THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)
An Article from Neena Susan Thomas
“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.
REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.
THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”
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This is so fucking unfortunate that we need this
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You see someone eyeing someone suspiciously you tell the one they’re looking at
Stay safe!❤
Harry Potter and the Cursed Child
That’s it!
I’ve had it with the argument that if an adult doesn’t like a children’s show, it’s because that show is aimed for kids.
Do you know who hated that argument?
Walter Elias Disney.
Do you know who created a multi billion dollar industry that’s going strong after almost 90 years?
Walter Elias Disney.
Do you know who once said, “You’re dead if you aim only for kids. Adults are only kids grown up, anyway.”
Walter Elias Disney.
Walt Disney knew the importance of marketing to both children and adults. He knew that you needed to make timeless creations that could be enjoyed by people of every age.
Do you know why nostalgic shows like Looney Tunes, Animaniacs, Hey Arnold, Batman: The Animated Series, Powerpuff Girls, etc. are often quoted by millennials these days? Because they treated us like adults. They were arranged so that adults could like them just as much as kids.
Do you know why shows like Avatar: The Last Airbender, Legend of Korra, Over The Garden Wall, Gravity Falls, and Steven Universe are so popular today? Because they follow the same principle.
And do you know why things like the new Spongebobs, the Powerpuff Girls reboot, and Teen Titans Go are failing miserably? Because they’re only aimed at young children, instead of expanding their demographic to include people of all ages. And in a few years, they’ll be forgotten. Because all of the jokes are aimed towards the children of 2016. And those children will be long gone.
Dang. Mic DROP.
“A children’s story that can only be enjoyed by children is not a good children’s story in the slightest.” - C.S. Lewis
I LOVE THIS!
yesterday I went to see Finding Dory and it left me crying for almost the whole movie
- Finding Dory is a movie about a mentally ill person who gets a happy ending that doesn’t involve getting “cured” or becoming “normal”
- Dory is a mentally ill person who resolves her problems accepting her illness; she discovers that when she tries to do things the “normal” way (re: just trying to remember), it doesn’t work. But when she tries to do things her way (re: trying to deduce what she was doing, which is, accepting how her memory is), it does work!
- There are other ill people (like Hank or Destiny) who get to be happy even though they don’t get “cured”. The movie also features a very well written panic attack and how it feels to live with memory issues. Also, it teaches neurotypical and able-bodied children, like Marlin, that mentally ill and disabled people are so much more than their disabilities, and that it’s perfectly possible to love them. This movie teaches them how mentally ill and disabled people are not broken or unlovable.
- And Dory’s parents? They don’t force her to be normal, either. They don’t punish her for not being able to remember. No, they accommodate her: instead of forcing her to remember, instead of getting mad at her, they keep putting shells in line. And when she disappeared, they didn’t say “oh she must be gone forever because she always forgets everything”, they believed in her.
- Finding Dory is a movie that teaches children that they can succeed in life, that they can be happy and have friends and be loved, not despite their illnesses and neurodivergences, but with them. They just have to keep swimming.
on the other side personal review (some spoilers)
This is a bit different from my usual posts but I felt like I needed to share this with you all. I'm not usually one to pick up a "romance novel" and considering on the other side is depicted as "a love story like no other" it's a miracle I even started to read it. However I am a big supporter of Carrie Hope Fletcher and her work and ,after hearing a lot about Evie and Vincent in her videos over the past year or so, began to anticipate the book's release. And I can truly say that I have never been more captivated by a book (excluding Harry Potter of course!). I started the novel on Thursday morning and had finished it by the time Friday night rolled in! I fell in love with Evie's compassion, strength and the effect that she had on the lives of those around her. I adored the raw connection she had with Vincent and their adventure together with Little One. Although it took me a moment or two to realise that certain events required looking beyond the realms of reality I was pleasantly surprised by the presence of magic and thought that it allowed me to better see the world from Evie's wonderful point of view. As I have followed Itwaypastmybedtime and PetesJams for a couple of years now I could certainly see many similarities that Pete and Carrie (and friends) shared with the characters (not to mention the wonderfully subtle Disney references and Evie's introduction as a "Hopeful"). Whether a deliberate choice or not, as a Hopeful myself I felt somewhat privileged that I could see the creators that I have come to love in Carrie's work and could not be prouder of her as a member of the community that she's created. Although I admit that this does prove me to be slightly biased towards her work I forced myself to read with an open mind and promise you that I would not have finished the book so quickly had I not thoroughly enjoyed it! The ending made me cry tears of joy and I look forward to any future work that Carrie has in mind! Much love xx @carriehopefletcher
But you see, I have the other slipper
Hi Carrie! Just seen your #blacklivesmatter tweets and I just wanted to say thank you so so much for your support. As a black 22 year old, I often feel like issues like these appear 'sensitive' so many don't want to associate themselves. Your support has really moved me and I just really wanted to let you know that it's appreciated. Farah xxx
I’m just fed up of seeing innocent young people not just dying but being killed by the people who have sworn to serve and protect them. The fact we even have to say “Black Lives Matter” is ridiculous. The fact we have to remind certain people on this planet not to kill a group of humans simply because their skin is darker is purely terrifying and that’s coming from someone who is white and privileged so I can’t even begin to fathom how terrifying it must be for people of colour, especially in the USA right now. I don’t know what more I can do except show my support and spread the word and hope others do the same.
xxx
P.S This is Farah who I met at stage door at Les Mis right?! HELLO!


