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Elle | 27 | Eastern US | ((sideblog: @tilagg)) xoxoxellexoxox@gmail.com A collective sexual history and public documentation of my exploration, understanding, acceptance, and pride in my evolving sexuality. NSFW, this blog is for 18+

Side blog: @tilagg

Email: xoxoxellexoxox@gmail.com

Will absolutely be looking to start a new blog somewhere else (where NSFW content is allowed, as well as anonymous contribution and free (may consider cheap options)) and to follow all of my favorite blogs.

*also please back up your blogs! Tumblr and other websites provide options for backing up!

Please let me know where you’ll be headed 😖💖

Just returning briefly to say goodbye...

So it’s the eve of the smutapocalypse.. the dawn of filthagedon… the night before a million perverts call out in despair only to be silenced. The end of ‘Adult’ Tumblr.

Other, better, people than I have written and hopefully will continue to write about what a sad, destructive, and limiting thing this is. But I just wanted to briefly mourn the loss of the community we had on here - and salute one last time the fellow explorers of sexuality, the boundary pushers, the transgressors, and the loving, open, kind, curious people that came this way.

I haven’t posted on this blog in years, but there were a couple of years where I really put some time in… and find a modicum of renown in a small but beautifully twisted domain of the internet. Through this blog I found lovers and friends had experiences I had only previously dreamed of, shared thoughts and ideas, hopefully helped a few people think a little more clearly about their sexuality and desires, and learned a huge amount from other people sharing their own experiences, thoughts and feelings. 

It was, in a word, awesome. As well as fascinating, exciting, warm, loving, educational, stimulating and deeply, deeply sexy.

Things have moved on in the years since… I’m still very happily with my Scarlet girl, and whilst we’ve left London behind for a rural idle, and whilst we’re not quite so actively perverted, we are deeply happy together. Life is good - don’t ever let anyone tell you that poly is a death of a relationship, or that a desire for crazy, depraved, sex with delightful people is an indication of bad mental health or lack of personal growth. We’re as happy together as any couple of which I can think, and living good lives.

So one last time - thank you all for posting here, sharing your thoughts, ideas, fantasies, perversions and desires. Thank you for getting in touch and saying hello - you were lovely (and, you know, if you happen to come across this and want to say hello again I’m sure I’d be delighted to hear from you - I’m still at templekeeper@gmail.com). Thank you for the wonderful, brave, and talented sex workers who have created the material I’ve been so stimulated, inspired and energised by over the years. Thank you for being a community of smart, open-minded, stimulating and loving people.

Things change, communities come and go, but I hope someday once again to find somewhere that brings as much stimulation, friendship, worth, and depraved, despicable, degrading fucking as this place.

Take care lovely people - find someone you trust and do the dirtiest thing your heart desires. You’ll feel so much better for it.

😭💖

I really wanted to save this set to post in order along with the Adventures in Baeland stories, but Tumblr being sterilized wasn't something I anticipated. Part of me really doesn't want to post anything at all, but another part really wants to get this last set up before it's too late.

These pictures of Jordan (!) and I are from a very special night we had after Bridgie left. We had experienced a lot of "firsts" in one weekend, and while it was fulfilling (sorry I had to) and fun and truly significant, it was also a lot to process and navigate big, new feelings in real time. When it was just us again, I was feeling needy and raw and wanted a special way for us to reconnect.

My littleness has been a part of our dynamic for most of our relationship. I love how seamless and easy and natural it is for us, and that I have a partner I can share this facet of myself with. We'd had moments and days where we devoted time to "little" activities, but living at home/with roomies made it difficult to explore as much as I'd have liked to in the past.

One of the things I wanted, but was self-conscious about, was having "little" bathtime. I'd brought it up before, but I was too self-conscious to gauge if he was really into it, or willing to do it because I wanted it.

I decided that what I needed was a devoted little night, and I wanted him bathing me to be part of it.

I bought a bath bomb and pulled out the bathtub crayons I'd purchased specifically for this well over a year ago and explained what I wanted him to do. He drew the bath for me and we put the bath bomb in and he let me have time to play and color on the walls until I felt like I was done. Then he came in to the bathroom, having changed to basketball shorts in case he got wet, and washed my body and hair (which was hard to do, considering how wet I was). I had him pull a big, fluffy towel around me and help dry me off and pick out what he wanted me to wear. The original plan was that we would then watch a little movie together and then do blushy things and cuddle and have him put me to sleep, but his fingers ended up getting a bit sidetracked inside my cunt and I felt sensations I never had before (like, big deal, first-time-ever, close to orgasm-building feelings--even though he's fingered me a billion times).

It was a very special night.

I wasn't sure how much I would regress, but ended up asking for more time to color in the bath after each "just 10 more minnits!" and was lost in covering the walls in pretty hearts. It ended up being something special for both of us, and I was so happy to know he genuinely enjoyed it just as much.

