and pornographic spam, users claiming to be proud to be pedophiles, blatant Nazism, racists who are not deleted for sending hate and harassing users, and more. I myself reported someone for harassing me, but because I had blocked the person and couldn’t access the messages where they harassed me, they were still able to send me anonymous asks. Your support staff, with back doors to the website (presumably), claimed they could not access the messages, and I was left SOL. Many features on this website do nothing to actually protect your users from harassment, racism, homophobia, transphobia, Nazis, pedophiles, predators, porn bots, and more. 

You claim in your statement to us that you “have been working on these problems for a long time”. This is blatantly untrue. Please do not lie to us and patronize us. We’ve been here. We’ve seen you do nothing over, and over, and over again. 

We complained to you for months and months about the rampant porn bots, and you did nothing except add a report button on mobile which only reported sensitive content or spam at best. You could have addressed this problem with an effective algorithm, but you did not. We complained to you about being harassed and sent hate speech for being LGBT+, and you did nothing. We complained to you about blogs being randomly deleted, and sometimes you’ve restored them, other times you have not. We complained to you that there were people proudly claiming to be “Minor Attracted Persons”, or pedophiles, and you did nothing. We complained to you about people proudly claiming to be white supremacists, and you did nothing. All of these things are “against the community guidelines”, and yet over and over, you have not found effective ways to handle these problems or suppress the feeling of welcome that these users claim to get here. You have had a long time to work on these problems, but you haven’t addressed them. To say you have is untrue. 

 Multiple other social networking websites, such as Wordpress, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and others have effectively dealt with rampant pornography, racism, pedophilia, and other problems without causing massive issues for their users who are not misusing the platform. They are continuing to find new, effective ways to deal with these issues without causing problems for their userbase as a whole.  There is no reason that you are unable to do this effectively other than that you wanted to do it quickly. You have once again chosen your stock holders over your users. And we have had enough. 

You have already started to ban “Adult” content with a new algorithm. Here are screenshots of just a fraction of the posts you have flagged as containing adult content:

Your new system of simply tackling everything at once is not working. At all. And each of these screenshots is proof of your utter incompetence. None of these posts contain pornographic acts, “female nipples”, or any community violation of any kind. 

We, the users, have been asking you for months to deal with these problems - particularly, the porn bots and bots that spam. In order to block a bot from a side blog, I have to do it manually, even though they are in my side blog’s feed. This is a huge issue for mobile - only users. They keep cropping up in droves, taking over our posts and tricking google into making it look like a legitimate blog linked to a pornographic website. We have complained to you for months and months now, and your solution to simply “ban all adult content” is ineffective. I agree that children should not be able to access pornography - but this is not how you tackle a porn bot problem. Your system is utterly useless, allows for racists, pedophiles, porn bots, and Nazis to remain untouched. It also harms sex workers and real people who may use this website for some forms of adult content responsibly. Moreover, as seen above, it harms plenty of users who have in no way violated your terms of service.

 If you keep this up, you threaten your website and company as a whole. Many of us are backing up our blogs and planning places to go to. 

You already have a content filter for “sensitive” content (content inappropriate for younger viewers). You could have improved this, instead of attacking your entire user base. It seems to be a very lazy “solution”, if you could call it one at all, and one that harms your entire userbase.

If you are going to keep this filter in place and make Tumblr, a website that has never been known for being family friendly and has never claimed to be, you are going to lose millions of your users. We are already planning our exodus. It isn’t hard to follow. Censor us, and we will go somewhere else. That is not a threat. It is a promise. 

Sincerely, 

The users of your website. 

They flagged this post immediately and I’ve submitted it for review… this is… quite a week.

If you believe these words, reblog it, please. I want this to be right in their face because I couldn’t email them directly. 

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im so ready to be in a relationship so whenever the universe is ready hmu with a keeper

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i posted this yesterday then today this cute boy held my hand and now he is sending me memes

Reblog for love

i reblogged this yesterday and my crush kissed me today

life update: i’m not saying this worked but something happened literally the day after i reblogged this

omg i reblogged this yesterday and today a cute girl messaged me and i’m 💖❣💟💕🌸💓😚💕

i dont get offended at white people jokes even though im white because: 

  1. i can recognize white people as a whole have systemically oppressed POC in america, which is where i live 
  2. most people when they make white people jokes only mean the shitty white people and i am not a shitty white person 
  3. im not a pissbaby

my white friends that have reblogged this give me life

4. Sometimes I am a shitty white person and the jokes remind me to FUCKIN STOP

If ur white and like this post I fux with u

^absolutely

5. It’s hard to be offended when white people jokes involve bland food/tourist dads in socks and sandals/white girls in yoga pants obsessed with pumpkin spice/suburban PTA moms and other harmless and mostly true stereotypes while jokes about POC involve them being called thugs/criminals/slurs/uneducated/illegal immigrants.

i fucks with u heavy if ur white and you reblog this

6. They’re usually really fucking funny and don’t perpetuate stereotypes that will ever affect me economically, politically, or cause me any true harm, let alone create risks that “justify” my murder and/or death

Waits for my white mutuals to reblog😌

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yesyesyesyes

If you don’t reblog I probably won’t like you as a person

If you get the urge, here’s an absolutely free pass to question my cooking skills, dancing ability, and/or dress sense, or whatever else comes to mind based on my whiteness. Somehow I’ll cope.

Yes to alllll of this.

I reblogged it once and I’m doing this again ‘cause this is all fucking true

All of this. Know your privilege.

Yes

wake up america

this is to educate my non-American followers. This really is how the US sees itself. (and yes, 95% of the time, Florida = WHAT?!)

In Florida the more North you go, the more “South” you get 

In Florida the central part pretends to be the south, the western part pretends to be the northeast and the south pretends to be the west I’m not even kidding you 

… Please tell me you guys are kidding.  

Florida is like it’s own country I swear

I’m from Florida and I can confirm this. Also, South Florida is basically Miami and alligators.

oh, i always assumed florida was part of The South?

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north florida is yes. The rest is not.

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I’m from Florida, and grew up in SC/NC. Can confirm all true. 👍

Um. This is so wrong.

You’re forgetting the part where California sees itself as its own entity.

We do not want to be grouped in with everyone else, thanks.

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clearly none of you have ever met someone from texas

Accurate

“Conservatives have always had safe spaces. Its called the Suburbs. Its called church. Its called social club. Its called the Golf Course. Its called “living in the nice part of town” or “away from the city”. When disenfranchised people make their own safe spaces, they cry foul. They claim it makes people weak they claim it forces them out. Equality feels like oppression when you are in power.”

— Steve C.

I can stomach bro-type boys who actually are quite sweet and loveable beneath their bro exterior significantly more than like, guys who study philosophy and write “poetry” but beneath it all actually have the skewed moral compass and heedless self absorption of your common or garden bro.

chris evans vs james franco

joey tribbiani vs ross gellar