"why do people conflate top/bottom and Dom/sub" because we haven't socially destigmatized kink. that's literally it.

if you say you're topping your boyfriend when you push him around in the bedroom you're being cool and quirky and using slang to describe your antics. if you do the same thing and say you're domming him you must be a seriously freaky person. that's why people use top to mean Dom and bottom to mean sub. they know even if we allow the nice clean gays with their fun bedroom terms into our society, we should never ever be like Those People who spend significant amounts of time and energy learning how to have the kind of sex so many of us clumsily imitate in our bedrooms.

"researching kink is forbidden. talking about kink is forbidden. slapping your partner and choking them is normal because I saw it in porn and my buddies say they do it. don't go to seminars on how to manage the risk of those activities or you're a sex-obsessed freak. I'm the normal one, the one whose partner chokes me with their belt and doesn't know what aftercare is. I'm a bottom."

the problem is that kink activities are socially acceptable and even expected, but having any awareness of the terminology or safe ways to play surrounding them is heavily stigmatized. kink anti-intellectualism is rampant among people of every political orientation because of how badly our society has poisoned us. so we can't even say Dom or sub to refer to ourselves. it's a symptom of that problem.

I think the bicycle helmet discourse really just reinforces the idea that people believe that accidents only happen to the stupid and careless, and that people who get hurt somehow deserve it. And since nobody wants to believe themselves to be stupid, or thinks they could be careless or distracted, it's not necessary to take precautions.

And then they take safety advice as an insult because telling someone to be safe is seen as an accusation of being stupid and irresponsible, and not just a value neutral acknowledgement of statistical inevitably. We see it with masks, and seatbelts, and now bicycle helmets because everyone wants to believe they're too clever to get hurt, and too lucky to get hurt badly, until suddenly you're not and you have to resign, in shame, to being one of the people you previously saw as annoying nags, assuming you're even still alive.

anyway I will always be suspicious of people who tell disabled people to shut up for “activist reasons”. you know

“now’s not the time to talk about eugenics, we can’t give the anti-choice people the fuel” then stop being ableist when you argue for abortions

“now’s not the time to talk about the overlap between disability and queerness, we can’t let people think that queerness is a disease” stop letting conservatives control the narrative and start forming coalitions with your disabled siblings

it’s not progressive if you’re leaving disabled people behind. it’s not good leftism if you’re using ableist rhetoric to justify your positions. seriously

Very much applicable to all the abled leftists who lose their shit when a disabled person doesn't kiss the boot of an abled worker who refuses us service, treats us like shit or even hate crimes us. <3

uhm we desperately need $48 for food & $36 for my bros insulin (whch he is out of) that he MUST take to stay out of an er? URGENT as it's important we need help for this now as we have nothing after paying my 'rent' plus no car/can’t get to food bank or a store. the kids are hungry and i just have no idea what to do, my mental health is at an all time low. a dollar or a penny is a big help or reblogging. send me hate, ill block you.

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Leona's post is here.

Her YT video is here.

Please spread Leona's story, and her evidence, as much as you can. She has a mountain of evidence proving Bethesda/Zenimax a hostile work environment for trans women, and she deserves to be heard and to receive justice for being forced out of her job.

yo we need $48 for food desperately this is semi URGENT as the kids are complaining as we have no money after getting my families meds,thanks to yall, we need enough good for a week at least, as we have nothing. anything is appreciated be it penny or a dollar. thank y'all. hate is blocked.

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We NEED to reevaluate how we view people with "red flags" that don't actually indicate harm to anyone. Things like "doesn't like animals," "doesn't have pets," "my pets immediately distrust them, so that means they're Secretly Evil."

I have a psychotic disorder. I suffer from flat affect. I have zero control over how I am emoting, and very often my emotional readout is completely blank. A LOT of animals (dogs especially) have exhibited aggression and fear around me ever since this started. (There are only TWO dogs I've met in the last five years that didn't BITE ME.) Dogs are unsettled by me because of a symptom of my psychosis--a condition that is out of my control that IS NOT DANGEROUS and doesn't harm anyone.

I also have a severe autoimmune disease and severe allergies to basically all animals. Whenever I tell people I can't come over because they have pets, or I don't have/want pets of my own, the IMMEDIATE response I always get is "why don't you like animals?" So I'm always pretty pissed off when I have to say, "I'm severely allergic. Don't fucking assume I have an undesireable quality just because I'm not a pet owner."

Another ableist red flag we need to talk about is "has no other friends/all their friends break up with them." Hi. I'm physically disabled with a digestive disease and a degenerative disease in my spine. That means my dietary restrictions are stupid and I can't sit/stand/walk for more than 15 minutes without being in pain. Most of the friends I break up with, I do so BECAUSE THEY ARE INCREDIBLY ABLEIST TO ME with no visible potential of changing. From people relentlessly harrassing me about lifestyle changes to not accepting correction or feedback when I tell them "hey, you CAN'T do x because it triggers y condition." If they argue or blow me off, I'm not their fucking friend!

