Candy System

friend inside me

"what about sex repulsed people who dont want to see kink or gay sexuality at pride?!" you have the entire rest of the world, man. almost every single other location at every single other time of year is devoid of gay sexuality. do you need literally 100% of your life to be gently padded for your comfort or can you let the dykes and fags have one fucking thing for one fucking day of the year

Internet Safety

i have to say, this comic kind of bothers me. it says it's about internet safety, but what it's actually SAYING is "don't have an nsfw alt" and "don't tell people your triggers". i don't know if it's intentional or not, but i'm getting puritan / anti-trigger-warning vibes here. very subtle, but it's there, so i'm going to object to it on those grounds

you are a fucking idiot

Internet Safety

Trans lesbian feminist Beth Elliot’s response to TERFs who attacked her at the West Coast Lesbian Conference, 1973 (x)

Since it’s LGBT history month it’s a good time to bring this back, with a minor correction- her surname is actually Elliott, with two t’s

Also here’s a photo of Beth from around the time she performed at the conference-

Back when TERFs were barely a thing, when as a movement they were only just coming into existence, one of the first trans woman to be confronted with their shit already looked at them and realized that TERFs make damn good fascists. It has been that obvious this whole time.

not only should more ppl know and remember this, more ppl should hear Beth’s music. it’s gorgeous.

she’s still alive btw, 73 and kickin. still writing and publishing and making music

there needs to be more kink and gay sex at pride b/c a lot of you need the lesson that something making you uncomfortable doesnt mean that its bad or that it should be hidden away. your discomfort is not the end of the fucking world and i promise you will survive the harrowing ordeal of seeing a man in leather

respectfully, no.

sure there can be space for kink and sex at pride in restricted areas.

showing off your leather gear in the parade is great, show it off. but please dont practice in the parade. ive seen that before and it does nothing but harm.

pride is basically the only place for queer youth to interact with their community. there are children at pride. they are underage. they can not consent. why is this so hard to understand.

there are people with sa trauma. you are hurting them.

there are lots of reasons that people should not have to explain to you why they do not consent to seeing kink and sex

you have to do it in areas of consent or you are not practicing safely.

if you are not practicing consent you are no better than a sex offender. pride is not an exception

pride needs to be a place of safety and accessibility.

I want to tell a story. Because not everyone had a "known lesbian agitator" for a mother pre-2000s, and I get that means I had a lot of awareness of things others my age may not have.

My region had a thriving queer community. It had been built up during the AIDS crisis as a mutual aid system to support those who got sick, their surviving loved ones, and the youth who were entering the community.

By the time I came around, we had cafes, we had nightclubs, and most importantly we had a youth center. The youth center wasn't explicitly queer only, but it was run and operated by the same community members that had taken on the task of sexual health education of young and vulnerable queer folks during the crisis. It was a great place. Gave kids a place to be that was safe, provided food, access to resources, social groups, sex ed, and a whole bunch of other stuff.

And then the propoganda came.

Endless discussions about how it was inevitable that any gay man interacting with a child was actually a child molester and any lesbian was corrupting the youth with promiscuity. People started looking at the commubity center. They started to whisper. They started to puff up their chests about how these *fetishists* were a danger to children, and you just KNEW it because they went to BDSM clubs in their private adult time, they talked about sex with kids and gave them condoms, they hosted family friendly pride events but they let boys dress like *sissies* I mean girls, and they let girls dress like *dykes* I mean boys.

Then we had the nerve to start asking for legal rights. And suddenly the broader community wasn't whispering anymore. Suddenly they were fucking RABID with it.

I was five years old in a protest march with other staff and their families from the center when a grown man hissed "dyke" at me and tried to grab me.

I was six when my auntie lost her job at the local middle school because someone found out she was living with a woman.

I was seven when the center finally shut down because there weren't enough people left who could/would staff it in light of the threat from the community.

I was ten when our favorite cafe shut down, and with it went the queer book club, the queer AA meetings, the political salons, and the last critical piece of infrastructure in our little underground system of care died when its doors closed.

My mother had been involved (and even run) a lot of these events, systems, and programs. She took in a lot of kids while they got on their feet after being kicked out.

She did her best to fund the programs she could with her salary from IBM, as well as from the profits of her selling BDSM erotica to others on what would become the internet but was at the time a specialized system with restricted access. She called in every favor she had from her days as the BDSM Queen of the Castro back rooms to try and keep these places running. When every other queer person in our community had given up hope, were too afraid of what would happen if they kept showing up, the people from her kink days were willing to step up.

