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today tony abbott made himself the minister of women’s affairs here

THANKS AUSTRALIA.

a reminded that our current prime minister has molested an aboriginal woman, has spoken against women who don’t save their virginity before marriage, has mixed feelings about contraception and literally doesn’t believe that women will ever dominate or gain equality

Here’s a fun exercise: swap out the term “political correctness” for “empathy.”

“Empathy is a form of censorship.”

“Empathy is ruining this country.”

"I don’t care about being empathetic.”

Reeeeeeally puts a different spin on things.

EVERYONE gets niqab and burka the wrong way round in the West. And when it’s large media organisations, it’s really inexcusable.

They also frequently speak over us.

could someone please explain this to me? i’ve never seen anything like this before and i really don’t know where i would look to research it myself… it’s certainly troubling .-.;

Explain what, exactly?

What ableism have you experienced? I’m sorry that it’s happened, no one should pull this shit, especially not feminists. It’s horseshit.

From feminists explicitly or in real life….? 

Well, the vast majority of feminists (especially Tumblr’s Popular SJ Feminist circle) pretty much dismiss ableism entirely. They will make jokes (“ableism is so lame”, “God, know your privilege because not everyone can sign their name”, etc (yes, these are real examples)), and when someone confronts their ableist language or erasure of PWD, they will either ignore you, delete your ask, or straight up say that ableism isn’t real. On top of this, the ones who DO admit it’s real often ignore any sort of intersectionality — they claim that it’s not an “important” issue, or that it’s nothing more than being PC (to not use ableist language). Oftentimes, it’s as simple as “Please don’t use the r word, since PWD are constantly subject to being called as such”, only to be told that we need to stop being so PC and sensitive and suck it up because women have it worse than PWD (again, ignoring any and all intersectionality). Even more often is speaking above or for PWD instead of with them, often saying, “Well, if I was disabled, I wouldn’t be doing what you’re saying….” or “Well, my PWD cousin said THIS….”, etc. Furthermore, I’ve seen cases where my view is instantly dismissed BECAUSE of my disability(ies), such as, “Well, no offense, but because you’re autistic, you couldn’t POSSIBLY know what’s going on in terms of this social situation, so your view is invalid….” or “Well, just because YOU’RE Deaf doesn’t mean that any other Deaf person sees it that way!” etc. And it’s exhausting, because feminists often claim to be for equal rights for all, yet completely and utterly ignore any PWD while furthering the ableist attitude of society.

Man, I’m a feminist and I can kick in some ableist shit feminists pull, too.

And this is just a tiny list of what I could come up with if I wanted to keep writing.  Feminists, like everybody else, can be wildly ableist. 

*These starred ones?  They actually undo some of the feminist arguments, by alleviating some of the blame that should be put on the abuser and putting it on the disability, instead.  But mental illness doesn’t make anyone abusive, being abusive fucking does. 

See, this is what I'm talking about when I say I'll accept sensible, valid criticisms of feminism. And this one is definitely important to acknowledge.

It’s real funny [except not funny at all] how the way to devalue, dehumanize and gaslight women is to say they have Daddy Issues

Daddy Issues became a well known thing because men have become known for abusing and leaving their children

And yet, somehow that’s a reflection on the daughter and not men

But Feminists make up sexism right?

there are legitimately men out there who think that by saying “don’t objectify women” we are saying “you are not allowed to find women attractive”

these guys actually cannot see a difference

do not fix your dark circles let the world know youre tired of its shit and ready to kill a man

me

That’s not what feminism is about you fucking weiner

Obabiyi Aishah Ajibola of Nigeria is crowned World Muslimah 2013. 

fuck those social experiment type things where people in privileged situations *dress up* as marginalised groups in order to ~experience oppression~

like that girl who wore the hijab, and that video that switched around straight people and gay people’s positions in society, and now this latest video where a male actor dresses up as a woman to experience sexual harassment

fuck them because you could just ask oppressed people about their experiences and let their voices be heard instead of interjecting yourself into the situation and silencing them over again

WOOOHOOOOO lol one day when i’m older i’ll do this XDD

SPREAD THIS AROUND YOU GUYS ITS ACTUALLY IMPORTANT!!! 

