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i fucking hate to make an ace discourse post in 20 fucking 20 but it really needs to be said and i KNOW this is gonna come off as a smarmy “i told you so post”

but i’ve been on twitter recently and there is a fucking DELUGE of people promoting the idea of “bisexual lesbians” (never bisexual gay men but like… that’s a tangential dialogue for another time). this idea that you can be bisexual and a lesbian at the same time is a direct product of the split attraction model.

this is the EXACT shit i was talking about when I said rhetoric from ace community is not compatible, at all, with the LGBT community.

sexualizing the -sexual suffix so “bisexual” SOLELY means “SEXUALLY attracted to the opposite gender” so someone can be bisexual and “homoromantic” is ACTIVELY harmful to lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals. it sexualizes bisexuals without consent and COMPLETELY redefines what gayness is so it can include attraction to the “opposite” gender.

and this is just one example of how ace inclusion–not just the inclusion of cisgender, straight aces but also the prioritization of ace ideals–hurts the LGBT community. the rhetoric that you can have sex with people you aren’t attracted to to “make it work” romantically is conversion therapy rhetoric. Ace inclusion makes it seem like the LGBT community is about our relationships to sex when that just isn’t true. Ace inclusion means “desexualizing” LGBT spaces so as not to upset asexuals. All this shit AND MORE is happening in real time and I’ve watched it get worse and worse, hand in hand with the commercialization of LGBT pride and the liberalization of LGBT activism.

ace rhetoric is eroding LGBT identities. the idea of the “bisexual lesbian” and other mogai microidentities where you parse every single aspect of your identity into a different label is actively harming vulnerable LGBT people.

and, no, this isn’t me saying “even LGBT aces have to go,” but this is me saying that putting ace identities at the forefront of ANY LGBT discussions leaves a lot of space for harm for LGBT people. and that any fucking ace rhetoric besides “it’s okay to not feel sexual attraction or want to have sex” comes at the expense of LGBT identity.

genuinely, the concept of “bisexual lesbian” is a direct product of the ace community and it has caused lesbians and bisexual women irreparable harm. and aces should be ashamed of this because this is what they have been defending for years.

this is the EXACT shit we said would come out of the split attraction model and now we have TEENAGERS telling strangers and adults “i’m sexually attracted to [x genders] but only romantically into [y]” and y’all think this is okay. even if it weren’t fucking INSANE to say lesbians can be attracted to men or that bisexuals can be half gay or half straight, you’d STILL be out of fuckng line having KIDS center identities around SOLELY sexual attraction.

i’m ripshit pissed

i am saying this with everything i have–there is NOTHING positive to come out of the ace community that couldn’t have been identically accomplished by simply saying “you don’t ever have to want sex, you don’t owe anyone sex, it’s okay to not sexually desire anyone” which is shit feminism has already been doing.

*Help a Black&Brown lgbt couple move across country!!!*

Hey everyone, I haven’t updated our about our situation in a while for several reasons, mostly mental health wise, and my partner’s complex employment. For those who dont know Im a Black 2S lesbian and my partner @honeybearbutch IS a Mexican trans woman, both of us are disabled, have struggled through abuse, and poverty but now Xochitl and I have a very real chance to finally being able to live together like we had planned pre rona. They have a friend who is willing and able to drive across country to help us be together! We are going for it but we really need more funds to complete this safely. It’s going to be almost 5k miles total and 9+ nights, i’ve gone over how much it’s going to be for gas, hotel/bnb, food, and living expense for when i get to Michigan and we don’t have that money because lots of the money we have been rasing on gofundme (over 3k) has gone to just keeping us alive during the pandemic. We are checking in with my partner’s friend to see what they need in terms of cost/accommodations like gas, and minor repairs, but from what i’ve already calculated what we need is pushing almost 4K, and obviously we don’t need it all upfront but I NEED to book this airbnb before xmas and the festive cold season. We have enough to book the airbnb now but then i would have exactly 3 dollars left, so you see our problem. We need 1,600 soon out of the toal by DEC 18! to cover the costs that we have now for moving me across country, this includes getting new scripts/meds refills x3 months, getting documents, getting storage/downsizing and a lot more. I don’t want to go into the red right now because thats more money i dont have. I really need this to happen, so we can be together and leave behind our toxic situations/our toxic families and actually be openly trans and gay together. We finally have a chance to make our lives the ones we want to live. So if you wanna help us everything shared and donated (esp direct donations!) is deeply appreciated.

