I hate to tell you that but it has never ever ever been normal for little girls to get married in the US. your 13 year old grandmother marrying your 25 year old grandfather was objectionable when it occurred, even if it was legal, even if your great grandparents signed. girls who were married as children were isolated from their peers and the normal progression of adolescent life. it was traumatizing. that was not “just the way it was back then” people often got married young, sure, but that usually meant early 20s or late teens.
Child marriage was actually a very contentious topic around that time. Girls of noble birth were often sealed in political marriages from extremely young ages and those marriages were consummated too early, often resulting in death or permanent injury to the young bride. Girls of non-noble birth often wed around the age of 18, sometimes later. Lady Margaret Beaufort, mother of Henry VII of England, was wed at the age of 12 to her second husband, 24 year old Edmund Tudor.
She advocated for later marriage ages for the rest of her life.