And with every single one of them who stepped up to bat, the rumblings in the community got louder and liuder. It was proof they said, that we were all predators and child molestors. The fact that so many of our reinforcements were known "degenerates".

But they were our reinforcements because they were often the only ones of us who knew they could survive/handle shit if the broader community decided to do a hate crime on them for trying to preserve the infrastructure we had built for queer youth.

They were our reinforcements because they loved those kids and wanted to keep them safe and they knew without them we couldn't.

So whenever I hear the implication that allowing the kinksters of our community to be visible at pride is "taking spaces away from LGBT youth" I hear nothing but a middle aged man hissing "dyke as his fingers close around my wrist. I hear nothing but police raids on a youth center whose only crime was treating queer adults and children with dignity. I hear nothing but Bruce's quiet sobs and the whispered reassurance from his husband when they locked up the cafe for the last time. I hear nothing but the assertion that it doesn't matter whether we bled, fought, or died for your right to feel accepted and safe in the world if we did it while handing out orange juice and condoms at the monthly fetish party in their off time.

Simply put. It don't sound any different to me than the people who destroyed our queer youth spaces on purpose out of bigotry. I'm sorry. That will not change.

there needs to be more kink and gay sex at pride b/c a lot of you need the lesson that something making you uncomfortable doesnt mean that its bad or that it should be hidden away. your discomfort is not the end of the fucking world and i promise you will survive the harrowing ordeal of seeing a man in leather

for every whiny fucking pearl-clutching response to this post im sucking off another dude on the bank of america float

catgirl hours

eye contact is extremely difficult for me. please look at my tits instead

Yes, Frank! Fossil fuels are hurting people and the planet. It is a bit like the movie Coraline (good comparison, Frank) but it is also more like the planet is in danger because corporate profits are considered more important than life, every bit of fossil fuel burnt is doing irreparable harm, you see. I’m very sad and angry about it! What do you think I should do with these feelings?

I don’t really understand the comparison with Coraline at all but yes, I do want people to stop burning fossil fuels, just like I want people to stop putting lead in the drinking water (in spite of the studies that say this isn’t a problem).

And I think that the best way to do this is a more indirect one where the fossil fuels are not produced in the first place. For instance, I think it’s a pretty good idea to promote research into solar power and nuclear power, if for no other reason than these things would be more available and we would be producing less carbon per unit energy.

What the world looks like

This is what the world looks like

I would never say this

I’m glad you choose your mutuals well, Frank.

#if you like this post you must be one of my mutuals is definitely the kind of post I would make about myself

Frank, you’re sending mixed information right now.

There’s a special place reserved for people who send mixed information

*wink*

What?

mi español es español 😌

you speak spanish? you’re so cool. do you smoke?

twirls hair haha yeah. do you want to hold hands

hold hands. (i like to put my hands on your face or shoulders and stare at your eyes while you do this, you’ll like it, you’re probably thinking about how beautiful i am, aren’t you, you don’t like it at all when I’m not looking like that, but I’ll keep doing this to you anyway because i think you’re beautiful and i love you)

The hard truth about autism acceptance that a lot of people don't want to hear is that autism acceptance also inherently requires acceptance of people who are just weird.

And yes, I mean Those TM people. Middle schoolers who growl and bark and naruto run in the halls. Thirtysomethings who live with their parents. Furries. Fourteen-year-olds who identify as stargender and use neopronouns. Picky eaters. Adults in fandoms. People who talk weird. People who dress weird.

Because autistic people shouldn't have to disclose a medical diagnosis to you to avoid being mocked and ostracized for stuff that, at absolute worst, is annoying. Ruthlessly deriding people for this stuff then tacking on a "oh, but it's okay if they're autistic" does absolutely nothing to help autistic people! Especially when undiagnosed autistic people exist.

Like it or not, if you want to be an ally to autistic people, you're going to have to take the L and leave eccentric, weird people alone. Even if you don't know them to be autistic. You shouldn't be looking for Acceptable Reasons to be mean to people in the first place. Being respectful should be the default.

This reminds me of that global warming comic, like

miss piggy puts up with so much as a woman in show business and her response to misogyny is never to turn the other cheek or take the high road. it’s to physically attack people. and she’s right.

I have absolutely no idea what this is from or any context whatsoever, but I cannot stop laughing