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friendliness

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hey there! :) you are lovable and capable (submissions are open!)

Trauma often messes with one’s ability to say “no”. 

You either consciously or subconsciously think, “I don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings” or “If I say no, then they’ll hurt me” or “It won’t really be that bad” or “I can handle this” or “I need to do this to prove myself” or “I deserve this”, or you forget that “no” is even an option.

It’s still not your fault if you didn’t say “no”, even if you think maybe you could have. It’s still not your fault. You didn’t deserve what happened to you and you didn’t bring it upon yourself. It was never your fault.

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there’s literally nothing more fun than being kind????? like? making someone feel loved and appreciated and seeing them smile and hearing them giggle?? sign me the fuck up

Your current state is a result of your past actions so don’t be discouraged if things aren’t going right. Focus on the present so you can change your future.

Anonymous asked:

I discovered your blog today, but i immediately fell in love. Thank you so much!

aw thank you so much!

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BITCH WE OUT HERE TAKIN OUR

M E D S

AND DRINKIN THAT UHHHH

W A T E R

Still havent showered but bitch

WE’LL GET THERE

schuetzengrabenmints-deactivate

Let’s ditch self-deprecating memes in 2018

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schuetzengrabenmints

Stop the “lol I don’t deserve friends,” “I just want to die,” “I’m a trash can” bullshit

we positive in 2018 baby

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schuetzengrabenmints

Wow look 11,000 notes and 99% of them are overreactions or the same jokes over and over again!

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“OMG it’s called a coping mechanism?!”

Yeah, so is alcohol, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy. 

Why is this website so against trying to be happy? 

And it’s not like you’re saying, “You can just will your depression away.” It’s just, “Hey, maybe don’t encourage self-destructive thinking, even in a joking way.” 

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I’m thriving, genuinely love myself, and finally understand and appreciate the beauty of everyone and everything around me. That smile is true happiness right there (notice the difference between this pic and my last insta pic). Know Your Worth 2018 and fuck people that don’t appreciate your true worth!

(ig: @tash.mok)

Anonymous asked:

hey!!! i love this blog!!! you should use it more!

Thank you so much! I'll try to be more active :)

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a concept: im in love with the world. i’ve got a good job that pays enough and ive been saving for months to go somewhere, anywhere. i’m in a foreign airport, tired but excited. as i step out i’m in the middle of the city, and i get to watch the sun set over the illuminated buildings, eyes dropping but still open, not wanting to miss a thing