Evanescence - Call Me When You’re Sober (2006)

Shop boy like me, I could never have imagined an adventure this big in order to have wished for it. — Stardust (2007) dir. Matthew Vaughn

John Boyega at Xbox One X for Xbox Live Sessions on November 15, 2017 in London, England.

He look like your one cousin at his first Thanksgiving since he got on parole. He talking about finishing his GED and got a good job with his godfather but you worried he gonna start trapping again by Easter.

the gay girl dating scene is really like this

hi

i’m alive and also i’m a lesbian now asdjjkasddjkasasdjkasdjkasdjk

bye again

For the night crowd also hi and bye again

You... You really think alluding to two Black people being cruel, elitist, and exclusionary was agreeing with them?

Girl. You got in your feelings and decided to be shady and talk down to two Black people because of it. You took them talking about a very real issue on this hellsite and took it upon yourself to infantilize a group of white people who are old enough to understand how to work Google. Now you're giving half assed apologies while responding to anons who are soothing your bruised ego and assuring you that you did nothing wrong you poor alabaster cinnamon roll so congrats you really did hit Tumblr bingo.

Seriously, you overstepped. You projected a lot of unnecessary energy and emotion into something that did not call for all that. All you would have had to do once you made the wrong decision to add that frivolous noise was take a step back, acknowledge you were out of line, and keep it pushing. Did you even bother to contact anybody on that thread you insulted or did you just figure this lil retreat was enough?

The next thing you do should be to apologize directly to @ramdaughter and @pecharings and accept whatever response they give you because quite frankly if they ate you up no one would blame them, unblock some of the people you blocked cause I know you blocked people, learn from this experience and keep it pushing. Otherwise you need to do some Googling yourself because it's obviously you don't understand how you possibly could've done something wrong

this site does in fact have a blatant racism problem and the most obnoxious part is how it stems from willful ignorance. just the sheer obliviousness of wondering out loud why its bad to assume a black child steals or draw fucking minstrel fanart, of out and out reblogging shit that’s veiled blood libel, of buying into the idea that all media products from east asia are inherently problematic and inherently uniform is just all so…ugly. some of yall need to do some reading reading, off tumblr. 

and of course no one can know everything from the jump but like? i’m really not getting the impression that many of you are actively working to better yourselves and remain aware of the many, many ways we’re capable of hurting each other due to socialized expectations and ideas.

i feel like (and this exists on any/every social media site tbh but can be seen prominently on tumblr) there’s a culture around expecting people to educate us instead of doing our own academic work or at the very least actively working towards trying to understand something on our own.

this is really apparent in how people would seemingly much rather wait hours or days for someone to answer a question on here that is easily found on a quick google search. there’s a really big issue with this collective culture of passivity and waiting to “be informed” instead of informing yourself?

i also feel like this comes from some prominent tumblr usage being your dash acting like a news feed, which plays into larger news consumption culture in general; that if it’s important it’ll just find its way to you. it’s like a big drawback to a culture we built around creating an informant and educative culture in our groups on here, because it devolves into blatant laziness or willful ignorance, completely avoiding the entire point of being informed and educated as a constant action that never stops.

i see these posts come around every so often about how people should do their own research and ask questions, and one thing that is often overlooked is that the VAST majority of people who use this website are young. this data isn’t super new (more recent stats i found only track 18+), but two-thirds of users on this site are still in high school or middle school. 

as an adult in my early twenties with more education/work experience/life experience than someone who is thirteen or fifteen, i know how to do academic research, determine if a source is reliable and unbiased, etc. i definitely could not do that when i was in the 6th grade. i probably couldn’t do it until i was almost done with high school.

so many people who ask the kinds of questions this post is addressing don’t go look up the answers themselves becuase they don’t yet have the skills to do so. maybe they even tried and couldn’t find the answer. shaming them for asking questions - for genuinely wanting to know more about something important - seems cruel. often these questions are addressed to popular users who are vocal about these topics (aka someone seen as a reliable source) in an attempt to seek out information. i understand what is being said about passively waiting for information, and generally i do agree; but when someone goes out of their way to ask questions of someone who they believe knows more than them about a topic, that is active engagement via a pseudo-primary source.

people should do their own research, but people should also be able to ask questions and admit that they don’t know things. the culture of “if you don’t know, it’s your own fault” that surrounds these topics was a barrier for me when i was younger, and it is elitist and exclusionary. i would try to research something, end up confused, and be too afraid of someone calling me out for exactly this that i would just settle for being confused. 

to be clear, nobody is ever obligated to answer a question re: emotional labor. but if you are able, i believe you should be willing, or at the very least kind in your rejection when you are not. 

I truly did miss the white tumblr formula of taking nice but firm posts from marginalized people explaining how to interact with their content properly, and doing the necessary mental twists turns and flips to make them more argumentative and than they actually were

We’re very firmly in 2020, telling someone to “google it” might be condescending but... it’s an actual viable option. And it isn’t like any of these hypothetical wee 6th graders are going to be asked to look up Fanon and write a detailed analysis because 83% of this hellsite hasn’t read that shit either, all that’s being asked for is that they look up why maybe “why saying the N word is bad” or “why it’s offensive to wear a plains head dress” stuff that is easily found out using those exact search terms before they whine in someone else’s inbox

Like jesus christ calling this cruel, elitist, and exclusionary is just... Peak nonsense lmao, and on a year old post too you must have really been feeling it Mx. Crabs!

I’m back in this hell site

You finally put the pipe down and decided to pick it back up out of boredom smfh