Tl;dr: Disabled, chronically ill, and people with "scary" mental illnesses are often lumped in with "bad people" for characteristics that hurt no one and aren't in their control. Stop using "my dog is uncomfortable around them" as a litmus test for everyone you hang out with.

Been trying to think of a way to explain to American audiences why the 9 dash line thing is so important to SEAsians and why it's justifiable to ban the Barbie movie for it, but the closest explanation I can give is this: imagine if this painting was in the Barbie movie with no explanation and we were all just supposed to accept it without comment

I don't care if people watch the movie, I know everyone was excited for it, me included. But I'd hope in the very least we can tell people why the Vietnam ban was 100% justified. 9 dash line maps are a distillation of over a decade of Chinese imperialist oppression against SEAsian countries. Most of the world doesn't care, but that's how it is.

At least have this as a learning experience.

Basically in 2015 international courts ruled against China taking up the majority of the West Philippine / South China sea, since it was maritime territory shared between the different countries. China then ignored the ruling, destroyed the local ecosystem to build an artificial military island, and has been policing it heavily ever since.

It's like if someone moved into your shared kitchen and threatened to shoot you for trying to get food.

Since then Vietnam has had a hard line stance against them and the Philippines has had to rely on American military power to match threat for threat. We'd love to not have either of these superpower imperialist fucks looming over us but that's not the world we live in.

Anyway. That's why. If they remove it from the movie, that'll be nice, but it's a bigger statement than just a picture.

forever rolling my eyes at joke posts that focus on the nsfw ban on tumblr solely from a pov of ‘we want to be able to see dicks on demand!!! bring back porn!!!” with no actual meaningful discussion on providing a safe haven for sex workers to once again promote their work and support themselves, especially as the situation becomes more and more dire each day as additional social media sites fall

for the redditors coming here, this is how we spread news of important events in the world, with a Destiel meme

Right??

CTV LONDON (The Canada London, not the UK one) aired an interview with Bubba Pollock. They really are out there thinking there are two equally valid sides to his story.

“Says he had good intentions”. Really, CTV? You just take his word for it and publish this shit?

I mean, I shouldn't be surprised. CTV are closing down so many local stations and sacking so many of their employees and almost all of their good journalists are gone.

But I guess Bell Media needs to both-side even the latest antics of a dangerous fascist.

Reminder, Bubba is known in London (ONTARIO), for having been a pest in high school, a boy scout for the Tories, a Canadian MAGA, a sexual predator, a homophobe, an associate of PPC candidates, and a violent white supremacist:

Mainstream media is really going down the shitter in Canada. From broadcasting unverified "leaks", to airing Pierre Poilievre without fact-checking him, to giving airtime to transphobes and fascists ... the consolidation of our media and the sale of a lot of it to a handful of US conservatives has truly become a boost for the far right and a danger to our democracy.

@allthecanadianpolitics

Warning: do not delete any sideblogs

I’ve been seeing it happen to a handful of people, but apparently if you try to delete your sideblog you will end up deleting your MAIN tumblr account entirely as well I don’t know if this is a bug or something, but I’ve seen it happen to ~4 people now, so until this possible bug gets worked out do NOT delete any of your sideblogs unless you want to risk deleting your account entirely

As far as I know, this is not a programming bug. This is bad design resulting in user error. It is safe to delete sideblogs if you do it the correct (non-intuitive) way.

Source: I have successfully deleted multiple sideblogs over the years. And I have unfortunately heard of many people accidentally deleting their whole accounts over the years too. This Tumblr help page corroborates my experience and outlines the proper way to delete a sideblog. (Note the difference between the headers: “Deleting Your Account” vs. “Deleting a Secondary Blog or Leaving a Group Blog”)

The mistake people make:

When you go into the settings of a sideblog, there’s a button at the bottom that says “Delete [sideblog url]”

Of course, people think this button will delete only the sideblog they want to delete. But the thing is, this button shows up at the bottom of every blog in the settings page, and the url displayed will match whatever sideblog you’re looking at. It will still delete your entire account, as intended by staff.

What you need to actually do:

When you want to delete a sideblog, you must go to the members tab of that blog and hit “Delete this blog”

https://www.tumblr.com/blog/[sideblog url]/members

Reasoning:

Sideblogs are meant to have the potential to be shared by multiple users. So the thinking is, if you are one of 5 members of a blog and you want to leave, you go into the members tab and leave. The 4 other people still share the blog without you.

That same line of thought applies when you are the only user. When you are the only owner of a sideblog, you must ‘leave’ the ‘group’ from the members page to delete it. Deleting any blog from the settings page will delete your entire account.

If you’re still unsure, you can follow these steps:

uhm so we need $38 for food and $33 for my moms meds she is out of that she MUST take to stay well and possibly out of an er? URGENT as it's important we need help for this now as we have nothing after getting my bros insulin thanks to yall, paying my 'rent' plus no car/can’t get to food bank or a store. the kids are hungry and i just have no idea what to do, my mental health is at an all time low. a dollar or a penny is a big help or reblogging. send me hate, ill block you.