I've been swooning over these pictures ever since and looking forward to sharing them with you 💖

Just for the fuck of it I took the time to politely complain to tumblr about their decision to remove adult content and inquire about their vague nonsense guidelines for what will be allowed after the 17th. This was their response.

They chose to not respond to my request for clarification about the guidelines and instead made a good jab about not wanting us to be a part of the community. Lol at the part about “striking a balance”.

That said, their initial announcement said that affected blogs would receive a notice, has anyone been sent one yet?

Ouch. WHO they want to be part of their community? I could see "what content "but WHO? Pretty shitty word choice....

Advice??

Hey everyone,

It’s been a while. And yes, I’ve changed my username to ask this question for privacy reasons.

I need your advice. I’m 24 years old and I identify as a GNC female. I also identify as gay because I’m attracted to other nonbinary people and women. However, actually dating them TERRIFIES me. I haven’t kissed anyone since I was 16 (which was terrible, and a boy), and now the girl I’ve been flirting with asked me out.

Here’s the problem: I think I might be asexual. And she’s definitely NOT. Yes, I get turned on during sexy scenes in movies, but actually doing that stuff with other people myself..? ASDFHJKBIVBESK. Flying solo is one thing, but tbh I don’t know if I can ever be with someone else. I’ve never had sex so far.

I’ve always been a heavy crusher, usually on unattainable people. But anytime someone has returned the attention and tried to be physical with me I freak out. Like, nauseous, sweating, heart racing, feel like I’ve just been in an accident.

I often think about the future and sometimes I feel like I’ll be alone forever (in a romantic sense; I’m an extravert with tons of other relationships). And sometimes that doesn’t seem so bad. Other times I see people in romantic relationships and I really want something like that.

Do you all have experiences like this?? What are you thoughts?? Feel free to reblog and respond or send me a message/ask.

Yep. This is my experience with every new prospective sexual partner when the subject of physical contact comes up. I still don't understand it; but I've come to chalk it up as part of my demisexuality identity, as I both desire and have sexual relationships with others.

For me, it's a really frustrating and confusing pattern to navigate. *Every* single person I've been interested in or has shown interest in me has caused a panicking response when the idea of sexual contact has come up. Most of this process invovles me being unaware or just wrong about how I *think* I'll react to certain sex acts/levels of touch/intimacy, and I'm often wrong (usually I'll think I'll want something and be up for it and then realize no, can't actually do the thing). It eventually gets easier for me to receive sexual attention, though took some *messy, harmful* troubleshooting when it came to determining when I'm actually potentially interested in someone...and when my resistance was trying to serve as a warning bell. (Bad experiences pushing through discomfort lead to realizing I must *always* honor how I feel). Then it generally becomes easier for me to receive sexual attention, and eventually feel comfortable reciprocating.

The fact I tend to feel boatloads of panic, shame, anxiety, and like I'm a selfish, greedy partner doesn't make it any easier. My current partner of 4.5 years handled this really well, and his sincere desire to be sexual with me even if I didn't reciprocate (without placating me) and general support allowed me to feel comfortable basically immediately.

It's been a learning process for sure and I have a lot of negative feelings about it, myself, and the work/strain it puts on others, but I'm trying to stop being so forceful and angrily yelling at my brain to FEEL THINGS and figure it out NOW; for some reason that doesn't seem to work very well 😜

(Also: sorry that wasn't very helpful or illuminating. I just wanted to share how I can relate to how you feel and how difficult figuring these things out can be. Whether asexual makes sense for you now, temporarily, permanently, or your perceptions and experiences change altogether: I hope you find some clarity soon 💖

What's the point?

I have so many hot stories to tell and pictures to share (and even wanna gush about the really hot sex I had yeaterday abd this morning!), but it just feels pointless. I'd just started getting better at using this blog and I'm still whining about all of this.

Anonymous asked:

Also I feel like I have to keep your blog alive

^ Things I've kept in my inbox that are now making me sad 💔

I can't dwell on this too much right now because I'll get too sad, but:

Anon, I've so appreciated your persistence and efforts and thought of you often. Thank you for caring about me and wanting to hear from me and encouraging me and....yep, gotta stop before the 😭 starts.

Thank you

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-Elle

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What’s next

Hey all.

I never really expected to find such a vibrant community of queer kinky folk into Daddy play, and Tumblr was magical in that regard.  I’ll miss it.

However, the community is far more important than the corporate platform it takes up space on.  If folks are going to delete their blogs, I encourage them to instead leave up their last post saying where they can be found.  I imagine that in the weeks and months ahead, we’ll want to find each other.

If you want to stay in touch, message me for private contact info.

Side blog: @tilagg

Email: xoxoxellexoxox@gmail.com

Will absolutely be looking to start a new blog somewhere else (where NSFW content is allowed, as well as anonymous contribution and free (may consider cheap options)) and to follow all of my favorite blogs.

