Oh how I would love to feel your lips against my neck
11 pm thoughts (via thisbittersweetheart)
“When she falls asleep in my arms, its the best feeling ever.”
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Lover😘
@nicholasceee
Relationships where you can just chill at each other’s house, make each other laugh, cuddle, take pics and tell each other everything.
(via teenagecrush)
1. You don’t need to be better than anybody else, you just need to be the best you can be. Stop stressing yourself out because the kid next to you gets 90s on everything. You are going to be fine, but please do your work.
2. Your best friend from middle school’s life is gonna change. You’re going to watch it happen, except you won’t be her best friend anymore. Don’t beat yourself up because you aren’t there to help her. People grow apart.
3. If you want to say something to someone, say it. If you want to tell someone you love them or you care about them, stop being stubborn and tell them. If your friend is being irrational, tell her. Say anything you want to anyone, unless it’s rude and uncalled for. In that case, keep your damn mouth shut and don’t be an asshole.
4. People are going to hate you. You aren’t going to understand why, and for a while, you’re going to be hurt, and you’re going to cry. In a year tops, none of them will matter to you anymore. The only opinion of yourself that matters is your own, so stop letting other people define that.
5. Try your best not to hate the girl that flirts with the guy you like, or the guy that spreads rumors about you because you won’t give him what he wants. They don’t matter. I truly promise you they never will matter.
6. You’re going to meet a boy who makes you feel like you’re on top of the world. Don’t change the way you act or the way you walk or the way you talk for him. As much as you want to do everything the way he wants you to, don’t. You’re going to regret it when he’s gone and you can’t remember who you are.
7. When he leaves you, you’re going to think of all the good times you had together. As hard as it may be, try and remember how often he pissed you off, or the way he put you down or the way he looked at other girls. He wasn’t perfect. You guys weren’t always happy.
8. You weren’t perfect either, but don’t blame yourself. None of this is your fault.
9. Call your family and the people you love as often as you can. Ask them about their day, even if it’s boring. Because once they’re gone, you are going to wish you could spend every second of the day hearing about the book they read or the passage they heard at church.
10. If your best friend tells you he’s an asshole, then he’s an asshole. Stop doubting her and pretending things could work out. Open your eyes and realize what you’re putting yourself through.
11. When someone important to you tells you they’re mad at you for making a stupid mistake, it’s because they care about you. Don’t get mad at them. Tell them that they are right and that you love them, because if you overreact you are going to lose them and that is the worst thing that could happen.
12. It’s okay to make stupid decisions and get drunk on the weekends as long as you remember the people who held you up when you fell down, hugged you when you cried, and put you to bed when you were too messed up to get there for yourself.
13. Stop getting mad at your mom every time she talks to you. She’s smarter than you think, so stop telling her she’s dumb. As hard as it may be, just tell her you love her. You might regret it if you don’t.
14. Don’t let anyone tell you that you have a shitty taste in music. And when they do, blast your favorite song as loud as you can when you get home and sing along because it will make you feel pretty damn good.
15. Wake up at least 15 minutes earlier every day. It’ll pay off, you sleep too much anyway.
16. It’s alright to cry and don’t feel bad when you do. You’ve been through a lot and you deserve to cry sometimes. But don’t make a habit of it. Stop feeling sorry for yourself all the time, because that is when it’s going to turn into a problem.
17. Wear whatever the hell makes you feel good. Stop comparing yourself to other people because you’re you and you’re not them. Talk about yourself like you’re the coolest person you know. It’ll make you feel better.
18. The friends you walk to the beach with at midnight and watch horrible movies with are your best friends, even if you ignore each other at school and don’t talk about your feelings with them, I promise you they really are there for you. When one of them stops suggesting movies to watch and showing up at the door at 10 o’clock uninvited, do not let them leave. Find out what’s going on, give them the space they need, but don’t let them disappear. You regret it.
19. Stop telling yourself the age difference isn’t a lot, because it is. Even if it doesn’t matter to you, it’s not going to happen. Not because other people don’t approve of it, but simply because it just can’t happen. Let it be.
20. Leave your summer fling in the summer.
21. Don’t allow yourself to be a rebound. He didn’t care about you the first time, he didn’t care about you the second time, so what makes you think after the third time he’s changed? Kick him out of your life, he doesn’t deserve to be there.
22. Stop being so selfish and allow yourself to move on. Go on first dates with people you are never going to call again. Ask for the cute boy you see’s number. Flirt, but don’t lead on.