***GOFUNDME LINK!!! $7,977/$15,000***

My cashapp/venmo: $sleepyhen , @sleepyhen 

Xochi’s cashapp/venmo: $grumblybear , @XochiRose

💜💜💜Thank you!!! 💜💜💜

We just had to spend quite a bit of money (over $500) on moving essentials, and ppe if anyone can help out it would be much appreciated as we are currently unable to work!!! 

ASÉ

Help me move my girlfriend cross country!!!!

Hello everyone!!!

A lot has happened in the past week or so, long story short, me (@honeybearbutch) and my girlfriend (@800-dick-pics) finallyhave a chance to move in together!!!!

A friend of mine has agreed to drive me across the country to pick my girlfriend up from California and bring them back here to my home state of Michigan to stay at an air bnb we have booked while we take more steps toward acheiving our goal of getting me away from my abusive family, my friend has agreed to pay for the cost of gas but aside from that we need urgent help covering the cost of

As well as miscellaneous expenses and also just so we have money to save and use when we need since we both cant work during the pandemic.

We are currently at $8297 of our $15000 gofundme goal (seen here) and we appreciate every donation weve gotten since our situation has become more urgent

However, since it takes gofundme a minimum of 2 days to process donations and they take a percentage of the money we heavily suggest direct donations to either of our cashapps and venmos to help us more immediately!!!

My Cashapp: $grumblybear

My Venmo:XochiRose

Girlfriends Venmo and Cashapp:

$sleepyhen

V: sleepyhen

Thank you so much in advance for your consideration and support!!!! 💖

Please help a happy couples dreams come true!!!! Youll be saving lives!!!

i believe in making spaces and things non accessible to white and non black people. i believe in gatekeeping black culture. we dont owe anyone anything. not even friendliness that a lot white folk seem to think theyre entitled to from us like yall are owed nothing. and you never will be.

-featherless

-biped

This is a man

Just because I'm up thinking at 3:33am

Go ahead and reblog to share that wealth. Good morning, y'all!!!

claiming this 🧿

Help me avoid homelessness!!!

Hey Im Raz just a 23 black gnc bi chronically ill person whos going to be homeless on January 1st 2021!!!

Ive been in and out of homelessness since I wss 15, and after my abusive ex boyfriend kicked me out in 2019 I have been living with some closeted racist. At first they were nice all nice at first but now theyre being openly anti black and ableist to me. They have eaten my food, stole and hid my mail and destroyed my clothes. The couple I also live with are doing hard drugs, have been threatening over doing it and have brought their dealer to intimidate me. Im not safe here. Im unable to work durring the pandemic so we agreed that my rent would be reduced and after my savings ran dry a semi sypathetic roomie helped me out but after I corrected them on my pronouns and pointed out their anti blackness bias they no longer are willing to help me.

Im the only black person/poc here and they all recently agreed to kick me out and charge me FULL RENT! for Nov-Dec and half rent for Oct. I need to also get food and get medication, I am chronically with allergies so I need this things badly

thankfully theyre ok with me paying Oct rent late or with Nov rent $800 total, because I dont have any of it right now. i need $250 worth of medication, and $150 for food. I have one friend who has offered me to move in (so please no dm offers), we have some plans for later but as of right now I need

$1,275 Total

$800 - Rent

$250 - Medication

$150 - Food

$75 -Phone

please help me! I dont have any non homophobic family to turn to for help or support

my venmo is razzberri

thanks!💚✌🏽

$35 / $1,275

ive only gotten 50 more dollars please help!

