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Aevin, or Faith. 30-something aroace software person. Radical inclusionist. She/her.
Chris Pine refuses to answer the question “Would you swipe left or right for Anna Kendrick on Tinder?” and instead gives this response

the clip in the link took me from having kind of a standard, pretty-celebrity crush on Chris Pine to being like “holy shit, I think I would genuinely and in a non-horny fashion like this guy if I knew him in person.“ I mean, he takes a super fucking inappropriate question, gives it the complete lack of acknowledgement it deserves, and says something so intelligent and thoughtful instead of whatever weird answer he was expected to give that nobody even remembers what the original terrible question was by the time he’s done talking.

If Chris Pine ever stops being a class act, please nobody tell me, my heart can’t handle it.

Because of the above comment, I went and listened to the clip as well, and I think it’s worth sticking the transcription of the whole here, because it’s even more in-depth than what the gifs show– including the stall time Pine has and the absolute English-major vibes of pulling complete paragraphs out of one’s pocket when faced with awkward questions, culminating with the absolute finesse of “So anyway, yeah”:

James Corden: Chris. Would you swipe left or right on Tinder, if Anna came up on Tinder? Would you swipe left or right?
(crosstalk) Anna Kendrick: Say something– say something that’s less of a bummer.
Chris Pine: Um, I think–
(crosstalk) Corden: Left or right?
(crosstalk) Kendrick: Answer the question, Chris.
Pine: I think that, uh–
Corden: Chris Pine doesn’t need Tinder. That’s what we’re all realizing. He just steps out– life is Tinder for Chris Pine. He literally steps out of his door into a virtual Tinder. That’s every day.
Pine: Um. You know, I think– I think, obviously we tell each other stories in life, and, as storytellers, that’s what we do. We tell each other stories so we can understand the world better, and there’s catharsis, and we understand the models of what a hero could be, and what the hero’s journey as a human being is all about.
But of course, I think sometimes, too, those stories too can be very prohibitive, confining, and this idea that we – especially in Western culture, in Western literature, Tristan and Isolde, Romeo and Juliet – there’s some kind of all-encompassing, burning passionate love that will never die out unless you both die. It’s so depressing and not real.
And that these two people– the Prince living out this storybook life all the time in a completely non-relational manner with the woman that he’s apparently in love with– I think it’s very telling that in this relationship, there’s not one conversation until the last moment when they break up.
Kendrick: It’s just chasing and [indistinct]
(crosstalk) Pine: If you look at the film, it’s just these little eighth-page things, looking up, gazing fervently at one another– it doesn’t mean anything. And I think the beautiful thing about it is, here’s a woman that chooses to get out of the story, of Romeo and Juliet, of Tristan and Isolde– it’s like, “check it out, I don’t want you. ‘Cause you’re lame. And you don’t listen to me, and–”
But actually, in that final moment, he does listen, and I think it’s very telling for the Prince, that he says, “Is this what you want?”– he’s actually, he’s being very respectful, the boundaries are very clear. Whereas I think what we’re–
Kendrick: It’s the first time he asks anyone a question.
Pine: Yeah! But I think there’s this – there’s this trope in – in literature that somehow we’re not whole unless we have another? Which I don’t think is corr– I– personally, for me, I think it’s not fair to the uniqueness and wonderfulness of the individual; that we can complement one another greatly, but we’re not the source of each other’s happiness. Especially if you don’t even know who the hell you’re talking to.
So anyway, yeah.

