I did a lot of reading about gifted kids and especially gifted adults when I got my ādiagnosisā because I was told I was gifted at 23 and well, it serves no purpose to have a confirmation that youāre gifted at 23
Thing is, gifted children are not amazingly better than everyone else. Gifted brains just donāt work the same so they build their skills in a different order
Basically when youāre very young, most people brain learn social skills and how to interact with their peers, but gifted brains are already at the next step which is how to understand and interact with the world
That makes the stereotypical young children that are very good at math, always asking questions about how things work, very upset when they donāt know a thing
But the thing is, when everyone gets older, theyāve mastered most social skills and now turn towards understanding the world
But the gifted children have already mastered that part and are turning towards how to build social skills. Except thereās no one left to teach us about that! Because weāre late to that party
Long story short, at the end everyone, gifted or not, goes through all the necessary steps to make functioning adults, so the difference that was obvious as a child has disappeared
But us gifted people often end up with social anxiety and impostor syndrome because we are actually less equipped than others to face a world that taught everyone to be confident and talk to people while we were busy reading books above our age
