truly i think part of why fatphobia is so tempting to a lot of non-fat people no matter how 'progressive' they are is simply because it gives one a way to feel better. when society tells you you're inherently more virtuous because you're slim, you perceive any social gains (with or without regards to body image/beauty/etc) made by the "ugly" people as a slight on you, an attack on your heightened position. it's (part of) why some skinny women get so completely bent out of shape seeing someone like lizzo be widely loved and praised. that's not allowed! she's fat! I'M supposed to be better! a lot of these people are utterly miserable and self hating and they hate having their one little trophy taken away so they hold it over their head and hit people with it
Amy Lowell, from lilacs in “the complete poetical works of Amy Lowell”
the thing about having hope is that it is so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so difficult. but you have to do it anyway
You deserve a calm love with someone who gives you best friend energy, makes you laugh, and never stops flirting with you. someone who learns your love language just to treat you right and make you feel loved properly.
Removing yourself from situations where you don’t feel loved, valued and respected is top tier self-care.
hello i’m here to return this head of lettuce. it tasted sorta funny “sir that’s a loofa” oh well it still tasted weird so i’m returning it anyway
The secret to a long lasting relationship is making uncomfortable conversations normal. Addressing unpleasant truths; pointing out the traits that bother you; being told about your own drawbacks; and being corrected sometimes. And everything with zero fear of offending the other person. You need to have the courage and tactfulness to adjust, compromise and protect your integrity at the same time.
-Sabina Yesmin