Signal Boost!

1. We’re not all guys. In fact many of us. Are not guys. Stahp. 2. To be able to deduct trans related care, implies that we make enough $ to pay for it. We don’t. We absolutely definitively don’t. 3. Unless you are talking abt the transmasculine folks who seem to get jobs & money for surgery & take up all the advocacy positions and make trans advice blogs that don’t ever mention trans women or the issues we face. 4. Like massive discrimination in the workplace and on tumblr and everywhere else. 5. To act like this fixes things, is to pretend that the state of trans health care is in a far less broken state than it currently exists.

Like let’s talk about how my entire adult life my income is below poverty line yet somehow I can’t get medicaid, foodstamps, pro-rated or discount SRS, therapists or doctors that can actually listen to me or do anything useful. Like how all the advocacy & internships I see at LGBT institutions are unpaid (sorry I can’t afford to help yr cause, I guess its not for me!) Maybe this would be useful if my family didn’t hate me andsomehow had extra money to make this a meaningful tax deduction but everything I know abt cashflow issues I learned from my parents. Sooo how’s this supposed to fix anything? I’m waiting…

::nods vigorously::

Margaret Cho, “Yes Means Yes” (via spitswap)

I am a Vietnamese woman.  This is my truth:  My mother tried six times to leave our home country after the war in hopes of a better life.  Each time we were caught at the border and sent back.  Because of her perseverence we finally succeeded on the 7th try.  It took several on-foot border crossings, a safe house, two fishing boat trips, two refugee camps, and six months for us to get to the United States.  My aunt, already living in the States, sponsored us.  My mother worked two jobs and went to school full time the first few years just to make a life for us.  I started in ESL classes, and 25 years later I am now pursuing a medical degree.  My Vietnamese name was torn apart and mocked on the playground so much I changed to an American first name when I got naturalized to make things easier. I am queer.  I am somewhere between masculine and feminine.  I was born in Saigon and now a US citizen living in Minnesota.  Miss Saigon missed the boat my family and I took to get here. - Vi-Anh

So the Ordway Theatre Company of St. Paul, Minnesota is trying to bring back Miss Saigon to the Twin Cities for the third time, and for the third time, the Asian American community of Minnesota is rallying together to protest against it. 

If y’all don’t know, Miss Saigon is a broadway musical placed in the 1970s in Saigon, and is about the romanticization of war and a “love story” between an American G.I. soldier and a Vietnamese prostitute. It’s a gross representation of Vietnamese women, and are shown as hypersexualized lotus blossoms and are depicted as victims from a Third-World country, who need to be saved by the “Great American White Man.” It takes away any sort of agency or voice Vietnamese women could have, and does not speak any truth that is ours (as Vietnamese people) to give. 

Anyway, this third time around, there’s this great project going on of Vietnamese women (in Minnesota and elsewhere, I think) coming out and talking against the production. It’s really beautiful, and I’m so so so proud of this community that I’m a part of. 

So check out the site, Don’t Buy Miss Saigon: Our Truth Project, and support the Viet women who are speaking out! 

 coretta was better than mlk. remember that. remember that she coulda been like a beyoncè-yoyo ma hybrid if she didn’t join the revolution with her cheating husband. i wish that history books would really talk about her political work outside of her husband.

can we get the history books to talk about sexism in the civil rights movement in general? maybe just a little bit? like i need fannie lou hamer to be the center of any crm discussion. 

Let’s talk about how the Civil Rights Movement was incepted by Black women seeking retribution and community consciousness about the rape and assault of Black women and girls. Rosa Parks was a typist and recorder for what would be the equivalent of a rape crisis center. The Civil Rights Movement was a women’s movement that shifted gears to garner attention b/c even in the scheme of racialized oppression; people cared more about Black men’s pain/suffering than that of Black women. All of this with the hopes that women’s rapes, assaults, kidnappings and lynchings would get attention by association/proximity to those of men. 

READ THIS BOOK! CHANGED MY COMPLETE PERSPECTIVE OF THE CIVIL RIGHTS MOVEMENT AND REPRESENTATION OF RACIALIZED OPPRESSION.