23. If you don’t feel like you belong in someone’s life, don’t be apart of it.
24. Take risks. If you want him to dance with you, ask him to. If you like him, ask him on a date. Don’t wait around for him to notice you on his own because it’s less likely to happen.
25. You are going to be fine.
25 things i wish i could go back and tell myself before freshman year (via instanit-y)
dear incoming freshmen,
1. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD IF YOU ARE BRINGING COFFEE/ETC. TO SCHOOL GET A SPILLPROOF CUP. rn i am flashing back to the month old coffee that got spilled in my locker, and how much i gagged whilst trying to clean it up. everything smelled like spoiled milk and it was awful. please get a spillproof cup.
2.you won’t need half the stuff you think you do. literally just get one big binder, some lined paper, a couple pens/pencils, and some highlighters.
3. don’t fuck w/ your sleep schedule. i speak from experience.
4. if you take gym, always bring your gym clothes even on the first day of class.
5. be nice to your teachers and they will let things slide. (i.e. late work, your inevitable sass)
6. holy shit don’t lose your textbooks/required reading/library books. pls just don’t.
7. always do the required reading because the one day you don’t will be the day there’s a goddamn pop quiz. also try to buy your own copy of the required reading, because a) the school copies are usually really old and gross and b) you can mark yours up. its super helpful to highlight and write in the margins, and then you dont need to take notes!!!
8. nobody really cares if you date/don’t date.
9. speaking of dating, DONT DATE THE SENIORS JESUS CHRIST
10. be nice to yourself. one bad grade isn’t the end of the world.
11. im gonna repeat this because it’s crucial: BUY A MOTHERFUCKING SPILLPROOF CUP.
12. don’t stand in the middle of the damn hallway. pick a side. don’t walk slow/text while walking either.
13. your english teacher will either be super chill and or satan spawn, there is no in between.
14. bring ur headphones. bring ur charger.
15. when you do shakespeare try to watch the film versions too. the plays aren’t meant to be read, they are meant to be watched and it will make understanding so much easier.
16. be nice to your friends. they’ll let you copy their homework.
17. don’t fuck around with your grades tho. pls try your hardest because all those D’s will kill your college choices.
18. don’t be nervous, it’s just another school year. you’ll do great :)
love,
a sophomore who’s done her time
To all students still in high school:
- Do your very best - Study as hard as you can so you get the best grades possible and have every opportunity open to you after high school
- Don’t procrastinate - Every night you put something off, you get farther and farther behind. It doesn’t take that long to write a 5-page essay, but if you do it the night before, you’ll get a B at best, because you didn’t have time to read over it and perfect it.
- Get involved - I know you know this. But don’t just play a sport and think that’s good enough. You have to take a leadership position in whatever you’re involved in, whether that’s as the two-year captain of your undefeated varsity basketball team, or as the VP of Model United Nations, what matters is that your peers, teachers, and coaches see you as a respectable young adult who can influence and lead others.
- Be passionate - Care about something completely and wholeheartedly. Tell everyone about how much you love a TV show you’ve been binge-watching on Netflix. Rant about the latest political news. Spend hours researching a scientific dilemma, and proceed to tell your entire AP Biology class what you discovered. Be passionate and never apologize for it.
While you may not know who you are yet or who you’re going to be, don’t let your passivity or fear to stand out determine who you think you are.
FOR THOSE OF YOU GOING INTO HIGH SCHOOL
Some tips
-always bring a charger and headphones -that senior doesn’t love you -DO NOT GO OVER TO AN UPPERCLASSMEN’S PLACE TO “CHILL” CUZ THEY ARE NOT TRYINA CHILL -don’t expect people to stay your friend forever. Some will some wont, that’s just how it is. -join a club or something like it’s so worth it -if you’re late already you might as well get some breakfast -school lunch isn’t that bad ok don’t waste your money on taco bell all the time -no one is going to peer pressure you into doing drugs ok like they’ll be like “wanna hit thiss?” And if you say no or whatever they’ll be like “ok” and it’s not a big deal at all -DO NOT HAVE A BABY YOU’RE 14 OK COME ON IT’S NOT THAT HARD TO NOT HAVE A KID -always have at least one notebook for random doodles and whatnot because you run out of paper quick -DON’T BE MEAN TO SUBSTITUTE TEACHERS THEY’RE JUST DOING THEIR JOBS OK -make friends with your teachers. It helps a lot. A lot. -if you ditch make it sporadic cuz you don’t need mommy yelling at you every day ugh -don’t expect raging parties all the time cuz that doesn’t happen until you’re older -again don’t have a kid. Condoms are so useful and cheap please don’t forget that -DO NOT USE PEOPLE FOR SEX IT WILL RUIN THEM FOR LIFE. -I know you don’t care about your grades but when you’re tryina get into college you’ll be wishing you did ok so hold c’s at least ok -keep a water bottle
1. don’t fall in love with every guy that pays attention to you if you don’t even like them.
