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When is it the right time to cut someone out of your life? Whether it’s a friend or family member.

Listen, when you feel like your friendship with someone is getting toxic and it’s giving a negative vibe then it’s time to cut those people out of your life, no matter if those people are your friends or even family members. The last couple of years, I have cut a multitude of people out of my life that dragged me down in one way or another: energy-zappers, promoters of bad habits, judgmental janes, etc. And trust me, you will feel so much better after doing this. I learned this the hard way, but oh my how glad am I that I started giving zero fucks about them and started loving and appreciating me. Since I’ve cut or limited my time with negative people in my life, I have found: - More freedom and confidence in myself. - The bonds with my truly supportive friends grew stronger because I put more effort into those relationships. - I now attract more like-minded positive people into my life- the others get cut fast. I love this quote: ‘Cutting people out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.’ Sometimes friendships form from negative roots. I’ve had friendships that I kept because I only wanted to see the good times, and was in denial that we didn’t have anything in common anymore. I’ve maintained friendships that sucked the life out of me, but because this person had stuck with me through my hard times, I felt like I owed it to her/him to listen to their negativity and complaining… every day. Being honest with yourself means looking at the friendship and asking, “Why am I still friends with this person?”.  If the answer is something other than they give you support, love, motivation, inspiration, encouragement, laughter, or any other positive emotions or outcomes, ask yourself this: “How do I feel after I hang out with this person?”. Do you feel drained, bad about yourself, doubtful, depressed, frustrated, scared, angry, or in any other way negative after most of your meetings?  Do you dread seeing this person?  When this person calls, do you avoid it? If you’ve answered yes, it’s time to reassess the reason that you’re keeping this friendship alive. Know that friends will come and go, and that is natural. Severing the ties with someone makes room for more positive people to come into your life, and allows you more time to nurture the true friendships you have. Be brave. Be honest. Save yourself from wasting any more time. If you can’t cut someone out completely because they are family… …Limit the time you spend with them.  This tends to be the case when a member of your family is particularly draining or negative.  Family is forever, but that doesn’t mean you need to let them hold you back from enjoying life! If they give you a hard time, stand your ground! Remember, this is for your sanity and happiness. This is YOUR life.  Choose who you want to spend it with. This are a couple of examples when it is the right time to cut someone lose: - The relationship is physically or mentally abusive. Don’t downplay the effects of these kinds of abuse, especially long-term. It may take counseling to realize you’ve been abused. - It causes enough stress that it effects important aspects/areas of your life, like work or home life. - You find yourself spending a lot of time thinking about the sour relationship and losing sleep over it. Don’t underestimate how lack of sleep and stress effect your health. - The relationship is one-sided when there is no valid reason why there isn’t some effort made by the other person. - The relationship is only about borrowing money.  - The family member is taking you down with them or constantly demanding favors or asking you to bail them out of trouble. Don’t get involved in risky business and legal trouble, even if they are family. - The person is using gossip to manipulate and control you and/or other family members against you. - All contact with them is negative. They only call to bring you down and put you down, too. - There are negative consequences every time this family member doesn’t get what they want from you. - They play childish games— the silent treatment, blame games— and there is no talking to them. It’s their way or no way. - This relationship is mostly negative. - You are the only one interested in working on and improving this relationship. The bottom line is: You are who you hang around with. You choose to put yourself in that situation, and you will feed off whatever energy the relationship and other person provides.   Knowing when a friendship is bad for you and doing something about it can save you from years of misspent energy. Be honest, take action, and feel the freedom.

Soooo this is why I have 0 friends 😂

All I do is cut people off.

@jehovahhthickness better to be alone than to be surrounded by bad company.

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