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{I am cringe, but I am free}

@catboyleftist

EGL lifestyler ☆ Unapologetic Lavender Boy ☆ They/He/Frill ☆ Autism Swag ☆ WWDITS/SDV/MH&EAH ☆

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hi!! mostly go by giovanni, they/he, newest generation to be raised by the hellsite, I like stardew valley and what we do in the shadows a lot, I'm a vampire (not specifically otherkin but fine w_ being called that), I have a cat, I'm low support needs autistic and my lifelong spin is any and all vampire related things + history is p/ longstanding too. I dress in lolita fashion a lot and when I don't it's mostly vintage stuff. When I touch grass I like to watercolor outside, go antiquing or visit museums :}

i am here to talk about things I like and to be silly, not to get into discourse, That being Said

-if you see anything you don't agree w/ on my blog, feel free to block me.

-I think microlabels are cool if you use them, but I may not understand some so bear with me for a bit.

-I'm not comfortable with problematic shipping (toxic/big age gap/that sort of stuff) however I know dnis aren't that useful so if you don't want to leave, tag your content because I have most proshipping tags blocked. I won't harass anyone for this though.

-not american so not up to date on a lot of american problems or cultural nuances, also not on twitter, let that speak for itself, may have to be caught up on who did something bad this time (this is not a snarky remark)

-i am a teenager (no specified age because the Internet Is Dangerous, same reason I don't list my squicks or triggers or diagnosises) so be aware of that if you aren't comfortable with me on your blog, feel free to block if you're a nsfw account, both of us will be benefitted from that. Adults can interact as long as they are Normal. (the same way you'd interact with teenagers in the real world is what I mean by normal, to specify)

Thank you for reading my long intro post, please send me asks about historical facts or pretty dresses <3

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due to crude half-baked misunderstandings of intersectionality, you might initially think that a gay jew obviously has it harder than a gay christian, because two oppressions is more than one, and privilege and oppression work like effect multipliers in a videogame. but actually, when 81% of jews believe homosexuality should be accepted and only 16% believe it should be discouraged, and the figures are 54 to 38 for christians, you’re looking at gay christians facing significantly higher rates of rejection from their communities, families, and religious institutions.

you might think that the more christian a group is, the more hegemonic it is, and thus the more privileged the members. in some situations, in some senses, this may even be true. but a key consideration is that religious fundamentalist groups are bad to be in, especially for women and lgbt people. a lesbian raised into evangelical christianity was raised, yes, into a group with disturbing cultural sway in USAmerican politics, but also into a group very dedicated to and effective at making people like her want to die. the people high control religious groups hurt most are their own members. this is a vital consideration when talking to and about people who have left christianity, especially fundamentalist and repressive christian denominations. it may be tempting, for some people, to consider ex-christians barely-reformed representatives of the hegemony, who can’t possibly understand what it is to be repressed by christianity the way a jew does. but please consider that people who have been emotionally traumatized on religious grounds by their christian families and communities have direct, visceral, non-hypothetical experience of being actually, irl abused by these institutions. getting antisemitically microaggressed by your christian coworker is, i need to stress this, not actually as bad as being religiously abused.

religious abuse is by no means unique to christians, jews do it too, fundamentalists particularly but by no means exclusively, this doesn’t mean that lgbt jews aren’t oppressed or aren’t oppressed in distinct ways or situations, it doesn’t mean you can’t be annoyed at ex christians getting stuff wrong, it doesn’t mean that christians are the real victims of christianity or that members of minority religions aren’t, it means have a sense of the meaning of actual individual human suffering relative to the notional minority stress of being officially, statistically at risk for oppression. and have some compassion.

op, oppression isn't a competition. the statement that gay jews face less oppression from homophobic jews than gay christians do from homophobic christians is a false equivalency, and while i understand you coming from a place of wanting to make a point about intersectionality and the pervasive nature of homophobia in religious fundamentalist groups with high power control causing harm to their members, you also have to understand that as a gay jew, i face a unique form of homophobia and antisemitism from christians both in fundamentalist groups and ones attempting to reform. making wide sweeping statements about jewish people based on a very slim view into our community is bupkis and your digression that religious abuse happens in jewish communities too feels like an afterthought.

maybe look into unlearning whatever it is that makes you feel like jews have any kind of privilege over you, a white christian man. just saying

“Cats are evil” factoid actually just statistical error. Average cat has done nothing wrong ever. Macavity, who has broken every human law & breaks the law of gravity, is an outlier and should not have been counted.

Actually? Getting a good grade in friendship IS normal to want. AND it is even (would you believe it) possible to achieve. ask me how

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  1. Trust is a gift that is shaped and functioned precisely like a pomegranate seed. If you want it to grow, you have to work for it, and it takes time, but what you reap will be worth it.
  2. In order to grow as a person one must first be willing to snip off the wilted parts of you that no longer suit you.
  3. Being in love with someone means having to put up with them. Note that this is distinct with having to put up with their shit.
  4. Being approached by a friend while they feel vulnerable should be handled precisely like a semi-feral kitten. Make sure they feel safe, or they'll end up biting and clawing at everything near it. Or worse: running away.
  5. In the same way, when you are made vulnerable by friendship, try to remember that yes, your body gave you tooth and nail, but it also gave you hands and a heart.
  6. Hearing things you don't want to hear from those close enough to tell you them isn't a betrayal, it's a deepening of your connection to them. They trust you and your relationship with them enough that they feel safe to confront you about something.
  7. While you are not required to be a therapist, you are required to express empathy when needed. Please stop using the words "emotional labor" or I will have to dock you a letter grade!
  8. Tell those willing to drop everything for you how much that means to you and how grateful you are for them. Do not forget that just because a friend cannot drop everything for you does not mean they care less. Or else.
  9. Read Amber Skies by The Caretaker
  10. Maybe head?

replace empathy with compassion and/or sympathy and this is golden

No, actually. I'm a sociopath. I am not saying you have to feel empathy. Read my words. You are required to express empathy to those you love. If you are not willing to actively seek to understand a loved one's emotions and respond with compassion and sympathy, you're an asshole.

