bilionaires are so cool. this guy founded venmo by the way
the so-called blood boy stigma
yeah theres a stigma. stigma hypodermic needles in my teenage sons veins lol
saw this massive onion bigger than my entire hand in the produce aisle and immediately snatched it up solely to weigh it and a guy across the aisle asked how much it weighed because he was curious as well and when i told him it was two pounds he excitedly was like “it’s like the biggest one i’ve ever seen..” humanity rocks moment. bonding with strangers over giant onion
thankfully i was bold enough to take that step.. had i not arrived he would have never known… always had to wonder.. exactly two pounds btw
I'm moderately face-blind, scatterbrained, autistic, and very gullible, which as I work towards my goal of becoming a private investigator I am finding is rather advantageous cause by the time I've collected enough solid evidence to believe my own findings, I coincidentally *also* have enough evidence to convince a jury
I'm willing to act as though everything is true until someone fucks up and the more I do this the more I find that everyone who lies fucks up
Oh shit I'm becoming Columbo
on one hand more people should remember that the OP can always see their tags. on the other hand there is no tumblr experience quite like opening your notes and seeing someone fully and openly talking about their blood drinking kink at 8am on a tuesday
how grateful i am to not be a teenager during the era of tiktok
people saying they feel bad about reporting the new pornbots because the URLs are so good. i dont. i want to report them even harder. the URL pointless-soap needs to be liberated and reappropriated by the people
GUESS WHO'S FREE MOTHERFUCKERS
beedle repeatedly getting reincarnated along with link is genuinely so funny. his spirit is just destined to work in retail forever
i dont know if impa also gets reincarnated i always thought that impa was the name of an important historic sheikah figure so people often named their kids that like how we sometimes name our kids after like saints and other cultural figures n stuff. i just assumed it was like "yeah of course theres someone important named impa. impa is in the top ten most popular sheikah baby names every year"
Holy fucking shit
yeah I’d carry that one over too
Stuff like this hit's really close to home with me because I had an abusive paternal figure growing up. It's easy for you to assume that this is an outrageously extreme example that someone's prolly just blowing out of proportion; don't. Abusers often use tactics like this. It's about control and taking control away from their victims. This also means controlling the narrative, and controlling who the victim can talk to about their issues. The thing is, over issues like this, the best response is to assume the victim is being legit. Even if they're not, wishing them well won't have anywhere close to the same repercussions as assuming a legitimate victim of abuse is lying. I'm only saying this bit here because there are people in the notes of this post trying to play this entire post off as a hoax. I am talking to them personally now. You are not helping anyone except the abuser. The best-case scenario here is that you are a child who's never had to live with abuse. Because the worst-case scenario is that you yourself are an abuser. Either way, the best thing for you is to stop.
this this thiiiiis AND adding to clarify, one of the biggest signs of abuse is that it sounds fake. which is bizarre, i know, but it’s part of the control.
it’s hard to take abuse seriously even when it’s happening to you. abuse is terrifying, it’s seriously fucked up, so victims don’t want to think it’s real. this happens to everyone. it’s how the brain protects itself.
OP wants to believe that of course their husband is a rational good hearted person who just needs to understand tha water and lights cost money, they’re not hurting the OP on purpose, this is a misunderstanding. no one would do anything so bizarre deliberately, right? it’s unbelieveable. sounds fake.
and it sounds fake to other people, too. OP can’t tell the story without sounding like a crazy lying bitch. i guarantee you if she brought it up in front of a third party, her husband would deny that it’s happening.
that is the abuse. that is gaslighting. he is changing her perception of reality to one that he controls. he is saying, Bizarre and crazy bullshit will happen to you and you have to fucking accept it as normal, and if you dare to talk about it no one is gonna believe your story.
The only thing I can imagine that could explain this is that he's deliberately trying to make her think she's crazy. And it's working.
She needs to get out.
This is sometimes referred to as the “Trunchbull Method”, yes, like the horrifically abusive principal in Matilda.
She does it on purpose, and actually explains why in the book.
Essentially, if you are going to be abusive, she says you should go 150%. Really commit, be as wildly over the top as you can… that way, if your victim ever does get the courage to tell someone about it, what you did will sound so outlandish that no one will believe them.
“Our principal doesn’t like pigtails, so she picked a girl up by her hair and threw her over the fence.”
No parent would believe that… it’s too far. Surely no one would do that. (But if you know the story, you know it happened.)
“My husband leaves every light in the house on and every faucet running all day, and says that it’s literally impossible not to… and when I’ve tried to explain why it’s a problem, his excuse is that I’m not a mechanic, so he doesn’t have to.”
It sounds unbelievable… no one would be that stubborn and off-base, right? And most people who hear that won’t believe it. Which is how her husband wants it.
If he can break her down and make her doubt her own sense of reality and logic over something as trivial as a lightbulb, that leaves her wide open to manipulation on major issues like money, pregnancy, property.
The Trunchbull Method is insidious, especially when there’s no physical abuse and it’s just emotional/verbal. With the right conditioning, most of the victims don’t even see it as abuse.
Notice how she’s the sole member of the household with a job, that he’s mooching off her and has been for some time, and has been gaslighting her (while wasting hundreds of dollars, if not thousands) for months, to the point where she is genuinely wondering if she is insane…
…and even when people point out the abuse, she still firmly believes that it’s not? She wants to reach out for help, but she still feels guilty, because he tells her it’s her fault… and a part of her believes it.
This is exactly how this method of abuse works. When someone tells you what’s going on, and it sounds like abuse, calling them a liar or saying you don’t believe it will only ever help their abuser.
Believe them. Help them. Make sure they know you support them. Help to ground them in reality if you can, assure them that they aren’t crazy. That their thought process is rational.
example: “You’re right- turning off lights when you leave a room is very easy. And small children learn to turn off faucets when they’re done with them. You’re correct. His behavior doesn’t make sense, and neither does his excuse.”
Make sure they know you’re in their corner and will stand by them.
On average, it takes seven tries to leave an abusive relationship. Seven.
The more support a victim has, the faster that number goes down.
I was on amazon looking at chuck tingle books (batshit crazy gay romance novels) and an advertisement for cognitive behavioral therapy popped up 😭
How’s it feel to be the funniest person on tumblr?
Signs like these are community-changing. They reframe the whole verge.
Oh Yeonsoo as Lee Min Kyung and Jung Woo as Noh Hwi Oh
Mad for Each Other / 이 구역의 미친X (2021) dir. Lee Tae Gon
Unpopular opinion: not everything that makes you uncomfortable is bad. Sometimes discomfort means your worldview is being challenged. It’s okay to sit with discomfort and think about where it’s coming from.
How long does a hyperfixation usually last? I always thought I was weird because mine usually lasts between hours or days—very rarely for months. While others I’ve met usually say their hyperfixations lasted for months. Sorry if you’ve answered this already 🥺 happy holidays
Sent Jan ‘22~
They can last from days to months, sometimes even a few years. If one only lasts for hours at a time, that’s a hyperfocus rather than a hyperfixation.
The difference is that hyperfocus is a mental state - it’s an extreme focus that will last for hours at a time, and when you have to stop what you’re doing that focus breaks.
Whereas a hyperfixation doesn’t break when you stop doing the thing. It brings an emotional response because you get attached to the thing, and become obsessed with it.
(Eg. You can hyperfocus on cleaning your room for hours. You want to get it done, and you’re in the zone… and then you get interrupted to eat dinner and find it difficult to go back to it. There was never an obsessive need there to clean your room, you were just in the zone. Whereas if you hyperfixate on a game, or a book, you know you love it and are constantly thinking about when you can next play.)
