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Key Elements in Self Respect and Self Care

1. Be aware of and respect your limits.

2. Don’t let others rule your life and calendar.

3. Take time out, and embrace solitude.

4. Listen to your heart, and do what’s best for you.

5. Accept that you’re not perfect – for we all mess up at times.

6. Make time for fun.

7. Treat yourself as valuable.

“When people walk away from you, let them go. You shouldn’t have to talk them into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, or coming to see you … For if they really cared about you in the first place, they would not be going anywhere.”

— Unknown

“I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds. Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from. I’m slowly learning that life is better lived when you don’t center it on what’s happening around you and center it on what’s happening inside you instead. Work on yourself and your inner peace.”

— TheMindsJournal

“How to tell if somebody is genuinely interested in you: If you removed all of your effort from the equation would any communication remain between you? If not, there is nothing there and you deserve better.”

— Beau Taplin

Developing a Positive Mental Attitude

1. Remind yourself that you are NOT your feelings.

2. Don’t sweat the small stuff; choose to focus on what matters. Ignore or overlook the petty things, and grievances.

3. Feel the power as you learn to take control of your reactions. You’re not just a puppet where someone pulls your strings.

4. Don’t agree with other peoples’ opinions of your value, or the way they rate your actions, your motives or achievements. Don’t let them be your judge, or the one who sets your worth.

5. Don’t compare yourself to others as we’re all different and unique. Set yourself some goals to go for, and celebrate when you succeed.

6. Accept that life’s a journey, and we grow and change with time. We don’t start off being perfect – so expect to get things wrong.

7. Love yourself completely and unconditionally. You’re a worthwhile individual – and you’ll get there in the end.

“To protect oneself’s best interests and mental health, it’s best to cut off negative relationships. The memories perhaps were great, you’ll always be grateful for what it was at the time, but like failed relationships, it’s time to move on. You don’t have to be friends with everyone forever. You need to set clear and firm boundaries that people around you should not cross to protect your best interests and mental health.”

— Dandan Zhu