What the hell is it with some hearing people with auditory processing disorder claiming that it makes them deaf/HoH?

I mean the issues with that idea seem so obvious on its face that no one should be able to make this mistake, or at least should be able to see the error once it has been pointed out.

You can be both but having auditory processing disorder in no way makes you deaf/HoH.

Trust me, I know that audio processing disorder is a disability, but that does not make that claim any less ableist.

I would like to think that none of these people have ever interacted with a deaf/HoH person, but I know better than to think that.

Can I ask why you think it's ableist specifically? It doesn't take away resources from the deaf/HoH; it might actually make accommodations like captioning more widely available, if anything. They're not claiming to be part of capital-D Deaf culture.

As someone who's been profoundly, bilaterally deaf from a very young age...why is it problematic to unofficially classify auditory processing disorders as HoH? Difficulty hearing and communicating is a shared experience for both disabilities. Sure, maybe "deaf" is the wrong technical term in this case since they CAN hear, but is there a rigid definition for hard-of-hearing? Does the fact my hearing aids boost my hearing back to sub-average levels make me no longer deaf/HoH?

I've known a handful of people with auditory processing disorders who refer to themselves as HoH just to make their life easier. The average person doesn't have a ton of patience to listen to someone explain the ins and outs of their disability and how they need the person to accommodate them. The average person understands hard-of-hearing means speak slowly/louder, be patient--because generic hearing loss is commonplace. Auditory processing disorders aren't as colloquially known.

Life is difficult enough with disabilities as it is. Let's not gatekeep based on technicalities.

Yeah sometimes I don’t even bother to name it, I just say I have hearing problems and could they face me when they speak because I lip read, also I might have to ask them to repeat something but I’m listening I promise. Saying APD has people going “oh is that something you’re born with? Does it get better? Does that mean you’re deaf?” And then even though you say no, they still introduce you as deaf to people. You might as well say you’re HoH, cause people will decide that’s what it means anyway.

also, if you say auditory processing disorder, a lot of people like to do the “we’re all a little like that!” Thing where they’re like “I know, I’m so bad with names!” No Sharon I mean that if you tell me to buy eggs I’m going to ask what I need to buy another 6 times. People trivialize processing disorders, and it’s far more easily avoided if you just say HoH and get it over with.

We need to go back to using sailing ships full time like immediately. Yes it would take longer to get places but the Aesthetic is unmatched

Like there is nothing sexier hthan this

Can’t wait for OP to get scurvy

Are you under the impression that the ships themselves are what caused scurvy

Once again. Do you think this is the fault of the ships themselves

when i say i like hiking, i don’t mean “eight mile backpacking trip with special gear and an emergency beacon” sort of hiking, i mean a three mile loop to go look at pretty things and then a huge brunch after.

this is in no way a slam on hardcore hiking, it’s very fun, but i mostly just need to lower people’s expectations when i say hiking is a hobby of mine

Even three miles is very hard if you're not already fit and active. I always think that many parks and reserves need to have some shorter and more accessible trails for people who have disabilities or are elderly or are just not accustomed to that level of physical activity. The joys of experiencing nature should not be limited to young, healthy, able-bodied people in good-to-excellent shape.

It's genuinely bizarre to me that there are people out there who are like, competitive and hardcore about hiking. "I only go on nice walks outside on NIGHTMARE difficulty like a REAL GAMER."

Would you also feel the need to prove your superior prowess and tolerance for suffering when listening to your favorite music and getting a nice massage and going to a candy shop where everything is free? I don't understand.

There are people in the notes claiming that 8 miles is just a slightly longer short loop to go look at pretty things.

Are you shitting me right now? The last time I hiked more than 5 or 6 miles, I and my friend were out on the trails for six hours. What are y'all even doing?!

8 miles is almost 13 kilometers. That is definitely a full-day-long hike, I guess you could do it faster if you didn't bother looking at or investigating any plants or animals along the way, but that's just depressing.

