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Phlox

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competitive splat player trying to make his way in the world
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I know the jpop fanbase is small on here but the silence on the assault on a Japanese idol by 2 men is so worrying. Hating idol culture doesn’t mean you should ignore serious issues like this. If we don’t get this more attention Japanese media will literally ignore it because the group’s management is already making this girl apologize for HERSELF being assaulted in front of the men who assaulted HER. It’s disgusting and it shouldn’t go unnoticed.

Teach boys about periods

My mother also talked about periods to my brothers.

When I first got mine I had terrible cramps. Crippling cramps. I once was camping with my family and a few of my big brother’s friends when my period came. My cramps were so bad that my mom gave me a full pain killer ( I was 13 and before that she only gave me pills cut in half).

I literally laid down on my parents’ air mattress and cried in pain for an hour before the pill kicked in.

My brothers friend came in to the big tent and I was just curled up and sobbing. Now, I was quite the tomboy and was known to rough house with my brothers and their friends and made sure I wasnt seen as just “a little girl.” So my brother’s friend was confused to see me openly weeping in the fetal position (seriously, these were the worst cramps I have had in my life. My vision went white). He asked what was wrong with me.

My big brother stood up immediately and suggested a nice long hike. During this hike I am sure he had a pretty awkward conversation with his friend explaining menstrual cramps, because when they got back the pain pill had (mostly) kicked in and I was sitting up at a table when my brother’s friend sheepishly asked me if I was feeling better. I said I was better, and he said good.

When we made s'mores that night my brother and his friend kept me well supplied with chocolate.

Making sure sons know as much about periods and menstruation as daughters makes them better brothers, better sons better fathers, and better men. A man that understands a period will not lightly accuse a woman of “being on her period” if the woman is in an argument.

Raise better sons Teach them about normal bodily functions.

HIT REBLOG PLEASE

this reminds me of that post about that dude who carries tampons with him at the gym because “half the world menstruates” and “you will build a whole guest room in case your friends want to stay the night but you won’t carry tampons in case they start their periods unexpectedly” or something and honestly they both give me life. <3

My mom makes sure that my brothers knew everything and periods. It’s made them the most helpful people in the world to me. They know what pads/tampons to get, what pain pills and even some of my favorite snacks during that time. They have also helped their friends and those around them. It’s something that really goes a long way.

It is our duty as feminists to protect and respect women in Hijabs

Now. More. Than. Ever.

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littlepumpkinprincess

Question: if I see someone pull off a Hijab, what should I do? I know there are reasons they are worn so I want to if i should stand in between them and who did this, should i protect them from view somehow, or something else? This has been happening a lot so I feel it’s something everyone needs to know.

Good question! I cannot correctly and effectively answer, as I am a white, non-Muslim person; however, I will reblog in case any of my followers can answer. 

I asked my Hijabi friend, so here’s one Hijabi’s answer: 

“my opinion is, definitely try cover them or give them something to cover themselves with. And perhaps shoo off the person, without putting oneself in danger! God forbid, if that happened to me, I would like someone to come and comfort me and give me something to cover my hair with and then help me report it to the cops “

(Followers, if any of you are hijabi and would like to expand on this answer or offer alternatives, please do.)

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sarsbabe77

If u see it happen to 1 of us, pls cover our head + hair with a coat or shawl or any piece of cloth, while hugging us in comfort. Please don’t get hurt by lashing out @ the perpetrators in any way, coz if they dare to do that, they’re probably too far gone in their own hatred to listen to any reason. Much love + Thank You to anyone who supports us.

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raphaelsdumort

yes !! everything said here is important af. if you see someone pull off a girl’s hijab immediately cover her hair and provide comfort. don’t talk to the perpetrator but try to get the woman out of there if you can. maybe if you have a scarf on you at the time give it to her so she can wear it until she’s alone and can replace her hijab. please please protect muslim girls because we already had it hard before donald trump became president and now its gonna be worse with people going around thinking their violence and cruelty is justified 

for my other white ppl who might have a hard time, it’s my understanding that a hijab is like a major item of clothing, not an accessory like a hat or a scarf. so think abt it more like if someone just ripped someone’s shirt or skirt off. u don’t want to be left there exposed or have to walk home without it.

everyone, even outside America needs to protect our Muslim sisters in these times.

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testxsterone

as a man, what would be the best thing to do? should i turn my head and avoid looking at their hair? can i still offer a jacket or something similar?

^I’m hoping someone has an answer islamaphpbia is on the rise in my town and I want to be a good male non Muslim ally

For men, yes please, we would prefer it if you avoided looking at our hair, and if we don’t have something to substitute as a hijab at that moment, anything you could lend us, a jacket, etc, would be very appreciated.