The union busting firms are scared

As a fine dining cook, I found work in a union workplace around a year ago. My 40 hours a week are guaranteed except for Jan/feb/mar when there’s not enough customers, I get paid almost twice what I did at any other restaurant, if I work overtime, (more than 8 hours in one day, or more than 40 in a week), I actually get overtime pay, (and it’s 1.5x my normal rate!). I get holiday pay, and in addition I get to either bank or pay out my holidays if I work those days, (either a paid day off when I want it, in addition to the holiday pay, or I get paid an add’l 8 hours at 1.5x that week). I also get two floating holidays, 4 paid random sick days, 2 paid family sick days, and 4 paid “doctor’s note” sick days, (paid out by our health insurance), as well as general allowance to take as many unpaid sick days as I want without worrying for my job security. (I’ve been told that taking multiple months off is where we start to be concerned about abuse, so if I want to do that, I can go through our leave of absence procedures instead, where I’m allowed three 2-week periods a year generally for whatever reason I want, (If my manager wants to disagree, he has to get the union president’s approval), and after that it’s up to my manager to decide if he’ll accept them). I get two weeks of paid vacation time a year, and an add’l week per year for every 5 years I work there. We get our legally mandated breaks, which, I know that sounds like a low bar, but taking anything other than a smoke break in a kitchen?!?! Unheard of! I get two 15′s and a lunch every shift! I get to sitdown and rest my legs and not get flak for it! I get a bonus at the end of the year, there’s official procedures for if my manager isn’t happy with me or wants to get rid of me, (three meetings, during which my union representative has to be present), (and getting rid of my classification doesn’t work, there’s rules for how someone ‘bumps’ other people if classifications are gotten rid of), and severance pay for when full-time employees that are downsized out of the company, there’s a pension plan, like . . . Guys, I have a 40-page handbook which details all of the rights my union has won me, and believe me, I’ve never had any of these at any prior workplace. And you know what my union dues are? $4 a paycheck. Of course I’m going to pay my union dues for all of those benefits.

Reblogging for this incredibly thorough explanation of what it's like to actually have a contract in place at a union workplace. I reblog a fair number of posts about how people should organize, but if you're like me, you might not know exactly what that can get you until you've actually gone through the process. Every contract is different because you bargain for what makes sense for your particular workplace, and every few years you re-negotiate with the employer to improve things in the next contract, but some things (like the right to have union representation when you talk to your boss about leave or discipline) are universal.

It's worth every penny of your dues, I promise.

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Just a reminder my blog is trans inclusive. It’s bi inclusive. It is pan inclusive. It is intersex inclusive. It is ace/asexual inclusive. It is aro/aromantic inclusive. It is queer inclusive.

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It's so fucked up, reading these articles about florida's new immigration laws that argue "we can't force immigrants out, businesses need to be able to exploit their labor for poverty wages!"

1. A type of turtle called a Coastal plain cooter (Pseudemys floridana) is hit by a car near my apartment

2. The injured turtle is brought to my veterinary school for medical care while I am on rotation in the wildlife ward

3. The turtle is assigned to my classmate (not someone I know terribly well) as a patient

4. The turtle is treated for a minor shell fracture and my classmate spends two weeks taking care of the animal (in addition to a box turtle)

5. The turtle with the shell fracture recovers very well and is cleared for release into the wild, in a pond near where it was found

6. While birding at the pond some time later I see a turtle of this species out sunning itself and am excited to think it is my classmate’s former patient

7. Next time I see my classmate I say, at full volume in front of people, “hey I think I saw your cooter!”

if i tell yall what i did on the tram today yall would call it a fake tumblr story i think

oh?

so it helps to know that my mindset at the time was influenced by having been transphobically sealioned at a temping agency earlier, as well as spontaneously turning up to a different temping agency without an appointment & actually landing with them after THOSE guys turned out to be cool.

I was on the tram (crowded tram) (just after 11 AM) on my way home full of adrenaline still, and saw my dad eating a banana on the platform. I could get out of the tram to say hi, but then i'd miss the tram, or worse, hold it up. What i COULD do, however, is sprint out of the tram as soon as the door opens, take a bite from the banana my dad is holding, and SPRINT back into the tram before the doors close. So That Is What I Did.

unfortunately now roughly half of the passengers of the tram were looking at me like I was suddenly some sort of feral spirit of hunger or perhaps a strange insect of some sort.* Fortunately, the truth was also the ONE sequence of words that could make what they had just witnessed okay. I went "das ist mein papa!!!" which is german for "thats my dad!!!!!"

My dad seemed genuinely delighted by this btw. the look on his face was fucking PRICELESS

i would like to beat the little german boy accusations based on my behavior before they arise. i am in fact a tall german trans girl.

however in everything except body i AM calvin from calvin & hobbes