*Help a Black&Brown lgbt couple move across country!!!*

Hey everyone, I haven’t updated our about our situation in a while for several reasons, mostly mental health wise, and my partner’s complex employment. For those who dont know Im a Black 2S lesbian and my partner @honeybearbutch IS a Mexican trans woman, both of us are disabled, have struggled through abuse, and poverty but now Xochitl and I have a very real chance to finally being able to live together like we had planned pre rona. They have a friend who is willing and able to drive across country to help us be together! We are going for it but we really need more funds to complete this safely. It’s going to be almost 5k miles total and 9+ nights, i’ve gone over how much it’s going to be for gas, hotel/bnb, food, and living expense for when i get to Michigan and we don’t have that money because lots of the money we have been rasing on gofundme (over 3k) has gone to just keeping us alive during the pandemic. We are checking in with my partner’s friend to see what they need in terms of cost/accommodations like gas, and minor repairs, but from what i’ve already calculated what we need is pushing almost 4K, and obviously we don’t need it all upfront but I NEED to book this airbnb before xmas and the festive cold season. We have enough to book the airbnb now but then i would have exactly 3 dollars left, so you see our problem. We need 1,600 soon out of the toal by DEC 18! to cover the costs that we have now for moving me across country, this includes getting new scripts/meds refills x3 months, getting documents, getting storage/downsizing and a lot more. I don’t want to go into the red right now because thats more money i dont have. I really need this to happen, so we can be together and leave behind our toxic situations/our toxic families and actually be openly trans and gay together. We finally have a chance to make our lives the ones we want to live. So if you wanna help us everything shared and donated (esp direct donations!) is deeply appreciated.

***GOFUNDME LINK!!! $7,977/$15,000***

My cashapp/venmo: $sleepyhen , @sleepyhen 

Xochi’s cashapp/venmo: $grumblybear , @XochiRose

💜💜💜Thank you!!! 💜💜💜

For those who have trouble reading that:

Imagine being a black, gay drag queen in the 1800s after being born into enslavement AND having the style and cachè to throw soirées that the girls had to come to! That’s why I don’t want to hear this “we’re not our ancestors stuff.” You’re right!

From The Very Black Project Page- William Dorsey Swann was a gay liberation activist. Born into slavery in 1858, he was the first person in the United States to lead a queer resistance group and the first known person to self-identify as a “queen of drag”. Imagine the queenery of this icon.

He was a slave in Hancock, Maryland and was freed by Union soldiers after the Emancipation Proclamation went into effect. During the 1880s and 1890s, he organized a series of balls in Washington, D.C. He called himself the “queen of drag”. Most of the attendees his gatherings were men who were former slaves, and were gathering to dance in their satin and silk dresses. William was arrested in police raids numerous times,including in the first documented case of arrests for female impersonation in the United States, on April 12, 1888. In 1896, he was falsely convicted and sentenced to 10 months in jail for “keeping a disorderly house” (running a brothel). After his sentencing, he requested a pardon from President Grover Cleveland. This request was denied, but but he was the first American on record who pursued legal and political action to defend the LGBTQ community’s right to gather.

He was known to have been close with Pierce Lafayette and Felix Hall, two men who had also both been slaves and who formed the first known male same-sex relationship between enslaved Americans.

When William stopped organizing and participating in drag events, his brother continued to make costumes for the drag community. Two of his brothers had also been active participants in his drag balls.

Imagine how intelligent and ambitious this man had to be to come up with drag balls in the 1800s! Imagine how many terrible concepts he had to unlearn by himself to be a confident gay black man who does drag in the 1800s! Imagine how courageous he had to be to fight for lgbt people as a former slave in America in the 1800s!