Also, since most girls avoid physical contact with men they’re not related to, please do not hug them, but rather shoo the offender away if you can, or at least escort the girl to a safe place. You can still offer words of encouragement and support. Furthermore, understand that the victim may not be very welcoming towards you because she’ll obviously be shaken, and won’t know where you are coming from. If that’s the case, please still give her something to cover herself (hijab is very important, think of it as someone ripping your shirt off) and stand some distance away until you are sure she’s in safe hands.

Thank you so much for your support, we really appreciate it, god bless all of you.

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clairethehuntress

In the horrible climate we’re currently in, please take note of this.

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d6-da-maniac

Reblogging this again for the guy-instructions

Same

If you’ve got an emergency kit for events/rallys/etc, an inexpensive/thrift store shawl or scarf is a great addition to it.  It can keep you/someone else warm, it can be used as a makeshift sling or bag, and it can be used for this!  Something light but opaque that can be folded to many sizes is ideal.

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song-bird-shawn

I LOVE YOU Y'ALL SO MUCH. BLESS YOU

Allyship means being informed.

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ratatoskr-the-shithead

Stay informed and be ready to act, and fuck it; I say get a quick sucker punch in before getting the victim outta there

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Coming into a fandom late

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baxtersaurus

Coming into a fandom early and watching it become an angry clusterfuck

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valerieparker

Being in a dormant fandom that suddenly comes alive again after a new book/movie

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221books

Don’t forget about those who come in the midst of a fandom war. 

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dj-killer

Accuracy at its best

Being in a fandom and not even knowing there’s a war going on…

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all of this shit…lol

When You’re Not In The Fandom But You’re Nosy AF

When you get into a fandom only to discover it’s dead

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This gets better every time I see it. 

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inverted-mind-inc

Being in a dead fandom…

Or being in such a tiny fandom that it feels like youre the only one

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eriplier

The accuracy hurts.

Being in a fandom that had a shit ending.

When you’ve been fangirling long enough, you’ve experienced all of the above.

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abh95

Being in a fandom meant for kids.

This just gets better..

When you realize that joining the fandom has ruined you

Fandom hell in general

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markisexbang

Yes.

This^^^ just… ALL OF THIS.

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tgif-441

Being in so many fandoms that you don’t even know what’s going on

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skuldvggerypleasant

THIS IS THE SKULDUGGERY FUCKING PLEASANT FANDOM IN ONE POST!!

Trying to recruit people to your fandom

Annnnnnndddd it’s back

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ishipwhatiship247

Being in a fandom which has so many antis

I’ve probably reblogged this before, but that was before these great additions.

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swanqueen-in-gotham

Being in a fandom that actually works together

Why is this so true? All of it.

being in a fanbase but all your mutuals suddenly turn into Kpop blogs

I always enjoy it when a good post comes around again and has been improved by the reblogs like the years for a fine wine.

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feyreacher0n

Being in a fandom when shit goes down and everyone has different opinions

When you are in a fandom and don’t care for others people opinion…..even if they are right…(believe me, I have met several of those)

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spacewalkerkru

Being in a fandom you never meant to join

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tirnelstargazer

I love this. and it’s gotten better

After abandoning a fandom you’re still a little bit emotionally invested in….

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trickster-grrrl

THIS IS A TUMBLR RELIC! ALWAYS REBLOG!

For once I finished a Halloween drawing in time, wooh!

Witch Niko wishes you all a happy Halloween, Samhain, or anything that you may celebrate! May your day be spooky and spiritual. 🎃

hhi so my i’m assuming that one of my friends submitted you one of my artworks…well, i’m the one who drew that lil’ pic of the solstice kiddos and i’m really happy you liked it!! i feel so loved now and i just wanted to show you my niko scratch art i did cause i love you and your awesome game so here ya go

rainbow scratch art! now THAT’s what I call……. cool.. …. B)

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i see your ‘nowhere in the nursery rhyme does it say humpty dumpty was an egg’ and raise you ‘nowhere in the legendarium does tolkien say that elves have pointed ears’

Mary Shelley didn’t give the monster bolts.

Arthur Conan Doyle never put Holmes in a deer stalker (also “elementary my dear Watson” is never said in the books, and he doesn’t smoke a curved pipe)

There are boys at Beauxbatons and girls at Durmstrang schools

Edgar Allan Poe wrote the earliest essay on the big bang theory

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trustme-im-a-pirate

fuck this site I thought the tv show for the briefest of seconds and the shit machine in my skull thought “quoth the raven ‘Bazongo”