*also please back up your blogs! Tumblr and other websites provide options for backing up!

Please let me know where you'll be headed 😖💖

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A better, more positive Tumblr

Since its founding in 2007, Tumblr has always been a place for wide open, creative self-expression at the heart of community and culture. To borrow from our founder David Karp, we’re proud to have inspired a generation of artists, writers, creators, curators, and crusaders to redefine our culture and to help empower individuality.

Over the past several months, and inspired by our storied past, we’ve given serious thought to who we want to be to our community moving forward and have been hard at work laying the foundation for a better Tumblr. We’ve realized that in order to continue to fulfill our promise and place in culture, especially as it evolves, we must change. Some of that change began with fostering more constructive dialogue among our community members. Today, we’re taking another step by no longer allowing adult content, including explicit sexual content and nudity (with some exceptions).  

Let’s first be unequivocal about something that should not be confused with today’s policy change: posting anything that is harmful to minors, including child pornography, is abhorrent and has no place in our community. We’ve always had and always will have a zero tolerance policy for this type of content. To this end, we continuously invest in the enforcement of this policy, including industry-standard machine monitoring, a growing team of human moderators, and user tools that make it easy to report abuse. We also closely partner with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and the Internet Watch Foundation, two invaluable organizations at the forefront of protecting our children from abuse, and through these partnerships we report violations of this policy to law enforcement authorities. We can never prevent all bad actors from attempting to abuse our platform, but we make it our highest priority to keep the community as safe as possible.

So what is changing?

Posts that contain adult content will no longer be allowed on Tumblr, and we’ve updated our Community Guidelines to reflect this policy change. We recognize Tumblr is also a place to speak freely about topics like art, sex positivity, your relationships, your sexuality, and your personal journey. We want to make sure that we continue to foster this type of diversity of expression in the community, so our new policy strives to strike a balance.

Why are we doing this?

It is our continued, humble aspiration that Tumblr be a safe place for creative expression, self-discovery, and a deep sense of community. As Tumblr continues to grow and evolve, and our understanding of our impact on our world becomes clearer, we have a responsibility to consider that impact across different age groups, demographics, cultures, and mindsets. We spent considerable time weighing the pros and cons of expression in the community that includes adult content. In doing so, it became clear that without this content we have the opportunity to create a place where more people feel comfortable expressing themselves.

Bottom line: There are no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content. We will leave it to them and focus our efforts on creating the most welcoming environment possible for our community.

So what’s next?

Starting December 17, 2018, we will begin enforcing this new policy. Community members with content that is no longer permitted on Tumblr will get a heads up from us in advance and steps they can take to appeal or preserve their content outside the community if they so choose. All changes won’t happen overnight as something of this complexity takes time.

Another thing, filtering this type of content versus say, a political protest with nudity or the statue of David, is not simple at scale. We’re relying on automated tools to identify adult content and humans to help train and keep our systems in check. We know there will be mistakes, but we’ve done our best to create and enforce a policy that acknowledges the breadth of expression we see in the community.

Most importantly, we’re going to be as transparent as possible with you about the decisions we’re making and resources available to you, including more detailed information, product enhancements, and more content moderators to interface directly with the community and content.

Like you, we love Tumblr and what it’s come to mean for millions of people around the world. Our actions are out of love and hope for our community. We won’t always get this right, especially in the beginning, but we are determined to make your experience a positive one.

Jeff D’Onofrio CEO

Not only will my entire tumblr now basically be an archive available to only myself, but my number one source of masturbation material will disappear. 

SEX IS NOT BAD. NO ONE NEEDS TO BE PROTECTED FROM SEX. FUCK SHAME.

WHERE DO I POST MY NUDES??????????????????????????????????????

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Same. Where to now folks?

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This. Where’s everybody going?!?

I CAN'T DEAL/THIS IS AWFUL/PLEASE GIVE ME IDEAS/SOMEONE HOLD MY HAND AND BRING ME TO A NEW PLATFORM.

Also, my email is xoxoxellexox@gmail.com

Please save it and reach out if things aren't sorted soon or if you'd like to connect (with new blog....not shenanigans) after the purge take 2 😖💔

No no no no no no no no no! 😭😭😭

ALL adult content isn't going to be allowed as of December 17th, 2018!

"Starting Dec 17, adult content will not be allowed on Tumblr, regardless of how old you are."

"Adult content primarily includes photos, videos, or GIFs that show real-life human genitals or female-presenting nipples, and any content—including photos, videos, GIFs and illustrations—that depicts sex acts."

"We will send out email notices to members of the Tumblr community whose content has been flagged as adult. If your post has been flagged as adult, it will be reverted to a private setting viewable only by you."

This is awful. What do we do? Please comment suggestions for new sites to go to, that can allow anonymous contributions/commenting. 😖💔