Nothing wrong with being a slower walker and I encourage all to hike as much as is possible for them. But I really think you have to have perspective that 3mph is a pretty casual pace for a lot of people. That pits 8 miles at less than 3 hours. Give that another hour or even 2 for chilling at pretty places and whilst that's a short day planned out, the sort of thing you'd plan if you also have other stuff to do, it's not exactly extreme. I really can't imagine calling anything less than 16 miles extreme. Like idk you really don't need any kind of special equipment for an 8 mile hike if you're not in some dangerous area.

I mean sure, on flat pavement with minimal slope? But just about any hike is going to be over rougher terrain than that, and if you're going up and down steep hills the whole time (as with anywhere in the Appalachian foothills let alone the mountains proper) it's a whole different beast.

Also being able to walk 1 mile at 3 mph is totally different than being able to walk 8 miles at 3 mph. I'm able bodied myself and in good shape, but I'd like to know wtf people's benchmark for what "most people" can do is.

Like I couldn't take my mom or dad on an 8 mile hike. They're not sedentary or disabled, they're just both over 50. I couldn't take my brother, who has asthma. I definitely couldn't take my Mamaw, who is in great shape for her age, but she's over 70. I couldn't take any friend who doesn't exercise much:

2-3 straight hours of relatively strenuous cardio in the heat while carrying water and stuff will fuckin' obliterate most people who haven't specifically been building up to handling that kind of activity. That exceeds the recommended amount of daily exercise many times over, and a large share of people aren't even that active.

Maybe it's just a regional thing. As I said, going up and down steep rolling hills and bouldery bluffs for any number of miles is punishing, and in the summer it's going to be extremely humid and hot.

Okay this is totally a regional thing! Most public footpaths in the UK are pretty flat where possible, and well trodden - there's some nearly a millennium old! Even hiller places, there's probably only a few horribly steep bits, and after them that's where you'd stop for a bit. Even when I've gone up to Yorkshire it's not been two bad, but yeah progress is definitely slower. It's pretty moderate weather, the worst it gets is really rainy or too hot in a heatwave maybe a couple times a year. I've totally been on hikes for 8 miles in these conditions with 50 and 70 year old relatives, but I imagine where you are that wouldn't be possible!

...okay that clarifies where the difference is, the trails I'm used to are like this and it goes up and down and up and down and up and down, usually there's long stretches that are much more like climbing stairs than walking on a flat surface

(also when I hiked at the place in this pic (which had both easier and tougher areas) it was 87 degrees Fahrenheit and humid as fuck. I drank two 24-ounce water bottles and when we got back to the trailhead i was still so dehydrated i was pissing a dark amber color)

I’m disabled. When I say hiking is painful and dangerous to me, I am talking about a 3 mile loop on mostly level ground, mostly shaded, with some parts of the path paved. That “hike” would take me 4 hours to do comfortably and safely. my family loves hardcore hiking. They make me do it for birthdays, holidays, etc. it fucking sucks, and people need to get off their hiking high horse.

Crows are scary They

Guys I’m really scared of crows now. (q) 

Yeah but have you seen this 

A colleague of my dad’s lives next to a lake, and looked out the window one morning to see a duck trapped in the ice. A crow swooped down. “Oh hell,” she thought, expecting carnage, because crows are opportunists. But the crow chipped at the ice with its beak until the duck was free.

Idk of this counts but a few crows saved me from a magpie swooping attack once ,they’re bros who can tell when magpies are being unreasonable and need to chill

I love crows so damn much. When I was fifteen, I hit a pretty serious bout of depression, to the point I was in my room for months. Well, a family of crows made a nest in a tree outside my window. There were two parents and two chicks. One chick was healthy and strong. One was weak, and had a caw like something being strained. It sounded more like a rooster crowing and so my parents jokingly named him ‘Buck’.Well… months passed and Buck’s sibling was taught to fly. His parents focused on the sibling because the sibling was strong. The father stayed behind to try and teach Buck, but I saw him try to fly, fail, and crash to the floor. His father helped him back up into the tree.