This morning, Buckingham Palace staff found Charles III in his bed chambers alive and well. My heart goes out to all the people of Britain who will be suffering due to this senseless tragedy

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Abolish the comic book industrial complex 🙂

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Artist Ron Wimberly (who used to be active on tumblr at @laabmagazine @d3-14) actually published a short comic called “Lighten Up” in 2015 about experiencing racism while working for Marvel:

IDs for the previous posts:

[A chart of human skin tones, arranged in rows descending from dark browns to palest pinks and beiges that could be called “white” tones. Text to the right labels the rows from top to bottom as follows: “comic character,” “After editor approval”, “after a few appearances”, “live action”, “Funko pop”.

[Screenshot of a 3/2/2022 tweet by viv/tommy @vivheart616 comparing two images of Afrolatina/Afroboricua Marvel character America Chavez with the text “what happened”. On the left is a cropped splashpage or cover by an unsourced artist, where America flies towards the viewer with her fists ready. She has medium-to-dark brown skin, and wavy black hair that curls at the ends, and full lips. To the right is the official Funko Pop based on the live action movies, where both the illustration of America and the Funko itself feature pale beige skintone, straight, flat black hair, and no mouth.]

Garden for CLIMATE RESISTENCE.

  • And don’t forget that native plants have co-evolved with native pollinators of all sorts, most of which are in huge trouble at this time.  Not only are they providing critical food as part of the reproductive cycle for many many many many native critters, they also provide nectar to an even larger group. Birds, whose populations are also crashing, rely on these insects to feed their young. Those ugly eastern tent caterpillars you’ll see here in the East? Are just ugly, don’t harm the tree, and provide crucial baby bird food.
  • Native plants, properly placed, are better adapted to local conditions than non-native ones. 

why are birds so cursed

A Non-Comprehensive List of Birds That Piss Me Off

1. Dracula Parrot. This thing pisses me off like, a bunch

2. King Vulture. the felted craft project equivalent of a haunted ventriloquist dummy

i will never not resent this bird 

 3. Jacana Bird. This is the most unnecessary cursed nonsense. i deserve an apology for having to look at this. I can feel its fingers stroking my ears

No it does not have SIX FREAKING LIMBS. it’s carrying its stupid creepy spawn under its wings. A+ parents but still, piss off. even the normal 2 legged version isn’t much better

put those AWAY.

4. The Shoebill, which i’m sure we’re all sick of hearing about. this thing is the epitome of a crappy photorealistic cgi disney villainy. i despise this bird.

also this is what they look like standing up. i just feel like i shouldn’t have to deal with that, i really do.

5. Inca Tern. truly, hipsters ruin everything

6. Tragopan. it looks like a star wars species, which i dislike on principle 

7. The Secretary Bird. it wears yoga pants.

also i’m uncomfortable with the length of its eyelashes

8. finally, i really dislike this one specific parakeet

in conclusion, these birds exist to haunt me and this knowledge is a burden. birds exist to observe our sin; always watching, they are filled with malice. flee from them

this was intended as an humorous post but based on replies some of u have been genuinely cursed i think

From another article i read today 😭

he wasn’t even there to be a contestant he joined the crew as a CHINESE TEACHER but the directors noticed his good looks and begged him to compete. poor guy made it to the finals and if he had been one of the winners he would have been contractually forced to be in a boy band whether he wanted to or not

this is the closest any human being has ever come to actually being sold to One Direction

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wincherlockedintardis

even with those four numbers there are countless possible combinations good luck with figuring out which one is the right one you punk

*straightens calculator*

It’s pretty likely that it’s a four digit number, and as there are four digits chosen there, that means that there cannot be any repetition. This mean that there are:

n!/(n-4)! possible orders. As ‘n’ is 4 (number of digits available). 4!/0! which becomes 4x3x2x1/1 which simplifies to 24. That means that there are 24 possible combinations of codes. This would take you about two or three minutes to input all possible codes.

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syd224

Unless an alarm goes off if you don’t get it right in 3 tries

*straightens calculator again*

Kick the fucking door in

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my-weeping-angel

well ‘technically’ the code is most likley 1970. statistically, a majority of people, when told to choose a 4 digit code will choose their birth year. and this key pad is obviously a few years old to put it nicely, thats most likley it. 

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everyonesfavoriteging

some sherlock holmes shit just went down over here

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heroscafe

No, no, no. Don’t base your deductions of psychology. Let’s talk chemistry. When you first press a button, there’s more of the natural oils on your skin, and therefore it wears down the numbers on the keys faster. Obviously 0 is the first one, then. Try 0791 first.

Sherlock out.

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perks-of-being-chinese

woah.

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trypophobic-canine

it got better

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twistedthicket1

and this is why the sherlock fandom could either rule the world or end it….

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the—superwholockian

Close, but not quite, I think. People will almost always choose a number they can remember. What’s memorable about 0791? Try 0719 - a birthday, 19th of July. That is more likely.

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badgerdash-cumberquat

Those deductions are great and all, but unnecessary.

The light is green.

The door is already open.

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winchester-kelly

And that’s why we have a John Watson.

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lotrlockedwhovian

This is “top 10 favorite posts” level.

Omg, it’s actually on my dash! This post is like a fossil!