me? both avoiding and craving attention? you bet
“I hate the sound of my voice. And the way I look when I laugh. I hate the sound of my laugh too. I hate the way I walk and my body posture. I hate my body itself and how I look in the mirror. I hate the way I talk and the words I choose, how I talk too much and nonsense or not at all. I hate the way I eat or the fact that I eat. I hate what I think and what runs through my mind. I hate what runs through my veins too and how I feel. I hate how I hate myself: too deeply, too truly, too much to even normally function.”
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If somebody wears black every day, nobody cares. If somebody wears yellow every day, that’s weird.
Jamie Dornan > Elle (2015)
A Response to:
You CANNOT serve from an empty vessel but go off I guess
OP what does this mean?
When your friends are hungry, you cannot serve them from an empty breadbasket, no matter how good your intentions. When they're thirsty, you cannot serve them from an empty pitcher, no matter the effort you put in.
We have to stock ourselves with good things before we are able to give them away, and if we are too exhausted to make bread, we must rest before we can make it to serve our friends. If we are too hungry to serve, we must eat some bread ourselves first.
It's a metaphor for emotional exhaustion. When we wear ourselves down it makes it difficult or impossible to help the people around us, and all the effort and good intentions in the world can't make up for the fact that our vessels are empty. It's hard to not want to serve when our friends are in trouble, but trying to serve from an empty vessel often leaves both of you floundering.
On the contrary, when we care for ourselves and are kind to our body and mind, we are full vessels, and serving the people around us becomes easier. That's why it's important to take time for ourselves once in a while, to refill ourselves with good things.
In the event of a sudden pressure change, put on your own oxygen mask before helping a companion with theirs if needed.
I have never seen this concept so perfectly and eloquently articulated.
You cannot serve from an empty vessel.
“You know, missing someone can sometimes be the best thing for a writer.”
— Lang Leav, Sad Girls (via books-n-quotes)
(18+)
When you walk through a grocery store and they are playing good music. You have become their target demographic.
never stop being a good person because of bad people






