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The Uncertain Road

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Care to join me? ^_~
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Portaits of Andre Holland, Ashton Sanders, Alex Hibbert and Mahershala Ali from the movie ‘Moonlight’ at the 2016 New York Film Festival

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Zodiac Facts! ✨✨ Enjoy ❤️💚💙 Follow @officialzodiacsociety – for more zodiac facts!

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@clearitnow you a 200% slimy, musty dick std infected bitch made excuse of a man and even less of a father and i hope your dick drops off and someone works obeah on your nasty ass and your hoe like i sincerely hope the worst things that could possibly happen to someone happen to you tbh

oh and in case you decide to say/ do some outta pocket shit @clearitnow

this is some shit your nasty homewrecking side hoe @lividlovers had on your blog pertaining to your ain’t shit broke cheating ass so please dont try and front lol

and in case you wanna say “oh that aint got nothing to do with me” or some assorted dumb nigga shit

these were the text messages you sent to YOUR WIFE AND MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN. if you really thought no one on this website was gonna come for either of you you must be fucking delusional like @lividlovers him is bad enough but you really got such a lack of empathy that you would fuck with a married man with kids? @clearitnow i hope you never see them kids and your wife again. i hope you never even see your grand kids. I hope you get her ugly ass pregnant and yall have ugly, ungrateful kids who hate you for reproducing them and you end up broke and homeless when karma comes to get both of your venomous asses

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and yall aint got no shame either huh?

@lividlovers deleted but since her hoe ass wanted to deny

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ol “i use vaseline as lotion” looking faceass.

but @lividlovers keep lying sweethort

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R E C E I P T S Chiiiiile, i am here for this

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It's early in the morning and this is what I wake up to.

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Save The Last Dance (2001)

Its sad that they really fed us these “angry black characters” with the idea that they were just bitter and hateful, but in reality they were speaking pure facts

boom! ^^^^^^^ 

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I went to a Trump opposition organizing meeting last night on campus. I’m not a student, but I wanted to observe what students were doing and offer support if I could.

I want to share something that happened. Three separate white women on three separate occasions spoke up to call for an end to ‘anger’ and to not swear at rallies and to not get emotional.

Fellow white women, that is White Feminism. Do not do this. No civil rights were gained or defended by asking nicely. We should know that! But here we are parroting the tepid moderation men use to silence us, and turning it on women of color. (And we have been doing this for decades and decades.)

How broken is that? If we shout and get mad, “uh bur your being too mean.” But if we supplicate they don’t have to change anything!

Civil rights battles are by nature inconvenient and disruptive to the status quo. When we tell other groups who dont have our privilege to calm down, we are telling them the comfort of white supremacy is more important than their (and our!) survival.

This is a women in martial arts and self-defense blog. This is a feminist blog. The TRUE solidarity of women and defense of civil rights is key to that aim.

Civil rights battles are by nature inconvenient and disruptive to the status quo.

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Long Read: Why do black women fight so hard against stereotypes? Simple, internalized racism/misogynoir.

If you haven’t noticed yet, there are plentiful articles written by black women and others, discussing combating the “Stereotypes” of black women. Every article emphasizing on image, fighting against these images in order for black women to be seen in a better light.

But what do they mean by better light? For centuries black people in general have been dehumanized to the point where anything we do, or any move we make is considered a detriment and a threat to society. Harmful to the image of society, a dark smudge on humanity.

Racism created a burden on black people so heavy that we’ve become mental slaves to our own fear of replicating these stereotypes. The same fear our ancestors had, this fear has been passed down, but I wonder why it stuck with black women the most?

The constant prioritizing of trying to prove how “Well behaved” we can be in order to not be discriminated against. In order to conform, assimilation is another word for it. Black women often feel like the odd ball out. Everyone else has their disclaimers, their defense team, their protest groups but black women are often left fighting alone. Black women’s fear of being alone creates the urgency of wanting to fit in. We’re terrified of not having a seat lone side the popular kids, we don’t want be feel alienated.

We’re constantly bombarded with images informing us that we’re at the bottom. That we’re the poster children of many forms of discrimination, and as much as black women wouldn’t like to admit it, most us see it as a cloud of shame, like we betrayed those who are seated higher than we are (black men, white men, white women, non-black people), we’re desperately trying to please.

So our way of dealing with being marginalized, being stereotyped, being alienated, feeling lonely and left out is to try and separate ourselves from these images. Even though doing so further marginalizes and criminalizes black women who do fall into these categories. The racism and misogynoir we’ve been fed for our entire lives that has created many of our fear mongering mentalities, we’ve internalized and it shows by our desperation to fight stereotypes. A fear so great we punish and shame other black women who don’t abide by respectability. The “Get right, act right” code. 

But what are stereotypes? And why are black women so afraid of them?  Stereotypes are preconceived notions or beliefs are a particular person or things, most stereotypes are fueled by racism, sexism and homophobia. 

They’re a group of beliefs and created images of marginalized individuals from the minds of bigots and discriminatory people who are uncomfortable with existences that do not conform to fit their desires. So why are black women so devoted to trying to appease people who stereotype us as a collective or individually? Why do we believe assimilation is the only way to be respected as people? Why do we think changing our identities will result in better treatment?

Why are we the only group concerned about fighting stereotypes rather than trying to humanize our sisters or ourselves who fall into stereotypical categories? It all reverts back to the lack of protection of black women. No one to defend us when we’re violently subjected to racism, or hateful words that slice like a knife. Like an uncovered car when the storm and rain batters our exterior, we have to continuously fix and repair the damage. If there’s nothing there to shied us from the wear and tear then we continue to experience the battering. So we invest in as many things as we can to make sure the car continues to look good, run good and look presentable to others because no one wants to be seen driving a beat down busted car. That may not be the best analogy but the point was made.

This is why black women fight so hard against stereotypes, because of the fear of feeling excluded, discriminated against and rejected. We know we have no support system or protection so our best bet is to reject forms of identities that are apart of us, that other people hate. What is it going to take for black women to not fight against stereotypical images of black women, but to fight for stereotypical images of black women? Other groups seem to grasped this simple logic, why haven’t black women? Who are we trying to please?

What is it going to take to let go of our internalized racism and misogyny?