Captain, This Entire Planet is Made of Widdly-Wee

i literally wasn’t made to work sorry to the freaks who enjoy this grindset shit but you literally have psychological problems. i just want to sit and think and maybe talk and eat and drink

bill and ted learn the word “gender presentation” and get stressed out because they think they need to give a presentation on their genders

Assigned at birth!? Ohhh nooo My dude do you think they take late submissions?

I told my gf that I was having an episode earlier and she replied "is it the beach episode" and it shocked me so much that it grounded me immediately

You know what? Fuck you *eats a nature valley on your bed*

Just shoot me and get it over with you sick bastard

i've done nothing but listen to the new mcr single for nearly 2 hours if a vampire bit me right now they would instantly be turned into gerard way

The bridge on the new mcr song makes me feel like I'm clawing my way out of my grave

Saw an op-ed that was on the surface a complaint about kids not wanting to take on family heirlooms but read like an elegy to dying traditions. The hardest part was the anxiety without recognizing that they didn’t pave the way for the decisions they assumed their kids would make.

(This is written entirely within the dominant white/western culture - about traditions that have neglectful stewardship rather than those actively suppressed)

The anxiety makes sense. You’re seeing, too late to do anything about it, that there’s no foundation - no space - for the traditions you expected to pass on. Your kids _can’t_ take your mom’s fine china. So now instead of enjoying what you have you worry about its future.

I see a pattern in these op-eds though - a pattern in what’s left unsaid. There were responsibilities tied to these traditions. You collectively assumed they _would_ be passed along. So collectively, what did you do to ensure those traditions _could_ be passed along?

Op-eds never speak for everyone, but it’s worth acknowledging the pattern in what speech is deemed worth sharing widely.  And in this particular pattern, there’s an answer: that answer looks like “nothing.”

You want the china passed down but your kids have no room in their rentals. You want grandkids but your kids don’t have the financial stability. You want that cross-country RV neverending road trip but you’ve had decades of wanting lower taxes more than you wanted infrastructure.

The bleak outlook for traditions is a direct result of the unmaintained foundations for them. The second best time is always now - if it’s important enough to op-ed about, what are you willing to change to get it back? What will you give up or re-prioritize?

I kinda think that world-defining assumptions are always gonna break without maintenance. So rather than getting mad at whoever’s next for not carrying on the norms we didn’t do upkeep on, when it’s my turn, I hope I’m introspective enough to help instead of externalize & blame.

This.

I follow a Facebook group of “Memories of …” for my hometown - a rustbelt community that has gone from a thriving hub of industry to a much-less-thriving place.

The group is a collective lament.   Decades-old pictures of well-kept churches.  Aerial shots of the main intersection downtown, lined with big cars.    Scanned advertisemetns from local stores featuring pictures of their interiors.   These alternate with the drumbeat of news:  the Catholic diocese is closing churches.  Selling them.   Tearing them down.   STores downtown are closing.   The traffic light has been replaced with a four-way-stop.

“That’s the church my parents were married in!” “How could they tear down that beautiful building.  Such memories!” “All the businesses are closing.  It must be the taxes.” ”They’ve sold the old lodge downtown.” “They’re not opening the skating rink this year.  We always used to go.”

And sometimes I chime in. 

“Do you attend that church?  Do you give? Or do you just want the building to look pretty for you? “ “Do you volunteer at that park?  Why not?” “Did you vote for that recreation bond issue?” “Are you a member of that Lodge? Why not?” “Do you shop downtown?   Or did you start shopping at Walmart and Amazon to save a few bucks?”

If you feel something is worth preserving, why do you not participate in its preservation?  

Community is not a spectator sport. 

I see a lot of people taking a consumer mentality about their communities: it’s something other people produce for you, you are entitled to demand excellent service, etc. The community it’s not only something you need to build as well as enjoy, it’s actually something you GET to build. Maybe that’s through money, maybe it’s through volunteer time, maybe it’s by showing up in communal spaces as your best self, maybe it’s by providing emotional support to people who are doing more of the work to build community. But if we want to be a part of vibrant, meaningful communities, that we need to understand that communities are created by their members not consumed by their members.

The world is changed because you are made of ivory and gold. The curves of your lips rewrite history.

VELVET GOLDMINE (1998), dir. Todd Haynes

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I think I recognize 6 names here. New tag game, how many names do you recognize and are you old.

OMG so I just figured out the word “hurt”

it’s past, present and future

you will be hurt

you are hurt

you were hurt

BECAUSE IF SOMETHING TRULY HURT, IT NEVER REALLY STOPS

you poetic little shit

it’s because… it’s an adjective… …

you will be stupid

you are stupid

you were stupid

world heritage post

there was a guy in my drama school who was a former Olympic gymnast and he was insanely ripped and could do shit like backflip and the splits no problem, and one day he was walking around on his hands and i was like, “damn i wish i could do that!” and he said,

“No you don’t. Not really. You don’t wish that you had done all the shit I had done to be able to do this. You’d like to be able to do it without the practice.” Anyway he explained how he had done gymnastics even from when he was a tiny kid; always missing out on stuff and doing it after school; being away all the time, being a bit of an outcast; been injured several times; won a few competitions but also had many crushing losses - and just generally all the things he had to do before he could do that. And it made me a lot happier about where I chose to put my time, and I appreciated more the things I could do that he wished he could. And whenever I see someone and I’m like, “FUCK I wish I could sing like her, or look like that, or have those talents!” I remember my buff gay gymnastics Gandalf

never seen someone provide a solid example with this tweet so here it is

when im listening to my own library and playlists i feel like a powerful wizard but when im trying to show my music taste to anyone it feels like i have a shame cone on

mike's hard past couple of months

The only thing a son can do for his father is pat him on his shoulder, or kill him. Evangelion: 3.0+1.0 Thrice Upon a Time (2021) dir. Hideaki Anno

siempre viva

being an adult is just saying to yourself “this is the weekend i’ll clean my [x]” and then proceeding to not do that because it’s the weekend and you deserve to relax, goddamnit

Velvet Goldmine (1998) | Soundtrack | [1]