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Essential information of previous post:

If you are transfem, this shit will increase your testosterone levels.

They are lying to you to take your money. Don't fucking touch it. Tell your friends and family.

If you're desperate, DIY is an option. The subreddit r/TransDIY is an excellent resource, as is the DIY Wiki.

If what you really want is a herbal supplement, there are certain herbs that will have a minor antiandrogenic effect. The DIY resources here will have more information on it.

Edit: the dose of ashwagandha is so high that it will give you serotonin syndrome within four to eight weeks. This shit is evil.

"Fun" update on this: some people were speculating that this was some sort of right-wing anti-trans attack and not just a scam. I thought this was a bit overblown; incompetence before malice and so on. I was wrong. The page selling the products has been changed to one selling t-shirts about gas station dick pills.

Here's the page as of 16:15 UCT.

Here's the page as of 20:41 UCT. I don't recommend clicking it, but I know the masochists out there will anyways.

Some people were even speculating that this was being used to collect the information of trans people in order to doxx them; given the clearly malicious nature of these bastards, I don't think this is an unfounded fear.

Anyways, stay safe out there, and if you're doing DIY make sure to access it from reliable sources. We have networks; rely on them, not randos on Twitter.

This is an anti-trans attack; more information in previous reblog.

‘why aren’t ppl talking abou–’ follow different ppl. ‘all i see are americans talk–’ stop following so many americans. ‘i havent seen this on my das–’ follow someone who does post the incredibly specific thing you want to see in a digital age where there are at minimum 100s of incredibly specific hot topics trending at one moment. oh you want your space to reflect what you care abt? 😳 then follow different ppl. omg so complicated

and don’t even get me started on how people not based in america will be like ‘god none of you care abt vulnerable poc you only care abt AMERICANS i hope you all DIE’ baby girl are u straight up saying you think america is 100% white? so you recognize poc in any country are the most likely to be affected by natural disasters in the most severe but the poc in america facing those effects don’t matter? interesting wow wow ok this is SO novel this is SO new do they have a name for ignoring the plight of anyone not white? we should get on this phenomenon

HOMELESS AND HUNGRY. PLEASE, I'M BEGGING, READ

i have done so many of these but all of it keeps losing its traction

i got a job today collecting trash and separating them but the salary is way below minimum wage (it's 6 dollars a day). It's better than nothing

i have my two brothers with me, they're only kids 10 and 13 years old. both get very sick often and one of them is severely asthmatic he requires a nebulizer to breathe. his nebulizer finally broke down the other day and he's having trouble breathing now which means we can't move that much for him. all our money was drained by a 3 weeks stay in the hospital

we're having trouble accumulating funds for hotel stays amidst an incoming super typhoon. I'm begging for my brothers, please help them stay safe

PLEASE PLEASE if you are able to spare us a dollar, please help us. if you can't, please boost this post as much as you can. this is all we have, please

Hotels and motels prices keep rising up. A room for 6 hours costs $20 and more already. We're saving up what we can for housing that we might finally get next year. We'll be homeless for another year. I'm also getting so sick lately and bruises are starting to appear on my body out of nowhere. I wonder if i should get myself checked but the prices of laboratories and stuff are so scary. My brothers are always hungry. I dont know what to do. Everyday really is a struggle to survive to live. Please at least help my brothers stay in hotels and eat. We're still praying for a crazy miracle

im sorry to do this again but I've updated my post and i hope you can still boost for me

@afro-elf @bihet-dragonize @beserkerjewel @bringhimdown @creepyscritches @comintoyoulive @donations-mutualaid @helppeople @lgbtdonate @lafemmemacabre @mousedetective @mari-animates @nbblacksheep @ororomunroedontpullout @prisonhannibal @petewentzisblack1312 @regicide1997 @shesnake @the-arachnocommunist @vilethot

idk who needs to hear this, but the capitalist plan for climate crisis and pandemics and breakdown of food supply chains and increasingly limited access to clean water is to funnel every public resource into militaries and police to prevent you from accessing what you need to survive. they do not give a fuck about you. they not only are willing to let you die, they are planning for it and investing in it.

this is why biden pushed public covid relief funds to police, prisons, and detention centers and then declared it over. US presidents enact policy to benefit capitalists, because that is what government exists to do in capitalist countries. you are not going to 'push him left.' there is no one you can elect--of any party or affiliation--that won't cave to the demands of capital. this is the system we're in.

there is no version of events where a capitalist leader of a settler state (to be clear, not just in the US) is going to save anyone. your life isn't simply a lesser priority; your life is not a priority to capital. your survival is truly not relevant when determining policies to enact, funding to allocate, etc. the plan across the board is to suppress any direct resistance or survival efforts with intensified state violence.

you need to start planning around this continuing systemic abandonment. there is no long-term survival within this system.