Every day, I would watch Buck from my window until one day I opened it and started talking to him. He was small and gangly and he couldn’t caw right. His feathers were all over the place and I felt a kinship. So I made a deal with him. I told him that if he could do it, if he could fly, then I could find the strength to get up. Well… near the end of the season, after talking with him every day, I finally saw him get out of the nest. He went to the edge of his branch, braced himself, and jumped… and just before he hit the ground, he soared back up into the sky. I cheered harder than I ever had before.

That winter, Buck left the area. I was crestfallen. I felt like I’d lost a friend. But I was so damn proud of him. 

Cut to the next spring? I’m walking up the driveway one day when suddenly I hear a sound… a broken caw. I look up, and Buck is sitting in a tree above my head. He stared at me and puffed his feathers, then hopped down in front of me and cawed again. I was so damn thrilled, and I told him how proud I was of him. He ruffled his feathers and then soared off into his old tree. 

That summer? I heard two broken caws. One from Buck… and one from his chick.

Cut to ten years later? We have a family of crows who all have a very distinct caw and they come here and spend every spring, summer, and fall on our property. Buck still greets me every spring.

that last reply made me wanna cry. that’s so beautiful.

Don’t forget the Russian Crow SLEDDING DOWN A ROOF not once, but twice. 

this one morning i kept hearing really loud caws, i remember it was like 5am, LIKE REALLY LOUD AND ANNOYING AND AGGRESSIVE, so loud that i could hear it through a closed window, and i eventually went outside to check it out. there was a crow on my front lawn, it had an injury on its head and couldn’t fly and there were two other crows circling right above it, and they were cawing like mad. 

i tried to get close and take a better look and one of them dived super low and tried to attack me. so i went back in the house and chopped some sliced raw meat and tossed it at him from a distance.

a few more times later, very soon after, they could tell i was trying to help, and did not attack me. i was “allowed” to walk up close and pick him up, he couldn’t drink water properly so i had to dip my finger in a bowl and stick it in his mouth.

i did this few times a day and it went on for about a week before he disappeared, i thought he recovered and left, but he came back the next day and lands on me, and i see him around the block quite often, and he would come sit on my shoulder for a few minutes and then fly away again. i feel like i’ve adopted a son.

Best birbs !!

your son is Beautiful and Strong

every time I see this post it has different crow stories and every time I reblog it again because all crow stories are good stories

Like, I wouldn’t want to be on bad terms with a crow, but they are a really smart animal, they aren’t scary You just want to be nice to them because they will know and they will remember, and they will pay you back if you treat them a certain way.

As a side note, I volunteered at a rehab (Hope for Wildlife), where they were rehabbing a crow with a broken wing–who was named Russell Crow. He kept pulling his bandage off so a sleeve was cut off some old clothing and put on him like a little sweater. 

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I don’t think I’ll ever not reblog this. This posts makes me cry and smile at the same time.

He’s so handsome!!

I would trust a crow with my life

This is your regularly scheduled crow appreciation post

many east indians respect crows and lowkey worship them and now i know why :)

fucking superb you funky little death omens

Damn now I want a crow

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I've been collecting these for a few weeks and I NEED MORE

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You know the Grimm version of Snow White makes more sense than most versions if only because in that version Snow White was like 7 years old.

Like imagine you find a 7 year old in the woods and she’s like my mom is gonna kill me because I’m prettier than her and she’s not kidding. You know this queen is that sort of person. So you and your roommates adopt the kid and tell her don’t talk to strangers. And she keeps talking to strangers and getting poison combs stuck in her hair and whatnot.

Like yeah that’s kinda stupid but also she’s seven. She likes apples.

