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Gabrielle Bernstein

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I am the New York Times bestselling author of Miracles Now, May Cause Miracles, Spirit Junkie, Add More ~ing to Your Life. I'm also the founder of www.HerFuture.com. For more about my work visit www.gabbyb.tv

Valentine’s Day is coming up! And in our culture it’s next to impossible to escape it.

There are so many expectations for V-Day. If you’re single, there can be all kinds of drama around it. In a new relationship? Drama! In a relationship for years? Still a good chance for drama!

So how do we deal with all of this madness? Before you hide out in your closet with a heart-shaped box of chocolates, hear me out! I’ve worked out your best Valentine’s Day plans ever.

Here goes: I want to take the focus off Valentine’s Day and put it onto you. Instead of getting tripped up about romance and relationships and what we think things should look like on this one day, make Valentine’s Day about your self-care and self-love. Pretty rad, right?

Devoting this day to your spiritual practices and nurturing yourself takes the pressure off. Instead of freaking out about being single, you can bask in the awesome experience of treating yourself with love. Instead of heaping a ton of expectations on your romantic partner, you can let them (and yourself) off the hook. You’ll be able to see Valentine’s Day in a different light.

And there’s a bonus to focusing on yourself — one that can spark up some fire in your romantic life! See what I’m talking about and check out some of my self-care ideas in the video below. I hope this serves you, and I hope you have a very happy Valentine’s Day.

Making new commitments can be a little scary. But whatever resolution you’ve made, you made it for a reason. You’re ready to show up for something that’s important to you. So I’m here to be your spiritual cheerleader. You don’t have to go for two weeks and then fall away from your new pattern. You can have a true shift and experience a miracle!

Watch the video below to learn how to stick with your commitment and let the miracles roll in. (I also share MY resolution and how I’m showing up for it!) I’m here for you, so please leave comments and let me know what you want in 2016! I hope this video serves you.

Hey there, Spirit Junkies! Today I’m really excited to give you a tool you can use any time, anywhere to return to a place of peace and happiness. The truth is, it’s super easy to get knocked out of that happy place. It happens to me all the time! It happens so easily it can be kind of scary.

There are lots of reasons to feel frustrated or anxious or scared at times. The world is filled with chaos. Whether in the news or in our daily lives, fearful messages are everywhere. Thankfully, we have lots of tools that can help us reconnect to stillness and joy. So when you get bumped out of your happy place, remember there is a solution.

In just one minute, this beautiful tool can take you right back home — right back to happiness. Watch the video below to learn one of my favorite Kundalini mantra meditations. Even if you have just 60 seconds to spare, this will help you big time. The next time you feel like you’ve been shaken from a place of peace and happiness, turn to it. You can even do it right now! And please leave a comment to let me know how it worked for you. I hope this video serves you.

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I want to start today’s blog by asking you a few quick questions:

• Do you feel low level negative vibes throughout the day? • Do you compare yourself to others, whether negatively or positively? • Are you holding on to negative beliefs about yourself or someone else that you just can’t release?

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then it’s likely you’re caught in a judgment spiral.

Judgment keeps us from peace, and the reason is simple: It creates separation. Though judgment may be our default, unity is our truth. The moment we release judgment, unity is restored — and each shift from judgment to unity is a miracle.

In the video below, I share my personal experience of what it means (and takes) to detox from judgment. Watch it and set yourself free! This is the solution to your only problem…

Recently a good friend came to me because she’d just ended a relationship — the latest in a string of relationships that were all essentially the same, with the same problems and issues. I got real with her and said, “This is your universal assignment.” We all have personal stories of fear and doubt and uncertainty from the past that we need to heal. And until we do, they keep showing up in our life — because the Universe is communicating a very important message to us.

In this video, I share the 3 steps to take when you’re ready to show up for a universal assignment. You have the capacity to heal past wounds! Show up for your universal assignments and become free.

Free presentation:

Learn how to avoid making the same mistake twice! Gabby offers guidance on how to release addictive behavior and create lifelong change in her free audio presentation. To access the audio, click below!

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Featured course: To dive deeper into the topic of healing universal assignments, check out my digital course, Turn on Your Inner Light. offers truthful guidance on life, inspiration and inner power. Each talk is followed by a Kundalini yoga set that aligns with the core lessons from the presentation. Throughout the course I share authentic tools for restoring your thoughts back to peace, straight-talk on how to ground your spiritual practice in your day-to-day life experiences, and energizing yoga kriyas to awaken your true power and inspiration. Check out the digital course here.

“Do you try to plan every area of your life? Do you project your schedule onto the future and do everything in your power to make sure things turn out the way you want? If so, then we have a lot in common. I’m a recovering over-planner. In my early twenties I tried to plan everything from when I would achieve professional goals to when I’d get married. And guess what? Exactly zero of my plans happened the way I’d projected! But now I know that’s a good thing. Instead, my life has unfolded in ways far better than I ever could have imagined.

