shoutout to the gay couple who essentially queued up behind me to also take a pic
by june bates
[ID copied from alt: a page of a poem, reading: bless divorce. bless abortion. bless community. bless birth control. bless queer joy. bless hrt. bless anything that can make a woman more free. /end ID]
i love when ur inside chilling or cleaning and it suddenly starts raining hard as hell YESSSSS IM A LITTLE MOUSE IN A TREE HOLLOW HOUSE
Dealing with my fear of rejection by never asking for anything, and my fear of being a burden by never doing anything that involves other people. Foolproof.
taylor swift fans interpret her lyrics the way protestants interpret the bible
sentences you can only get on tumblr
man call me crazy or whatever but i'm not very thrilled with the fact that the takeaway that all of y'all are getting from the titanic submarine crisis happening right now is
"People able to spend exorbitantly for some tourist trip thing deserve to die a horrific and torturous death via suffocation after spending 96 hours in mounting dread and awareness of that oncoming reality, all inside a 20 foot long windowless iron casket lost at sea"
and how it isn't
"There is no way in fucking hell that it should be legal to take people into such high-risk environments with zero regulations and shoddy work which almost certainly factored if not is the cause of this crisis to begin with, and the problem isn't that people will spend lots of money on dumb shit, it's that there are companies allowed to prey on that with no oversight"
There should definitely be requirements for rescue protocols. CBC Radio was speaking with a journalist who did a brief dive on the submersible last year and the safety briefing apparently boils down to "If there is a fire, here is the Extinguisher. If anything else goes wrong, these are the mechanisms to surface. If those don't work, you're screwed."
The company only has the single submersible and no way to recover it themselves in case of an emergency.
I have had it with this likescolding. “Tumblr doesn’t have an algorithm so likes don’t actually do anything” motherfucker I am not clicking that heart to give some post better ~algorithmic visibility~ I am clicking that heart to help my internet friend microdose on serotonin as god fucking intended
As someone who took etiquette lessons, politeness is an incredibly effective tool for disarming bigots. You can either force them to reconsider their words/actions by directly and calmly confronting their behavior (by using the rules of society in your favor), or you can dip entirely while they appear to be in the wrong.
Both options are great.
Because the thing is, when bigots pick fights, they are 100% counting on you to get louder than them. Or meaner. They want you to react emotionally and provide fodder for their 'You're Too Emotionally Immature To Understand' cannon.
What they aren't expecting you to do is say one of the following phrases in a polite, concerned tone:
- Are you okay?
- That's not the kind of language I was raised to use with others.
- Do you need a moment to think on why that wasn't acceptable?
- This is no way to engage in intelligent conversation. Please try that again in a kinder tone if you'd like this to continue. (I really like this one because it lets you turn their public-shame rhetoric around)
For those of you who'd are spiteful and/or dealing with Fundamentalists/Evangelicals/generally shitty Christians:
- What's happening in your life to cause you this much anger? I can't imagine hurting so badly that I need to hurt other people.
- Who taught you it was acceptable to treat other people this way? Certainly not the Jesus I remember.
- Whatever happened to 'judge not lest ye be judged'?
- If I talked like that in front of my parents or grandparents I would be ashamed.
- I think there's something you need to pray on before we try and have this conversation.
And my all time favorite:
"It sounds to me like there are some seriously dark and angry forces at work in your heart."
(Nothing stops a Christian bigot in their tracks faster than implying the Devil is causing their bigotry. But you MUST be calm, polite, and gentle with your tone and wording. It is absolutely fair to twist the rules and play them at their own game, but you gotta play hard.)
TLDR: It's much faster to use etiquette, politeness, and rhetoric reversal when eviscerating idiots online and in person, because they aren't expecting you to weaponize their behaviors back in their direction. Don't get angry, get spitefully polite! :)
My favourite one is "Do you think that this is a normal/acceptable thing to say/do?"
My most stereotypically white person habit is I really do LOVE saying “looks like we got here at the right time” if a place gets crowded after we’ve been seated
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before clicking unmute: oh i hope that this Sounds
after clicking unmute: oh it SOUNDS
Walter Rane’s 1976 cover art for Fritz Leiber’s ‘The Mind Spider & Other Stories.’ This one’s in my new art book - I have a whole chapter on plants and animals!
- What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon
No Bitches Beach
Cannot let this stay in the tags