William Dorsey Swann is the original queen, the original drag mother, the original activist. Tell his story!

Y'know as much as I don't support "bi lesbian" with how many times lesbians tell bi women their oppression isn't real and they're not welcome to use the terms they've historically had alongside lesbians, I'm starting to see why some people want "the best of both worlds" and won't pick one label or the other. I'm not trying to blame lesbians for the start of "bi lesbian", just pointing out a realization I had.

Help me avoid homelessness!!!

Hey Im Raz just a 23 black gnc bi chronically ill person whos going to be homeless on January 1st 2021!!!

Ive been in and out of homelessness since I wss 15, and after my abusive ex boyfriend kicked me out in 2019 I have been living with some closeted racist. At first they were nice all nice at first but now theyre being openly anti black and ableist to me. They have eaten my food, stole and hid my mail and destroyed my clothes. The couple I also live with are doing hard drugs, have been threatening over doing it and have brought their dealer to intimidate me. Im not safe here. Im unable to work durring the pandemic so we agreed that my rent would be reduced and after my savings ran dry a semi sypathetic roomie helped me out but after I corrected them on my pronouns and pointed out their anti blackness bias they no longer are willing to help me.

Im the only black person/poc here and they all recently agreed to kick me out and charge me FULL RENT! for Nov-Dec and half rent for Oct. I need to also get food and get medication, I am chronically with allergies so I need this things badly

thankfully theyre ok with me paying Oct rent late or with Nov rent $800 total, because I dont have any of it right now. i need $250 worth of medication, and $150 for food. I have one friend who has offered me to move in (so please no dm offers), we have some plans for later but as of right now I need

$1,275 Total

$800 - Rent

$250 - Medication

$150 - Food

$75 -Phone

please help me! I dont have any non homophobic family to turn to for help or support

my venmo is razzberri

thanks!💚✌🏽

$35 / $1,275

ive only gotten 50 more dollars please help!

If you haven’t heard there’s a recently-launched campaign to support the remaining 15 lesbian bars in the U.S., which are all struggling even more than usual during COVID. Check out the link below to donate to Lesbian Bar Project!

Which Isopod Are You?

Made a quiz :)

please watch this i cant stop thinking about it

if she was a boy her name would b eaarl/no it wouldnt/yes it would

If you’re genuinely interested in learning more about settler colonialism and answering questions like “wait what does land back look like?” “What can I do?” and “What are the contexts informing this and why do Indigenous people reject being part of the US/Canada?” there are free syllabi online which can answer these questions (they will not answer it directly, the point is to get you to think for yourself and ask more questions that can lead you to thinking more deeply about this and how you can personally take action towards better practices of solidarity) 

Here’s the Standing Rock Syllabus: 

https://nycstandswithstandingrock.wordpress.com/standingrocksyllabus/

Allyship and Solidarity Guidelines of Unsettling America:

https://unsettlingamerica.wordpress.com/allyship/

Towards Decolonization and Settler Responsibility:

https://unsettlingamerica.wordpress.com/2016/10/04/towards-decolonization-and-settler-responsibility-reflections-on-a-decade-of-indigenous-solidarity-organizing/

Sample Syllabi of the DEcolonization Resource Collection:

https://nationalhistorycenter.org/decolonization-resource-collection-sample-syllabi/

Further Readings:

https://decolonization.wordpress.com/decolonization-readings/

These are limited resources that mainly deal with North America and English-speaking countries, because that’s the context I am coming from. If you have resources from other regions and other languages, I welcome them here, or anything from your local context. 

Accomplices Not Allies:

indigenousaction.org/accomplices-not-allies-abolishing-the-ally-industrial-complex

Autonomously And With Conviction:

itsgoingdown.org/autonomously-and-with-conviction-a-metis-refusal-of-state-led-reconciliation/

can’t believe boris johnson is going to be the first world leader to contract covid twice

This is my favorite way of receiving info