you have been warned
what is a dream. a miserable little pile of wishes that your heart makes, when you're fast asleep
I have no backstory for this, I just wanted to draw a cool knight.
Do you ever eat popcorn out of the palm of your own hand with such ardent desperation that you feel like both a wild horse and the gentle schoolgirl feeding it treats to gain its affection
‼️ my recreation textbook said prison abolition now!
[Image id: Figure from Power, Promise, Potential, and Possibilities of Parks, Recreation, and Leisure.
What Recreators Can Do
It costs approximately $30,000 to incarcerate a juvenile offender for one year. If that money were available to Parks and Recreation, we could do the following:
- Take him swimming twice a week for 24 weeks,
- And give him four tours of the zoo, plus lunch,
- And enroll him in 50 community center programs,
- And visit the nature center twice,
- And let him play league softball for a season,
- And tour the gardens at the park twice,
- And give him two weeks of tennis lessons,
- And enroll him in two weeks of day camp,
- And let him play three rounds of golf,
- And act in one play,
- And participate in one fishing clinic,
- And take a four-week pottery class,
- And play basketball eight hours a weeks for 40 weeks,
- After which we could return to you: $29,125 and one much happier kid.
Reprinted, by permission, from E. O’Sullivan, 1999, Setting a course for change (National Recreation and Park Association).
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reblog for a larger sample size because I’m so curious
little quick thing. i know how to wield a pen and paper sometimes
while I’m at it, i may as well post my “how kinky people look at sex reveals how autistic people experience the world better than anything else I have seen” post.
A majority of people in the world appear to view sensation like this: there are some feelings that are Good, and some that are Bad. Pain, of course, is Bad, fundamentally Worse than other sensations, like pressure or touch.
Some people are autistic. They spend their entire lives comparing being touched in ways they hate to being in pain, because people refuse to understand any other way. The world is hard to live in for them, because the feelings that hurt them are not categorized as Bad, and therefore what is torturous is not understood as torture.
Kink really unnerves a lot of people because it upends a lot of assumptions about how brains feel things. How can you want to experience something in the Bad category?
But I think kink better understands and allows for the actual complexity and reality of how brains feel things.
It’s actually more like this: There are very few, if any, actually inherently Bad stimuli. Instead, everything has a threshold at which it is unpleasant, even unbearable, and a threshold at which it is neutral or even good. Those are not necessarily opposite ends of the spectrum and can in fact overlap in weird ways. The intensity of a stimulus, or how much it pushes the limits of your processing, is not necessarily the same as “how much” stimulus, either.
Everyone is different in where their thresholds lie. There is a ton of diversity. This is…okay.
Furthermore, your thresholds are not fixed. You can adjust them a lot based on circumstances, such as how predictable the stimulus is, how much control you have over it, how much control you have over the rest of your environment, the amount of things you’re simultaneously processing, and so on.
In other words, if you experience something in an environment that is controlled, planned, and has low levels of unpredictability and extraneous stimuli, in a way that is curated to your ability to process it, that can cause a dramatic shift in whether you experience that thing as pleasurable or horrible.
Sometimes, people engage in otherwise unpleasant things in a controlled and agreed-to manner so those unpleasant things can become…good. Autistic people try to make their worlds as predictable, controlled and planned as possible so they can process “everyday” things with less pain. (And sometimes they do the first thing too.)
Honestly? I think what has convinced me most of this idea is seeing things people who are “anti-kink” say.
I see posts written by people who believe that doing a thing categorized as Bad in a sexual context is inherently going to cause harm, regardless of consent. The implication, though, in singling out “kink,” is that there is a “normal, natural” form of sex that is not “inherently harmful,” that lacks the characteristics that make pain, for example, harmful.
These people are regarding “normal” sexual activities, certain forms of touch or stimulation, to be inherently “safer” and less hurtful.
But to an autistic person, a touch may feel much worse than pain, no matter how gentle it appears to be. To an autistic person, many “vanilla” and innocuous acts might feel unbearable. But they don’t get treated with suspicion, because the people for whom they are Bad are not Normal.
When you are autistic, agency over your own perception is one of the biggest things you have to fight for in order to heal and be healthy. “This hurts me because *i* say it hurts me” is…basic. Because people don’t believe you when your hurts are non-normative.
“This feels good because *I* say it feels good” seems like it’s just the other side of the coin.
this is talking a lot about the autism piece in terms of what people DON’T like, but sometimes it’s the other way around. i’m extremely sensory seeking, and like being touched at pretty much all times. it helps ground me. to the point that, im pretty much always cuddling, holding hands, linking arms, etc with my friends and family (with permission of course!). but to a lot of people that sort of sustained touch is coded as romantic, and they find it weird, disgusting, and in some cases, even insinuate that i’m being secretly hurt or taken advantage of somehow and just don’t know it.
sound familiar?
this is a pretty tame example because tons of allistic people feel the same, but. yeah. this attitude of “there is 1 (one) universally Correct way to experience things” is frustrating whether we’re talking about kink or just plain old ableism.
The subtlety of elvish social cues and norms might be confusing to onlookers.
Oh also I tried a different look for the invisibility cloak's effect to make it look more "sufficiently advanced technology". And yeah those plants took a long time but were oddly satisfying to paint.
Anonymous asked:
You can be a gnome if you want to
You can leave your friends behind
Because your friends aren't gnomes
And if they're not gnomes, well...
they should probably die
Phantom of the Paradise (1974) (dir. Brian De Palma)
