during a job interview if you get asked, “What are three words your friends would use to describe you?” just use some traits from ur hogwarts house

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Hufflepuff: hardworking, loyal, responsible

Ravenclaw: smart, curious, analytical

Slytherin: enterprising, clever, creative

Gryffindor: adventurous, confident, principled

SHIT.

Imagine

finding your best friend

your lover

your soul mate 

at the age of 16

& 18

and staying strong through it all

cause you’re meant to be together

forever

Daddy knows🙊

Pweeeeaaaaaase

is there anything better than the “excuse me Liam” face

The Beyond

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by inkedtogether

The one where Louis and Harry are soulmates and Fate tells their story.

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soulmate au. when you touch your soulmate you begin seeing the world in color.

Words: 1053, Chapters: 1/?, Language: English

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Let’s come together all corners of the fandom and make this song a big one. For Jay.

If it all goes wrong Darling just hold on.

PROJECT JUST HOLD ON

This is a project to ensure the success of Steve Aoki feat. Louis Tomlinson’s single “Just Hold On” - a tribute to Louis’ late mother, Johannah Deakin, who passed away on December 7th 2016.

As a fandom we can do anything we put our minds to, and as such, we’d love to see this beautiful and moving tribute to a truly inspiring woman recognised and appreciated as far and wide as possible.

We’re going to be asking for your help a lot over the coming weeks but for now we’d love it if you could follow us to keep up to date with the project. Once the single’s out, we’ll be able to really get to work. If you’ve got any questions, suggestions or if you’d like to help, please let us know.

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Contact: @lhrry @aaronbutterfield @conscious–ramblings @idareyoutotakealook @anchoredlou

i miss them so freaking much

Reblog In 5 seconds for good luck

​this worked last night lets go for round two

Fandom: gets excited at the prospect of a 1d reunion in court.

1D: settles case out of court.

Fandom: 

it’s been 7 months and we still haven’t gotten a HQ version of this

"we don't do choreographed dance moves"

oh you don’t?

what about this?

and this?

and this?

and this one is cool

and this

and?

and fetus dancing?

and this?

and narry dancing?

even in their music videos

and how can you forget this?

and of course… this…

So I was out to eat and this child(maybe 3 years old) in the booth next to us started crying loudly. The mom tried to calm him down but he started to go into tantrum mode and fussed even more. So she picked him up and walked out of the restaurant to a bench outside our window. We could hear her ask him, “look at me, what’s upsetting you?” To which he responded with more crying. So she says, “Well you’re clearly overwhelmed, so we’re going to sit out here and take a break until you can compose yourself and tell me what’s wrong.” Which is exactly what happened after a couple minutes. Anyways I just think it’s so good to speak to your children in a logical, respectful manner instead of shushing them and leaving them to deal with their stress alone.

this is such a surreal way to calm a child down like is a three year old really going to understand you like that ….

Yes, if it’s what they’re used to. It has to be consistent though, you can’t, like, suddenly start doing it one day and expect them to understand.

It also helps if you kind of narrate your own emotions when you’re upset even just over little things, like ‘oh! I just can’t get this to lay flat, but I really want to! I got mad because I couldn’t get it to work, and that’s frustrating!’

It feels silly at first, but it models it for them and helps them understand how to communicate (and recognize) their own emotions.

I think I reblogged the original post before, but I love and appreciate the further explanation.  All in all this is a great practice, but some parents either don’t do it consistently, or aren’t taking in other factors (like, can your child process your words right now?  Sometimes they can’t because EMOTIONS!) OR they do this without removing them from the stressor/stressful situation, and then their kid is overwhelmed and has no idea what their parent is saying to them.  You need to look at your kid and make sure they’re taking in your words, and also not expect them to respond like an adult would.

You can also easily simplify the language, to something like “Hey what’s going on?” or “let’s get some space”/”I’m going to give you space” or “let’s take a break and take some deep breaths”

I’ve seen parents who just totally take this and start speaking to their children in ways that their child legitimately cannot understand, not necessarily because of their age, but because they have no context, or are too overwhelmed by outside factors, OR because their parents are expecting them to process words they’re not used to (consistency and modeling are key) and then demanding an adult response.  That’s stressful.  Using this kind of language with kids is GREAT to get your kids more in touch with their emotions and actions, but it’s important that you’re doing it correctly, paying attention to how your child responds, and providing them with a model in your own actions and interactions.

I work in education and how that parent in the first post helped their child calm down is exactly what we do when I work in preK through 1st grade classrooms.

I also do this with my own children and it ‘s incredibly helpful. Small children are able to tell you what’s wrong and tell you how they feel if they’re given the tools to do so.

Common mistakes parents make:

-Assuming this will work right away. It won’t. It takes time for kids to get used to this. Parents/families need to use this frequently, consistently, and using language children can understand.

-By not staying calm themselves. This will not work if you let your own emotions/frustrations get in the way. When this happens frustrated parents want the kids to ‘hurry up and tell them what’s wrong’. Kids can tell you’re upset/frustrated/impatient. This can make things worse. You as a parent/caregiver need to remain calm as well.

-Use language that the child doesn’t understand (as Enog mentioned above).  Use language that your child CAN understand. A big thing you need to do even when your child isn’t upset is to identify feelings. Do this all the time. When a child can’t identify emotions, they have a hard time dealing with them. Use accessible language and model identifying as well as healthy ways to deal with various emotions.

-Failing to remove the child from a stressful situation. This is a VERY COMMON mistake parents and caregivers make. Young children in particular have a hard time focusing/calming down when overwhelmed. Some parents/caregivers expect the child to calm down while overwhelmed get frustrated with the child when this method doesn’t work.  Be sure to remove your child from the stressful situation or stimulus before asking them to tell you what is wrong.

Many people won’t get it right the first time. Recognizing the frequent mistakes above will help parents/caregivers from making these errors.

My mom was also taught in my brothers daycare that you can start communicating with kids under 4 to get them used to communicating and to try and make the world seem less chaotic. They would tell the kids if they were going to stop playing in 10 minutes or change their diapers or eat or whatever. And as strange as it sounds that toddlers actually became less fussy and it really made the parents start paying attention to their kids and making sure that they were communicating. I’ve seen so many young kids have a tantrum because their parent just picks them up from playing and takes them instead of giving them a five or ten minute warning that might have made it so there was no problem at all. I’m sure it would set them up for everything mentioned in this post. I hate people that act like you shouldn’t communicate with kids or try and help them understand what’s going on around them, I just always think of how overwhelming and scary being a kid, and especially a very young child, can be.

^Important. :D

Omg it’s so important to talk to kids about what’s going on even if they’re newborns and you think they can’t understand, at some point (long before they can talk themselves) they do and they learn that their feelings, needs and boundaries matter, that they’re people not objects to be moved about and acted upon

harry: “does anybody not have a phone?” “who what?” “IT’S 2015!!!” liam: “harry she’s 5!”