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CelestialMaidenShipper

@celestialmaidenshipper

Hey I'm Jiji. As you can see, my blog consists of multiple things from different fandoms.

"you cant get married platonically, marriage is about LOVE and COMMITMENT" yeah love for the bit commitment to the bit

its been an hour and a half and this has 800 notes can you understand my pain

"do you take this person to be your partner, to have and to hold, in good times and bad, in sickness and in health, until death do you part?"

"yes, and..."

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What y’all think ‘gifted child’ discourse is saying: I used to be special and now I’m not and that makes me sad.

What ‘gifted child’ discourse is ACTUALLY saying: The way many educational systems treat children who’ve been identified as ‘gifted’ is actively harmful in that it a. obliges kids to give up socialising with their same-age peers in favour of constantly courting the approval of adult ‘mentors’ who mostly don’t give a shit about them, b. demands that they tie their entire identity to a set of standards that’s not merely unsustainable, but intentionally so, because its unstated purpose is to weed out the ‘unworthy’ rather than to provide useful goals for self-improvement, and c. denies them opportunities to learn useful life skills in favour of training them up in an excruciatingly narrow academic skill-set that’s basically useless outside of an institutional career path that the vast majority of them will never be allowed to pursue.

also: the way “gifted” children are taught largely just rewards them for already knowing things or having a specific skill come easily to them, and thus not only gives them severe anxiety about asking for help or not knowing something right away for fear of disappointing those adult mentors, but also actively discourages them from learning HOW to learn things and pick up new skills, thus sabotaging any life they might try to pursue outside of that institutional career.

Plus, not only is it possible to be “twice exceptional” - aka “gifted” and have a disability that can make learning more difficult - if you’re “gifted”, people usually don’t notice you have a disability.

So you spend your life split between being academically smart and then also unable to do basic, day-to-day functions and being told that you’re “too smart to struggle with this”.

Like, I do believe that neurotypical “gifted” kids are also fucked up by the system, but the majority of people who I personally know who complained about the system turned out to be neurodivergent in some way but didn’t know when they originally started in “gifted child” discourse.

And I’m going to take a stab and say that the people hit the hardest by this are probably women with ADHD, as their presentation usually looks like their life falling apart at/post-uni.

So you can spend your entire life being told you’re definitely going to succeed - and usually you’re pushed to specific career/life goals - and then overnight, your life falls apart and you can’t figure out why.

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And I’m going to take a stab and say that the people hit the hardest by this are probably women with ADHD, as their presentation usually looks like their life falling apart at/post-uni.

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And women with autism.

Nonbinary and GNC afab folks too- because being “raised female” unfortunately means you deal with a lot of the same shit, even if it turns out that you’re actually not a woman.

Remembering that time I couldn’t focus on my gcse exam bc there was a butterfly in the exam hall. I had to get a teacher to catch it & release bc I was fighting every urge to do it myself but if I got up I’d be disqualified.

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Honestly how do people get diagnosed without memes like this? The diagnostic questions are useless.

"How often do you find yourself unable to focus?"

"Well I drew pictures for 13 hours without stopping to eat or use the bathroom yesterday, so obviously I should answer 'rarely'."

At first I thought all the stimming and focus issue memes were supposed to be relatable, like "Aren't us humans so funny with how EVERYONE does these things?"

Apparently no, not everyone focuses on a task so hard they forget to eat or use the bathroom for 9 hours. haha oops :V

I learned all this incredibly late in life, but thanks to people discussing these things openly and sharing memes I at least got to learn about it at all.

it’s so funny tht on here i’m like, mostly a normie while irl i’m consistently the weirdest person in the room at almost any given time. i’m like between two worlds., too normal for online but too weird for real life… i’m like junkrat from riverdale i don’t fit in

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The Nimona movie could have been 30 minutes shorter if Ballister had just sent Ambrosius the full video. "You see, my kid couldn't have been mimicking the Director, simply because she was too busy mimicking YOU, darling. Oh, and did you see that part where the Director drove the sword into you??"