i could easily pluck out your eyeballs and use them in a youtube video titled "EYEBALL SOUP GONE WRONG!? (FUNNY)(NOT CLICKBAIT)" but I don't. I don't because I am a good person.

My extremely controversial opinion of the day is a lot of y'all need to learn the difference between sexuality, sexual preference, and someone just being rude and closed minded.

I will agree someone saying on their Grindr profile "no fats or fems" is rude, derogatory, and can be interpreted as "fat or feminine men are unattractive" and also automatically disqualifies them regardless of their other traits, HOWEVER someone having preferences isn't wrong depending what they're looking for.

If a guy is looking for a hookup, no strings attached, etc... they're allowed to say they aren't interested in a certain type of guy. Personally, I am not TYPICALLY attracted to feminine men. I don't believe they are unattractive to everyone, I just personally do not have sexual attraction to them, though that doesn't mean I find them ugly or give someone a chance if I found them physically attractive to me, but being called out on it like it's bad to have preferences is honestly the same as saying I should sleep with every single guy regardless of how I feel just to be fully inclusive which is NOT a healthy way to have sex.

When someone says something like "no blacks" or something, that isn't a preference, that is racism. They are straight up saying "I don't care how you act or how you look, I judge people by the color of their skin" that's racist, putting all black people under an umbrella and even if it's just a "personal opinion" the personal opinion is "all black people are ugly"

What I'm trying to say is that while sexual preferences are okay, excluding an entire group by putting it in your Grindr profile is bad, it makes those people feel bad, and you're missing out on a lot of possibilities you may not know you were in to. But if I meet up with someone or even talk to them for a while to get to know them and I simply do not find them attractive, that's okay.

But I've rejected a guy who was three times my age (him 65, me 22 at the time) and was accused of agism. I rejected a guy once cause he focused his entire personality into being as flamboyantly gay as possible, I didn't reject him for being flamboyant, I rejected him because he had no other traits, the gay community was his entire personality which I personally find actually mentally unhealthy to focus literally everything you are on your sexuality, however didn't take long for accusations from the LGBT+ center at my school for discriminating against feminine or flamboyant men.

This happens here all the time and y'all really gotta recognize that there's a difference between not giving someone a chance because of a single trait they have and rejecting someone you've given a chance to because you just aren't attracted to their type (type in this case means the list of traits that make up a personality). People should never feel pressured by anyone, ESPECIALLY strangers on the internet, to have sex with people they don't want to have sex with. Sometimes you just gotta recognize the difference and stay in your own lane tbh