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The Waiting Place

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Headed, I fear, toward a most useless place. The Waiting Place...

ok this is important to me. gaslighting is not a synonym for lying. it’s a type of lying. if someone says to you “the sky is green,” that’s a lie. if you say “the sky is blue” and they respond “no, it’s green, you’re wrong, your eyes are playing tricks on you” THAT’S gaslighting. the crucial requirement is that they try to convince you not only that you are wrong but that you shouldn’t trust your own senses. that you’re imagining something/hallucinating/dreaming. the abuser is trying to make themselves more of an authority on reality than your own mind, often with the goal of making you reliant on them to tell you “truth” from “fiction.”

also a crucial part of gaslighting:

the gaslighter has to know they are giving you incorrect information.  they have to know, on some level, that they are manipulating you.  If someone is giving you bad information because THEY have bad information, because their eyes and ears and perception can’t be trusted, it’s important to know that.  That’s not gaslighting, it’s just the other person being wrong.  It does happen.

practice social distancing by going to one of those vampire castles where the vampire will encourage you to stay for dinner but you have to sit at opposite ends of an extremely long table

i wish everyone who makes up lore and intricate storylines for poorly written / under developed / side / minor characters a very pleasant evening 

predicted meme for later in the year: everybody saying “shit now I can do X because I’m vaccinated” when X is something entirely unrelated to the coronavirus

first meme wave: X is a completely outlandish or impossible thing. Like “shit now I can shapeshift again because I am vaccinated”

second meme wave: X is a completely mundane thing. Like “shit now I can put milk in my cereal again because I am vaccinated”

🧿all negative things wished upon me will be reflected back to the sender.

🧿postive things I profess will happen.

🧿I will receive the love, financial security, health, creativity, and transcendence I deserve.

🧿all negative people who view my blog will be healed or changed positively.

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