In this video I share a story and tips about how to let go of the need to plan (and control) the course of your life. If you’re trying to live on a schedule, this video is for you!

If you dig this topic you’ll also like these resources:

– Learn how to surrender your goals to the universe with my free video presentation, Empowered Intuition. Check it out here.

– If this video helped you then you’re going to love this! Check out this awesome archived video blog onHow to Handle Situation that are out of Your Control.

I speak and write often about my love for Marianne Williamson, who has been offering up incredible wisdom and guidance for decades. Marianne is the New York Times best-selling author of A Return to Love and countless other titles. Ten years ago, when I got sober and reignited my spiritual journey, Marianne was my greatest inspiration. Her interpretations and teachings of A Course in Miracles rocked my world and set me on my path.

Marianne’s work greatly supported me in healing my darkest addiction of all: codependency. Through her books, talks and workshops I was led out of the inky depths of addiction and back to freedom and love. In fact, the week after my wedding I sent Marianne a thank-you note explaining that if it hadn’t been for her work I wouldn’t have been able to create such a healthy partnership.

A few weeks ago when I was in L.A. I had the privilege of sitting down with Marianne over tea. In an hourlong conversation she was able to tap into a new development in my spiritual recovery: my ability to be vulnerable and feminine. She helped me witness and understand a shadow side of myself that I had been unable to see on my own. She helped me see how I had lost my connection to my greatest source of truth: my femininity. Not only did she help me witness my shadow but she guided me back to the light. She offered me spiritual guidance, prayer and concrete advice. Once again, her words and teachings transformed me.

I was so blown away by Marianne’s capacity to open me up to such profound wisdom. After our time together I began thinking about the women in my life: my mother, my friends, my business contemporaries. Had they lost touch with their vulnerability and femininity too? It quickly became clear to me that I am not alone. If you’re a woman reading this, whether you realize it or not you may feel like something is missing or a part of you is lost. If that’s the case then have no fear! Nothing is lost — the flame has just dwindled. In an effort to support your feminine spark I decided to bring Marianne’s words to you.

In this interview Marianne shares why it’s so important for women to reclaim their femininity and vulnerability. We chat about her upcoming live and digital course, The Aphrodite Training. She touches on the ever-present issue of work-life balance and reveals the most transformational tools from her own practice of nurturing her femininity. I hope this interview serves you greatly.

Why is it important to align vulnerability with power? First of all, our vulnerability is power … just a different kind. Magnetic power is as important as dynamic power, and most women feel emotionally bereft if we saunter out into the world yet find we’re lonely in the intimate realms.

How can we balance both our work lives and our romantic lives? First of all, we have to make space for what we really want. Too many people today — men as well as women — have allowed our work lives to eat up too many hours of the day. We spend too much of our energy on work while leaving our romantic lives unattended to. Women as well as men started thinking that romance was either less important, or that it would just magically happen without too much effort. But the opposite is true. Living a romantic existence takes as much thought, time and energy as any other area of life. But it also gives us more time and energy, which is the amazing thing. Deep romance is a spiritual experience, and one of the most powerful in its effect on all aspects of our lives.

You have an incredible training coming up this month. Can you tell us more about the Aphrodite training? The arc of my own journey was this: When my career became successful, my intimate relationships started to go south. For a long time I thought this was just my own personal drama, unique to me. But as I began to navigate the waters of my own emotional turbulence, I realized I wasn’t alone. This was a generational wound, a remnant of a flawed strain of feminism in which we suppressed the feminine in the name of feminism. In our manifestation of worldly power, a lot of us became so masculine that we started to succeed in a worldly sense but at the expense of other areas of our lives.

Practicing what I learned from Pat Allen [and] A Course in Miracles, plus going through various experiences of life and love, I ultimately began to heal in my broken places. And for a long time I thought the generations of women younger than me weren’t making the mistakes that mine had made; I thought they had self-corrected and would be okay. But over the last few years I’ve realized, “Egads! In some ways they’re even more wounded that we were!” I’ve seen that the journey I’ve been on is the journey of many women, of all ages, and I feel I’ve learned some things that can contribute to their healing process.

What can women expect from this training? Most of us are carrying around a lot of trapped light, suppressed feminine, unintegrated Aphrodite. Athena, the goddess of wisdom and war, might be thriving in our lives, but she is a virgin goddess. Her sister Aphrodite, the goddess of love and romance and pleasure, can live in us too, but we have to make room for her. She can’t thrive where she is not embodied, and she can’t be embodied by a woman who is ashamed of her, or invalidates her, or disowns her. That’s what we will be talking about, and invoking, and celebrating, and allowing. I think there might be some tears for a few women, but there will also be dancing and loving and fun.

Great news! You can attend the Aphrodite training from anywhere in the world. To get all the details click here.

