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Fiona Apple Appreciation Life

@bonitaapplebelle / bonitaapplebelle.tumblr.com

Lioness moonlighting as a writer.

Although I admire it in a seasick way, a lot of my bravery in my teens and early twenties came from a place of self-loathing. I was able to push boundaries and take chances because I wasn’t very fussed about whether I came back alive. Oblivion was usually the goal. I don’t know if it was owing to societal pressure, or a genetic predisposition to perfectionism and anxiety (eating disorders and addiction are rife in my family), but somewhere along the line I had learned that I was wrong, that I was not good enough, not smart enough, not thin enough. I was so angry with myself all the time. How that happened, I don’t know – I am still trying to understand what makes young women go to war with themselves. But the judgement choir never stopped singing. It still sings now, though not as loudly or as often, and when it does, I try not to self-medicate with straight vodka or starvation.

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if u didn’t make a jerking video in ‘09 u wasn’t poppin 

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i’m hearing that there was also a dance called the jerk that was popular in ‘09 

straightgirls

Is it just me or is the “body positive” movement not working? Like at all?

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inferior-mirage

Other people have said this before/better, but the problem was presenting all women as beautiful as opposed to eliminating the need for women to be beautiful

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wine-and-queer

It’s not working because the focus is STILL on trying to view yourself as attractive no matter how you look, instead of (as stated above) eliminating the need to feel “attractive.“

The body positive movement SHOULD be focused on bodily autonomy and taking care of your health. The best way to be “positive” toward your body is to treat it well, not by repeating some “I am beautiful” mantra over and over. You don’t have to be pretty. You don’t have to see yourself as pretty. Others don’t have to see you as pretty. PRETTY IS NOT IMPORTANT. Pretty is not your worth. You exist for you, not for anyone else’s gaze.

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suicidal people deserve a space to talk about their suicidal feelings without risking hospitalization/institutionalization or being accused of being manipulative or attention seeking

I don’t know if anyone remembers this picture from right after Tangled Ever After came out of Rapunzel and Flynn’s beauuuuuuuutiful rings:

Welllllllll, I got married about six weeks ago and here are our rings!

Yes, that’s right, we found a jeweler willing to make the Tangled rings for us.

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thinkingingallifreyan

When I added this to my queue originally, it had FOURTEEN notes.

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youngblackandvegan

so sweet

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Sometimes you gotta remind yourself that you’re something special. That you can’t be replaced and that your heart, your mind, your conversation, your care, your kiss, your love- it can’t be replicated. By anyone.

No offense but women should be allowed to talk about the horrible effects makeup had on their self esteem and how the beauty industry in general affects women in general without having to put ten thousand disclaimers coddling the feelings of women who like winged eyeliner