“female characters often have weaker writing compared to male characters” and “audience is unable to appreciate female characters no matter the quality of the writing because they subconsciously see female characters as women first and people second” are two statements that can, should and will coexist
“Budapest Courtyards” by Yves Marchand et Romain Meffre, Budapest, Hongrie, 2015.
Although I love you all very much and greatly appreciate all that you do to encourage and support me, I am also unfathomably afraid of every single one of you
this might seem like a cute jokey “haha i have anxiety” post but i’ve truly never been more serious about anything in my entire life. And I can’t even think of how to properly explain why
Each and every one of you has the ability to singlehandedly destroy my entire career and take away my entire income overnight. And after all that i’ve been through and worked for to make my goals happen for myself, that’s scarier to me than absolutely anything.
It’s gotten to a point where i’m afraid to publicly express even the most benign approval of any artist or individual for fear that they may have done something problematic that I never knew about, and that a post will be made about how i support someone who is evil, and my income will suffer because of it.
I am afraid even to allow myself to form any sort of emotional connection to any artist’s work.
I’m afraid to form any sort of close friendships with other artists and even most of my own fans for fear that someday they’ll do something bad and then i’ll get called out by association for being friends with them, and my income will suffer because of it.
An unreasonable amount of pressure is laid upon queer people (particularly those with an audience) by other queer people to be in-the-know about who’s dangerous and who isn’t, and so, I am on eggshells 200% of the time, for fear that everything i’ve worked so hard for over the past 3 years will disappear overnight.
I’ve watched several friends’ careers fizzle and die over rumors, misinterpretations, quotations taken out of context, troll callouts,
Someone even put me on a TERF list last year (yup. for real. ME. 4lung. a trans lesbian. on a TERF list.) and a few people actually believed it.
I thought it was hilarious at the time, but now that my income is bound so closely to my web presence, this kind of thing would have had me devastated had it happened more recently.
I understand that everyone is just trying to keep everyone else safe. And I think that is very admirable and encouragable. But i’ll be damned if i’m not terrified of anyone who would take advantage of that fact for their own gain or amusement.
None of you are in the wrong. You are all just trying to do the right thing. Thank you for protecting me and for protecting one another. But i’ll be damned if every single day of my life I don’t drive myself into paranoia over the fact that each and every person on this platform possesses that power over one another.
I thought this was a comical shitpost and then it turned into Big Mood
A douyin promoted on an account that recaps interesting events seen on the platform.
English added by me :)
(tag from @eastberlin)
Something about this is so genuine and funky. It feels so natural that if I heard the correct lyrics it wouldn't process as right in my brain. This man yelling about his green tea and watermelon sour patch kids fits so well with the live music playing in the background, the atmosphere, the whole situation. It's like some reverse slam poetry talking about how good life is and how the simple pleasures should be enjoyed. I'm in love with this tik tok.
quinndolyns-deactivated20220403
he transformed... magical pot...
Ink well
My God they actually look like dogs now
jlegaspi178
Lord, the changes! DO PUGS NEXT!!!
ACTUALLY! A breeder in Germany started to breed healthier pugs called “retro mops” and currebtly ppl are trying to get AKC and UKC to recongnize them as the new standard.
heres the comparison:
jlegaspi178
Reblogging with updates! Healthy bulldogs AND healthy pugs! ❤️
The absurd breed standards are a recent thing, developed in the past 100-150 years. The healthier breeds are much closer to their 19th century ancestors.
A pair of French bulldogs painted by Carl Reichert (1836-1918)
“Sweet Temptation or Willpower”
Charles Van den Eycken, 1891.
“Sweet temptation or willpower” I love that painting so much
dan-mcneely-deactivated20210328
going thru phone pics and found this thing that was tacked up next to the toaster at my old job, if anyone needs some light toast eating reading material
Would anyone be kind enough to transcribe this or link to a text version?
Everything Is AWFUL and I’m Not Okay: Questions to Ask Before Giving Up on Yourself
Are you hydrated?
If not, have a glass of water. Dehydration can mimic or increase feelings associated with anxiety and a well hydrated brain functions optimally. Avoid excess caffeine.
Have you eaten in the past three hours?
Don’t be a victim of hanger! Get some food–something with protein, not just simple carbs or high-fat. Nuts, hummus, and veggies are great options to feed your studying brain. Keep healthy snacks within reach to avoid mindlessly chowing down on sweets.
Have you stretched your legs in the past day?
If not, do so right now. If you don’t have the energy or time for a run or a trip to the gym, just walk around the block or building. Even minimal exercise preps the mind for learning so that you can focus better and recall things easier, plus it’s good to get a change of scenery.
Have you said something nice to someone in the past day?
Do so, whether online or in person. Make it genuine! We bet your study partner would appreciate a compliment.
Have you moved your body to music in the past day?
If not, jog for the length of a song at your favorite tempo, or just dance around your bedroom for the length of an upbeat song (singing along is a bonus)
Have you cuddled a living being in the past two days?
If not, do so. Don’t be afraid to ask for hugs from friends of friends’ pets. Most of them will enjoy the cuddles too; you’re not imposing.
Have you started or changed any medications in the past couple of weeks, including skipped doses or a change in generic prescription brand?
That may be screwing with your head. Give things a few days, then talk to your doctor if it doesn’t settle down.
If daytime: are you dressed?
If no, put on clean clothes that aren’t PJs. Give yourself permission to wear something special, whether it’s a funny t-shirt or a pretty dress.
If nighttime: are you sleepy and fatigued but resisting going to sleep?
Put on PJs, make yourself cozy in bed with a teddy bear and the sound of falling rain, and close your eyes for fifteen minutes while focusing on breathing deeper with every breath- no electronic screens allowed! Adequate sleep is a necessity for stress management.
Do you feel ineffective?
Pause right now and get something small completed, whether it’s responding to an email, loading the dishwasher, or tidying up your room. Good job!
Do you feel unattractive?
Take a darn selfie. Your friends will remind you how great you look. You are always insta-worthy.
Do you feel paralyzed by indecision?
Give yourself ten minutes to sit back and figure out a game plan for the day. If a particular decision or problem is still being a roadblock, simply set it aside for now, and pick something else that seems doable. Right now, the important part is to break through that stasis, even if it means doing something trivial.
Have you over-exerted yourself lately–physically, emotionally, socially, or intellectually?
That can take a toll that lingers for days. Give yourself a break in that area, whether it’s physical rest, taking some time alone, or relaxing with some silly entertainment for a little. Time spent refreshing yourself is never time “wasted!”
Have you waited a week?
Sometimes or perception of life is skewed, and we can’t even tell that we’re not thinking clearly, and there’s no obvious external cause. It happens. Keep yourself going for a full week, whatever it takes, and see if you still feel the same way then.
You’ve made it this far; and you will make it through. You are stronger than you think.
Because someone might need this today
You have survived 100% of your worst days.
This too shall pass.