Also imagine it from the hunter’s perspective. The queen tells you this bitch is prettier than me I need you to take her out in the woods and kill her. And then you see who you’re supposed to kill and it’s a 2nd grader. Like how are you supposed to react to that sort of situation? Kill a human child? No. Because you’re not a brainless evil minion you’re just some guy dealing with a cartoonishly evil monarch. Of course you let her go.

Bad look for the Prince of course. Even if she did age while she was in that glass case. He saw a dead woman and just decided to keep her. And once she stopped being dead he was like we’re married now

He did cause the evil queen to dance to death in red hot shoes though. That was kinda cool.

With the acknowledgement that I'm grasping at straws, is it ever directly confirmed that the Prince wasn't also 7?

See, I think that still works.

You are the guardsman assigned to protect the eight-year-old Prince. You are currently in the middle of the forest because he absolutely had his heart set on "going hunting", and the royal second-grader should definitely not be traipsing around the woods on his own. You let him go a little on ahead and he comes running back talking about how there's a dead girl in the clearing and there's no-one else around and he wants to take her home because she's really pretty, Hans, and she's all alone!

You let him drag you to said clearing and okay, that is one angelic-looking dead child alright, and on the one hand the quality of her clothes and the craftsmanship on the coffin (who builds a see-through coffin?) speak to potential Consequences if you simply carry her off, but also for the amount of vines that have grown on the coffin she looks extraordinarily un-decayed, so you should probably get the court alchemist's opinion on that, and there's no way he's going to come all the way out here in his embroidered velvet curly-shoes. And also this kid is technically assigned by God as your natural superior, or something.

So fine. You hoist the coffin onto your shoulder (it's not like the Prince can do it. He's eight.) and head back toward the castle, Prince chattering blithely all the way. And then you turn your ankle on a rock and suddenly there's a thump and a cough and a lot of shouting from inside the coffin and you have now become a key player in a tense political incident with the next kingdom over.

You should probably ask for a raise.

was anyone going to tell me that the pope's dressmaker posts dick and cock on instagram or was i supposed to find out for myself

waittttt there's more. apparently he was outed as a homosexual by a competitor but the pope was like well the gowns are sickening so what am i gonna do about it? and so he's still the pope's dressmaker even though he said vatican priests tried to fuck him all the time when he was closeted. work

He also makes SEX perfume

“Her name is Lulu…she is scared of the loud bombing just like us.”

“Her name is Lulu…she is scared of the loud bombing just like us.”

Always a reblog. These are all women!

All women drumming troupe called “Batala Samba” they are based out of New York.

This post is from 2019 in Mexico City for the Day Of the Dead

Okay guys I have NEVER recommended anything here other than books and hashtag not sponsored BUT. I just got my Nike Go FlyEase shoes and they are a disability GAME CHANGER for me.

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They are a funky little shoe that literally FOLDS in such a manner that they can be put on and off entirely without your hands; you can just step in and out of them.

The history of them is actually very interesting; the FlyEase line was always designed with disability in mind (the first one was inspired by a teenager with cerebral palsy, Matthew Walzer). They've been a thing for years but they never had one that particularly stood out to me amongst other similar shoes... until the Go.

You see, along with being someone who has only a few bends in me per day before it's all over, I'm also a fall risk. Like a comical fall risk. I've fallen into traffic. I will just roll over and die at a moment's notice. And most slide on shoes are unstable and slip around on your foot. This shoe clamps onto me like a goddamn vice. It's Got Me. It's also got good arch support which is like, a plus. By freeing up a bunch of bend-overs per day, this is going to leave me with a lot more ability and energy, especially on the bad days.

They sound too good to be true (I was VERY skeptical buying them despite the video review), but seriously, you can just step into them--and out of them by stepping on that chonky back heel there. God knows I'm not the only person with difficulty sliding on heels or tying laces in the world, so I thought I would be remiss if I didn't recommend them. If you think they might help you out, they probably WOULD, as they were recommended to me by Footless Jo, an amputee YouTuber, and as mentioned, were inspired in part by people with disabilities ranging from cerebral palsy to past strokes.