Did you listen to this week’s pod? If not the link to the show notes // episode is above. @gabbybernstein has been my mentor since 2012 👆🏻this is the photo of the first time we met in person back then. Since then as a result of her guidance my life has changed a ton. This week she returned to the pod & we chatted everything from authenticity to body image. One thing we covered a bit is her school I’m a graduate of:: Spirit Junkie Masterclass // I have a hunch many of you too have a message to share so if so click the link in the show note or go to this link:: http://tinyurl.com/SPIRITJUNKIEWONDER

Ten years ago, on October 2nd 2005, I made a decision that changed my life forever: I decided to get clean and sober. My addiction recovery has been the greatest gift I have ever received and the greatest gift I have given the world. My commitment to stay sober is not only a commitment I have made to myself, but also one that I have made to you. My intention is to be a power of example for anyone struggling with the disease of addiction.

What I am most proud of in my life is that I often meet my Spirit Junkie readers who share that my work and books helped them get sober. Carrying the message of recovery is my greatest work and contribution to the world. I have deep gratitude that you received this message and have been inspired to embark on your own recovery journey, whatever that may be.

In this video I share my gratitude in celebration of my 10 years of sobriety.

Additional resources:

For more on this topic, check out my blog How to Break an Addiction.

My dear friend and Spiritual running buddy Elena Brower is coming up on 1 year of sobriety. Her commitment to her recovery comes from a deep desire to serve in a MASSIVE way. In this Wanderlust Speakeasy audio, Elena shares a mind blowing poem about her recovery and what it means to her.Enjoy Elena’s poem here.

On October 4, 2015 join thousands of people for UNITE to Face Addiction a free event to break the silence. Check out the details here.

Another great resource for addiction recovery is my book Spirit Junkie, A Radical Road to Self-Love and Miracles.

If you or a loved one are struggling with addiction connect with Elisa Hallerman from Recovery Management Agency.

How I Run A Spiritual Business and How You Can Too

If you’ve been following my work it’s likely you’re on a path of personal growth and development. When you tap into this type of inner transformation you often hear the call to share the great messages you’ve learned. You’re called to lead and serve others, inspire your friends and connect to a greater purpose. The call is loud — but the voice of doubt is often even louder. The nasty voice of fear holds you back, saying, “Who am I to be a leader?”

My response is: Who are you NOT to be a leader?

I’m committed to guiding you through whatever blocks us from truly serving as a leader in your own unique way. To do that, I rolled out a series of 3 free videos that will help clear the blocks to your confidence and provide direction you can act on right now. I know there area few common issues that hold us back from truly stepping into our power, and I tackle them in these free videos.

In this first video I’m taking on the topic of confidence! I’ll teach you how to gain the confidence to step out as a leader and own your voice. These days I’m a practiced public speaker, but once I had zero experience as a leader. I’ll teach you the 3 steps that helped me step into my power to lead with total confidence. We all have a transformational message to share, and we all have a unique way of sharing it.

Just watch this video and you’ll immediately feel more confident. And make sure to leave comments and questions below. I’ll be reading everything!

In the second video I teach the 3 most common mistakes that block your success (and how to fix them)

You may be thinking, “I love being on a spiritual path, but is it even realistic to expect to earn real money from this?” Or maybe you’re nagged by another limiting thought: “It’s not spiritual to charge for my work.” In this new training video, I BUST those myths. You’ll learn the 3 most common mistakes that block you from running a spiritual business and how to fix them. Watch video 2 to learn how you can earn money and support yourself with your healing work!

Then in video 3 I teach you how to manifest media for your message.

As a PR expert and spiritual teacher it’s my responsibility to help you share your incredible messages with the world. I know self-promotion is scary, and it can seem like the media landscape is so cluttered that there’s no room for your message. I’m going to tackle those fears head-on in this new video. I believe that when you have an empowering message to share, it is your responsibility to get it out into the world. There are folks searching for exactly what you have to offer!

Enjoy these videos and be sure to leave comments and questions. Plus there’s more! Next Tuesday be on the lookout for another email with a big reveal.

I recently received an email from a Spirit Junkie in desperate need of some guidance. She wrote, “Gabby, how can I stop myself from getting wrapped up in what I think is best and be more open to the universe’s guidance?”

I’m sure in some way you can resonate with this issue. We all get wrapped up in trying to control areas of our life and we become obsessed with the outcome. Maybe you’re freaking about when your boyfriend will propose to you. Or maybe you’re trying to control the result of a project at work. We all have unique ways of getting hooked into future tripping and trying to control the unknown.

What I’ve come to learn and accept is that there is always a solution of the highest good, but it may not be aligned with what we think we need. {tweet it} Our job is to surrender to the fact that the Universe has a plan far better than ours. I’ve found that the more I surrender to the Universe’s plan the easier it is to move through the discomfort of uncertainty.

Ready to let go? In this video blog I share my tips for how to detach from the outcome and let the Universe do her thing.