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Jam Fool

@briarpatch-kids

Call me Briar! 31 they/them, transmasc-ish and happily married. thembo rights, Dirt Selkie and wheelchair user

Hello! I'm Briar and here are the basics! (Last updated August 2023)

  • My blog is kind of a messy space like the rest of my life, so there's a lot here.
  • I mainly post about my garden, fiber arts, sewing, canning, the cat, the ducks, and disability topics.
  • I'm a full time wheelchair user and ventilator user with mitochondrial disease. I have a little less than half the energy I'm supposed to and that causes a lot of issues.
  • My health is super variable because of the above. If I overdo it or get sick Bad Things Happen and I've been told by my doctor I should look at flares in terms of weeks to months rather than day to day.
  • If you want to use any of my photos or video for a stimboard or moodboard, just tag me or send it to me so I can see your art!

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Commissions are permanently closed due to declining health

Moral stuff

  • This is a trans and ace inclusive space. Don't play those games or I'll block you.
  • I have friends here who are intellectually disabled and proud of it. If you're mean to someone for their typing or asking a question that can easily be googled I will call you out on it. Same goes for ableism of any other kind.
  • I am anti genocide and for a free Palestine.
  • I am also anti-military and one of my deepest regrets in life was joining at 17. I did not kill anyone and worked in medical but it was still contributing, and still wrong.
  • This is an anti racist and anti facist space. Black Lives Matter.
  • Please don't drag me into fanfiction stuff. I don't read it, I don't really involve myself in fandom, I've never been on Ao3. Just don't be a creep and write nsfw stories about kids or real living people. It's gross okay?
  • I say queer. I won't tag it, I won't stop saying it, it's part of my identity, don't ask unless you want a rant about it.

Communication

  • My anons are off due to people being weird about my friends and their disabilities, and I really appreciate people letting me know when I say something inappropriate or short sighted. I'm on the autism spectrum and working really hard to grow as a person so feedback is a good thing!
  • I also love it when anons and such tell me fun facts or talk about their day if it was interesting or whatever.
  • I generally try to answer DMs and asks as soon as possible but sometimes they get lost. If I haven't after a few days, please don't assume it's because I don't like you or whatever. It's because I didn't have the social energy and put it off, then my memory sucks so I've forgotten or it didn't go through so you're welcome to send it again.
  • I don't have the energy for group chats, I'm sorry. I want to, but I inevitably burn out my social energy in a week and then ghost and feel bad about it.
  • I've had a pretty variable disability experience because I went from able bodied and capable of running miles to a full time wheelchair user who needs assistance with every day tasks slowly over 7 years. I'm happy to answer most good faith questions about disability, mobility aids, and the like.
  • Anyone is welcome to ask for a plain language explanation of something. I will not be rude or snarky about it if you want an easy to understand answer.
  • I don't reblog funding requests, I'm sorry. I'm disabled and trans and so are most of my friends so I see one every fourth post and it's really rough on my mental health. I have a small budget that I use to donate when I'm able to instead.

I've finally gotten retention down well with polygel nails, but I want to change up my set of chrome nails now even though I SHOULD wait another week or two at least

Saw someone describe the whole "performative male" thing as anglerfish verses bird of paradise and it's such a good analogy omg.

(As in some men perform femininity to capture prey vs men who perform femininity to attract a mate and it's the first group thats the problem.)

Where I lost them is when they said the performative male contests is punishing men for adopting femininity, cause CLEARLY they're taking the piss out of the "anglerfish" type.

Since we're sharin ugly foods,

I made pea/lentil/spinach/sausage/bacon soup

It looks swampy but it is delish lol

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Call me Shrek then, because I want that swamp!!!

My mom making my bed while I was gone, allowing me to return to the comforting sight of cuddling sharks. Peace and love on planet Earth...

ID: a bed with two differently sized blahaj ikea sharks on it. The smaller one is laying on its belly, and the bigger one next to it is turned on its side with a fin out over the smaller one. End ID.

sometimes your distress does indicate you should stop and respect your limitations. at other times it's more of a baby aquatic mammal being introduced to water for the first time thing. Too bad the difference is so hard to tell.

My mom making my bed while I was gone, allowing me to return to the comforting sight of cuddling sharks. Peace and love on planet Earth...

Hot Beverage really feels like the foundation of society. Thank you to China for tea, Ethiopia for coffee, and Central America for chocolate.

Me when an otc med fixes my problem quickly and easily: all hail modern medicine!!

Those missionaries that take it upon themselves to do yard work without asking are on my bitin list. Some guy came and "picked all your tomatoes for you" and then tried to talk me into sharing a prayer with him.

One, I leave tomatoes on the vine so people walking through can eat them. Two, we grow more than we can eat so you can have them. And three, no i dont want to share a prayer with a stranger when I have no idea what denomination you are or what you're gonna pray about, especially when im visibly queer and disabled.

The one saving grace (pun intended) about the situation is that he was polite when I said I'd rather not share a prayer. I'm guessing he's from the church very close to me since he looked too worldly to be a JW and Mormons travel in pairs.