2. if you want to sign up for a club or sport and none of your friends want to, do it anyway. you’ll make other friends in the activity.
3. bring gum. everyone will love you.
4. become friends with your teachers. it could be the difference between an A and a B.
5. if you are ever given the opportunity to take AP Government and Politics, DONT TAKE IT.
6. everyone drinks so just do what you feel comfortable with.
7. some sophomores are cool.
8. juniors are annoying.
9. seniors are the shit.
10. you don’t have to follow the crowd.
11. don’t let ACT, SAT, AP, or whatever test stress you out. just do your best. that’s all that counts.
12. find your favorite subject and pursue it.
13. if a teacher says they don’t allow eating in their class, don’t eat or try to. you’ll have other classes to chow down in.
14. football games are intense and super fun.
15. remember your locker combination.
16. some teachers are assholes so just stay positive and try your hardest in their class.
17. crazy socks are always comfortable.
18. no one looks at your id tag so put stickers and stuff to customize it.
19. don’t freak out if you don’t have classes with your friends. you’ll still be friends.
20. you still have 3 more years. make them count.
20 things I’ve learned my freshman year of high school (via carly-ylrac-carly)
some hs advice to freshmen as a sophomore
- use your locker!! i didn’t for like the first month and it honestly killed my back. when you get used to your schedule you’ll figure out good times to visit your locker and switch out your books
- when you get home, take a quick break, eat a snack, watch a couple of youtube videos, but then get right to work. seriously, do your homework asap, don’t wait until after dinner; take a quick break to refresh yourself and then take advantage of your mindset and alone time to get stuff done right away
- you’ll naturally gain friends by talking to people during classes/lunch/etc. try not to worry about it and dont stress too much
- it’s okay to eat lunch alone!
- there’s a ton of different people at high school so try not to feel too weird or self conscious about what you wear or who you hang out with, etc.
- dont walk super slow!! dont stop in the middle of the hallway or doorway!!!
- dont overwhelm yourself w a bunch of shit to do. if you’re gonna take ap classes i suggest that you only take one freshmen year bc it’ll get you used to the course and how it works without having like three of them at once. also, some clubs (like sports or band) can take up a lot of your spare time and may add extra stress to your workload so be prepared if you were planning on it
- look up assignments online it’s probably there
- quizlet is your best friend. especially for vocab. use it.
- depending on your school the dances may not even be that cool and cost a lot of money for a ticket. if you don’t want to go, then don’t, because youll have PLENTY of other chances
- upperclassmen dont like freshmen and that won’t change but dont let it keep u from making friends
- you’re probably gonna have classes with upperclassmen but unlike middle school it’s not a big deal. you probably won’t even realize it at first.
- stay on your teacher’s good side!!! seriously. i had a math teacher that was mean and yelled at everyone but she liked me and was v nice because i didnt talk and did my work.
- if you need to change your schedule talk to your counselor within the first week of school
- tell teachers your nickname/preferred name on the first day
- form alliances in class. if you have a difficult class/teacher and nobody knows wtf is going on, keep in touch with others and get work from them. (chemistry last year was awful; everyone sent everyone the answers for worksheets)
- pay attention in class and take good notes
- if you need help, talk to your teacher. if you don’t like talking to them, then send an email. some teachers are more helpful/accommodating than they seem
- if you take an ap class, read!! before!! class!! like, actually read from your textbook the night it was assigned and you’ll be prepared during class the next day.
- again, if you have ap, be aware of when ur ap exams are and fuckin study!!!!!! learn the best way to study for you and try to study weeks before the exam. like seriously. u gotta study for it. try not to procrastinate (though i studied for 6 hours straight w a friend and did p well on my exam so whatever works for you really)
- go to pep rallies and home games!!!
- bring your earbuds every day and charger if you need it
- there are people that do drugs. don’t worry about peer pressure because that likely won’t happen (say no to drugs kids!!)
- if u wanna join a club, do it. if it’s not for you, then don’t. seriously. i LOVE band, but i never joined band in high school because it was way too stressful for me, and though i miss it i have a lot less useless anxiety and it’s easier for me to get my work done.