They're Pricey but ultimately average when it comes to Nice Shoes(tm), the ones I got were $125.

I'd like to add that shoes like these are adaptive clothing products and very important to the disabled community.

Here are 2 more well known adaptive shoe companies:

Kizik

And Billy footwear:

Kikiz is the company that developed this specific tech! Nike opted to fund them rather than buy them out, in part because a lot of their workers were old Nike employees.

I looked them up, they seem to be about 100 to 135 USD on Amazon. Just wanted to add that info on here cus my first thought was "are they affordable".

wait guys who wants to sit with me on the bus trip to purgatory??? we have to figure out seating arrangements so no one's alone and we need a buddy system so no one gets lost when we get there

ADHD & Sensory

Recently I talked to my therapist about how I think I may have previously thought that my sensory issues were social anxiety.

I find socializing or being in public draining, and I thought it was all from being socially anxious. And that certainly is some of it - but as I've done work on my social anxiety, I feel less anxious in public/social settings, but I still find myself feeling really drained by them.

And I've noticed that it's at least somewhat linked to sensory issues. I find it really hard to hear/listen/process conversations when there is a lot of background noise, so going to a party, or a restaurant that has loud music playing or something, is super exhausting for me when compared to like...going to the library or something else that is still somewhat public and social but not as overwhelming sensory wise. And also, it can feel like my ADHD gets extra bad in loud environments. It's harder for me to stay focused on a conversation, to connect my thoughts, and to turn my thoughts into conversation. My therapist shared a theory with me and said that there's some research to support this, but it's still a new thing that isn't confirmed...but that she thought it made a lot of sense. The theory is that perhaps distractability and inattentiveness seen in a lot of people with ADHD is actually driven by sensory processing issues more so than being a completely stand-alone issue. She used the example of how having auditory processing issues means we can't "filter out" background noise, so if we're talking to someone and a few feet away two other people are having a conversation, and an air conditioner is blowing, we're going to be hearing all 3 sources of sound equally loud. Where someone without auditory processing issues will have a brain that naturally kinda ignores or de-prioritizes hearing the a/c and the background conversation, so they hear the person they are talking to the loudest and that helps them greatly with maintaining focus on that conversation. So it may not be that they are able to focus better or more easily than us, but that their brain filters sensory stuff in a way that makes sensory issues not disrupt their focus. Because anyone would struggle to focus on one movie if there were 4 TV's each playing 4 different movies at equally loud volumes, right? And that's kinda what it's like having auditory processing issues. I just thought it was a really interesting concept that others might enjoy hearing. I feel like my ability to sustain focus is reduced even when i'm at home and have almost complete control of my sensory environment. So, my best guess would be that I'd have sustained attention issues even if I had no sensory issues. But it definitely seems true to me that sensory issues are a SIGNIFICANT component of what impacts my ability to sustain focus. Not just auditory but tactile and others as well. I think auditory is the hardest for me though.

If I can recommend you do 1 low-effort thing for the love of God it is this:

Keep 5 cards in your pocket. One will say "yes", the second will say "no."

If you lose your voice, or lose speech, or want to make a dramatic embellishment at the right time, it is an elegant and efficient solution that is right there at hand.

But what if people question you from there? "Why do you have that card? Why would you do this? How long have you had that in your pocket?" For this, or whatever else they say, the third card: "I don't have a card for that."

"What the fuck," they ask. They laugh. They are bemused. You bring the energy back down with the fourth card: "I have laryngitis. I've lost speech. My throat hurts". Whatever you expect to occur.

The joke is over. Rule of threes. Now they are curious. They wonder about logistics. "How did you know I would say that? Is everyone so predictable?"

As a three-part bit, nobody ever sees the fifth card coming.

"I have powerful wizard magics."

Gets them every time

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saw an old gay guy in the costco food court wearing a bright pink shirt that said HATERS GONNA HATE. BUT NOT IF I STOP THEM and i have never wanted to be someone else so bad before