before telling me im "panphobic" please actually consider the feelings and history of bisexual people, what we have to say, and how this label has affected us.
im mostly here to educate people, so please have an open mind.
Being “open to a threesome” with someone of the same sex doesn’t make you bisexual.
Finding women pretty/men handsome doesn’t make you bisexual.
If you use the split attraction model, you’re a moron, that shit is conversion therapy rhetoric
If you’re attracted to “genders” but all of those “genders” you’re into are biologically opposite sex, you’re not bisexual.
If you’re “bisexual” because you think it will attract the opposite sex, you aren’t bisexual.
You’re only bisexual if you’re attracted to both sexes. Spicy straights need to get the fuck out of the bi community so we can properly organize groups.
if you think your boyfriend or husband is accepting towards your sexuality but is seemingly not upset by you kissing/undressing/being sexual with a woman, or more accepting to allow you to have relations with a woman as opposed to being upset if you asked to be with a man,congrats. you are being fetishized
Something to feel hopeful about: The first-ever Bi Pride parade in West Hollywood last month. Yay visibility, yay community. 💗💙💜(photos by Jon Viscott for The Advocate)
“sexuality is so complicated and impossible to label” - annoying tumblr person about to describe what is literally just bisexuality
bisexual women are not a sexual resource for trans people or anyone else. "the solution to lonely trans people is bi folks!" no it isn't. kill yourself
actually im gonna list attitudes/stereotypes that contribute to this
- bi women don't have sexual boundaries
- bi women are freaky and hypersexual
- others are entitled to bi women's sexuality
- bisexuals have a responsibility to defer/cater to the rest of the LGBT
hawkmommy
Exactly!
Just a friendly reminder that the pink on the bi flag stands for women, the blue stands for men, and the purple stands for non-binary people.
Friendly reminder that what the actual creator of the bi flag said was:
“The pink color represents sexual attraction to the same sex only (gay and lesbian), the blue represents sexual attraction to the opposite sex only (straight) and the resultant overlap color purple represents sexual attraction to both sexes (bi).”
wow! how fucking convienient it is that you had to use the wayback machine and find your source all the way back in TWO THOUSAND ONE, ALMOST TWO WHOLE DECADES AGO
this is the EXACT WEBSITE that posted link goes to. and the audacity to say people are “making stuff up” in the tags of that post, saying it’s as easy as looking at wikipedia. well, let’s take a look at wikipedia now!
- The APA defines bisexuality as people “who experiences emotional, romantic and/or sexual attractions to, or engages in romantic or sexual relationships with, more than one sex or gender.”
- The APA also writes in a broad definition of sexual orientation that “sexual orientation is distinct from other components of sex and gender, including biological sex (the anatomical, physiological and genetic characteristics associated with being male or female), gender identity (the psychological sense of being male or female)* and social gender role (the cultural norms that define feminine and masculine behavior).”
…….yes. Because the flag was invented 20+ years ago…so naturally the sources are from that time period. We use the wayback machine bc those sites are no longer up…..
Wikipedia changing their definition of bisexuality doesn’t change Michael Page’s intention in 1998. Pink for same SEX attraction, blue for opposite SEX, and purple for the resulting overlap. Nonbinary gender identity bullshit wasn’t involved
If you answer the question of “what defines a bi woman” with “men” you fail the test automatically. Accepting my bisexuality was realizing I didn’t have to be with men and tailor my life to their expectations. I’ve said it a thousand times and I’ll say it a thousand times more: if I say “bi woman” and, instead of thinking of an individual woman you think first and foremost of men, you are contributing to the misogyny we face
if bi women have a million fans i’m one of them.. if bi women have 5 fans i’m one of them.. if bi women have 1 fan? that one is me. if bi women have no fans… i’m no longer on this earth
normalfeminist
love when people post stuff like "normalize going to the store in your pajamas!!" but then they have "queer" in their bio. like girl you can't even normalize being bi
being bi really is a wild ride like i know i’m bi i know i know i know.
but it seems like every bi person ever is almost constantly having at least a bit of doubt if not a full on identity crisis about their sexuality (myself included)
like the number of times i’ve thought with sadness and guilt that if i was really bi i would’ve had sex with a woman by now and ive been lying to everyone including myself and im straight has to be about equal to the number of times i’ve wondered if my sex drive is so low because i’m actually secretly gay… and how much i see other bisexuals expressing similar sentiments about themselves…
like the obvious answer when you can’t decide if you’re straight or gay is that you are neither of those things, you’re bi. but idk. the “pick a side” narrative really fucked up bisexuals. ik people like to scoff over like “biphobia” and while i agree that a lot of “biphobia” is misdirected homophobia… i can’t think of anything else to call these bi specific issues like having an unstable identity bc of the pervasive cultural inacceptance of bisexuality as a real biological phenomenon or like the harmful stereotypes applied to bisexuals (bi women especially) and how they can be used against us to manipulate our behavior, lower our self-esteem, or even coerce us into “kinky” sex/sex with multiple partners
freckledscum-deactivated2023071
This has to be said, but when Lesbian and Bi women create a space or an event for themselves. There’s nothing “woke” or critical by going, “Where are the men?” The answer to that question is not here because this is something created for Lesbian women and Bi women. You know, an oppressed social class of people and we have every fucking right to have exclusive spaces to speak on our needs and issues and to celebrate ourselves and socialize with each other without the voyeurism of others.
if you think your boyfriend or husband is accepting towards your sexuality but is seemingly not upset by you kissing/undressing/being sexual with a woman, or more accepting to allow you to have relations with a woman as opposed to being upset if you asked to be with a man,congrats. you are being fetishized
sorry not sorry but the moment someone says they're pansexual I stop taking them seriously
To all the trans people, you are so so loved and so so important. I love you with all my heart and I wish I could hug all of you.
It is so very good that you exist.
Origin of the Bi Crescent Symbol
You may have seen this symbol around now and then as a symbol of bisexual pride. Have you ever wondered where it came from, though? Well, I did too - and what I could find was fascinating!
Much of this information was translated from German by @fallaciousfeline, thank you again!
The Bi Crescents originated as the logo for the German Bisexual Network, BiNe e.V, which was established in 1992. (I have found sources stating both 1992 and 1998 as the years in which the crescents were adopted)
It was originally designed by Vivian Wagner, and utilized the colours of the Gay Pride flag. Of this, Vivian said, “The rainbow colours of the crescents are intended that way. This is about solidarity with those that have HIV, and those that are afflicted by AIDS. It also serves as a symbol of our belongingness to the lesbian-bi-gay community.’”
The design itself comes from the interlinking of the Mars and Venus symbols, removal of the gender signifiers, and leaving them “open”:
Another goal of the design was to avoid the holocaust imagery found in the more common “biangle” and other triangular symbols associated with the LGBT community.
In more recent years, the symbol was redesigned utilizing the colours of Michael Page’s bisexual pride flag.
One interpretation of the “moon” like symbols that I’m extremely fond of is the idea that, like the moon, no matter what part you may be perceiving at one time, you’re still seeing part of something strong and whole.
Sources under cut!
Boston Bisexual Women’s Network, Christopher Street Liberation Day, New York City, 1983. (Yes, that is bi activist @robynochs in the photo!)
Note: Bi Women Boston is still around 34 years later and regularly holds potlucks!
You can also check out the publication Bi Women Quarterly, edited by @robynochs!
updated links: Bi Women Quarterly [ Current Issue ] & [ Archive ]