- write down your homework so you won’t forget.
- speaking of supplies, wait until teachers hand out syllabuses before you buy a bunch of binders.
- keep deodorant in your bag
- drink lots of water!! ur body and skin will love u
- good grades are cool
- put yourself first!!!
Freshman Mistakes!
These are mistakes that people make all throughout high school, not just freshman! But to keep the title concise I just called it that Also, long post coming up!
In Class
- Not asking questions in class. At lot of students are shy and embarrassed about asking questions in class, But, there are always people who have the same question as you and it isn’t worth not knowing stuff on the test than feeling awkward for two seconds. Also, I’ve had teachers majorly bump up my marks because they say me asking for extra help and putting in effort.
- Not doing homework when it gets assigned. I will admit, sometimes there are times when you are 100% confident you already know how to do what was taught in class. But, mostly, doing a bit of extra practice can help you a lot even if it seems like a waste of time. When you are in upper grades and harder classes, doing homework every night is not optional, so get into the habit now.
- Not taking notes in class. This can be hard when your teacher gives you handouts or just has you copy from a powerpoint. But what you should work on doing is listening to the teacher and write down extra information on your page from what they say, not just the bare minimum from the PPT. This is such a useful skill in upper years… I have some classes where the teacher just stands at the front of the room and talks and you have to create your own notes.
- Not reading rubrics/instructions. I have so many examples of getting marks taken off even though my project was good, just because I didn’t read the instructions. Make sure you go through the rubric and/or the assignment sheets and check off that you have all of the components.
- Trying too hard to impress teachers. The best way to impress a teacher is to come get extra help, raise your hand in class, do all of the assignments as best you can and ask when you don’t understand something. Basically, show that you care about their class and are willing to work hard. Don’t bother sucking up to them about things outside of class or trying to prove yourself by writing an essay twice as long as recommended. Just try hard and your work will speak for itself.
At School
- Not joining any activities at school. Activities boost up your resume, are a great way to meet new friends, and can be a really good way to stay involved throughout high school, because you can stay in the same club for all four years if you want. Pick one or two activities that really interest you and try them out!
- Joining too many activities at school. I know, I just said to join something at school… but the key words are one to two! I have been the leader of many clubs and groups inside and outside of school and there is nothing more frustrating than having people say they are interested and then backing out. Don’t sign up for everything you think sounds cool and then leave the cub a few weeks later. Find a few things you are actually passionate about and do those instead of doing 10 different things!
- Not using class time/spares to your advantage. If you have work periods in class or you have a study hall or spare during school hours, use it! Its way better than having to work on something after school, especially if its a partner project. Way easier to organize when you guys are both at school.
- Worrying about who you sit with at lunch. I promise, no one will notice if you sit alone in the cafeteria for a few days. If you feel self conscious, just take out a notebook and people will assume you’re studying and want to be alone.
- Not taking gym! I don’t know if this is the same way at every school, but usually you need at least one gym credit to graduate. Take it in grade 9!! It is easy, fun, and literally everyone takes it , so you aren’t going to be the worst at sports. I waited and ended up being forced to take online health just to be able to graduate.
Socially
- Worrying about boys and crushes. Having a crush on someone seems like the be all end all of your existence when you’re 14, but its almost always useless. If you like someone and they like you too, that’s great and you should pursue it if you want. But if you like someone and they don’t notice you, try as hard as you can to move on. It is not a useful way to spend time and focus!
- Hanging out with people who don’t like you. I did this so much in earlier grades! I tried so hard to force my way into groups that didn’t like me and didn’t want to hang out with me. Let go of the people who don’t accept you and try to find friends who actually love spending time with you. You are amazing and don’t deserve to have to fight for someone’s attention.
- Trying too hard to hang onto friends from elementary school. This isn’t to say that you can’t keep being friends with someone if you go to different schools. But sometimes, a friendship just fades when you guys go off to different places. For me, I had friends that all went to private school together and I spent so much time worrying about being friends with them even though we only hung out like every 6 weeks. Let friends go if you grow apart. It’s only natural.
- Not thinking about the consequences of your actions when partying. If you go out and get super, fall down on your face wasted, you might a) get in trouble from your parents, b) embarrass yourself in front of people or c) just feel like absolute shit the next morning. If you want to try drugs remember that you might a) get caught and get in legal trouble or b) have a really bad experience. I’m not saying to absolutely never go out and party, but think about what might happen and decide from there.
Hopefully this post is helpful to freshman and others! Feel free to reblog and add your own advice. :)