Being a queer trans man can be confusing, because when you look at a guy you get stuck thinking, do I want to DATE you? Or do I want to BE you?

Tips for Pre-T Trans Guys

Wanna grow some facial hair? Get you some Jojoba oil or castor oil and put it above your upper lip, on your jawline, and on your eyebrows. Give it a few days and you’ll start seeing a difference!

Wanna get buff? PROTEIN. And a lot of weight lifting. Less cardio and more strength training.

Want a firmer chest? Put collagen on your chest every day to tighten and firm the skin. I got mine at Vitamin Shoppe. This will make your Top Surgery a lot easier and will cause you to heal faster/better.

Want a flatter chest? Bench it. All the time. Don’t have a gym membership or barbells? Lay on your back on the floor and lift weights above your chest.

Want more testosterone? Take zinc!

Wanna deepen your voice? Download a voice range app. They tell you how masculine or feminine your voice sounds to others and help you practice deepening your voice.

Have a small chest and no binder? KT tape will do the trick! Put tissue over your nipples or it will hurt like hell when you take it off.

Hope this helps :)

Shout out to my fellow petite trans brothers out here

You’re all awesome and even other trans guys sleep on y’all but you’re just as much of a man as the 6′0″ well muscled guys you always see people praising. You’re going to find a way to feel comfortable with your presentation some day, I promise.  Whether that means starting HRT, getting surgeries, learning to self love, or a mix of any of these! You’re going to be happy with yourself some day, even if it takes a little bit of work. Hang in there.

Voice Deepening Stretches

me: hmm i think im trans but idk really? who knows??

me: *if i could magically transform myself into a cis male right now i would without hesitation; i no longer use public bathrooms cuz using the women’s bathroom makes me super uncomfortable; when called by male names in public ei. “buddy” “sir” i feel happy; am scared to transition and come out, but still yearn for the day i have a flat chest, deep voice, and pass as male 24/7; hate it when other’s call me by female pronouns and names; wish i had a cis male body; flat-out wish i was a boy all the time*

me, still: HMMMMMM what if i’m faking it????? for attention? do i really feel dysphoria? i would not know,, trans? haha, not i. Simply a fake right here. YUp.

some #relatable trans guy things

other trans dudes, feel free to add stuff!

some people on insta said i should post my workout routine since i mentioned how im so happy with the results, so here’s my little workout guide for my fellow trans folk! I focused on getting a more masculine body because obviously that’s what I want. I’m so happy with the results, this workout is saving my fucking life!!!! I can’t get on T soon so this has really been keeping my dysphoria in check. I barely get body dysphoria, i love how my clothes looks on me, i love feeling confident for once in my life!!! HOWEVER Don’t go overboard with working out my friends. Do not work out in a binder, you MUST take days off to let your muscles heal, and you CAN’T starve yourself! Fitness is all about health and diet! Take care of yourself. This is also MY workout routine, you may not get the same results as I have! Every body is different. 

EDIT: ahh I really didn’t expect this thing to blow up….A few people have brought it to my attention that some of the nutrition here could be wrong/not work for everyone. I apologize if I caused any harm. I think I stressed enough that you shouldn’t starve yourself to lose weight. That’s very dangerous, and if you’re prone to such habits I suggest don’t count calories, etc, and just make sure your diet is very nutritious. I just provided a way to lose weight that my doctor told me about. You don’t need to lose weight if you don’t want to. Obviously if you’re already thin there’s no need to make a goal to lose weight; that’s dangerous. Also, some of this may or may not be helpful depending on your body type. I was underweight before working out so I have no idea how it would affect someone overweight! Please don’t hold this post to such a high standard; this was just my own routine and things I do to stay in shape, I obviously can’t cater to everyone. I literally didn’t expect this post to blow up like it did, this was literally just for a few people. Sorry for any harm it caused!

My trans friend pointed this out and I made a meme of it

i realised there was no gender neutral for “my sister from another mister” or “brother from another mother” and so I present to you all “my sib from another crib”

I love it

My bitch from the same ditch

this is the funniest addition ever omg

otherworldy times in nature:

on a scale of one to ten how sad are you.

you almost say seven but the answer floats in your lungs like rising mud. you shift your shoulders. some part of you is already forming an excuse. that it’s not that bad sometimes. one, two, three on a day that the clouds are out. you’re just complaining about stuff. yesterday you laughed past a brick of a four, does that make the brick come down to a two-point-five.  the solid seven panic attack of last tuesday feels somehow like a little thorn, just a regular day full of a gentle three-point-nine earthquake rocking after yesterday’s close-to-an-eight. see but if tomorrow you have a real bad day, it will make today look simple.

and what if. what if tomorrow it’s a big old red eight-point-nine. like one of those days where sirens are going off in every part of you but you’re stuck behind a glass window watching it all burn down. like one of those days that your skin against the air feels foreign. like too much of everything. like sitting-in-the-shower, like can’t-eat, like the tide isn’t just coming in, it came while you were sleeping and now you’ve gotta learn how to swim. like bounce me against a bullet hole kind of day.

you keep numbers like nine and ten way out of reach. those are for the people who really are suffering. you’ve got no excuse. nine and ten are funeral numbers, for real problems, not yours, no. and sometimes you’re fine. and you’re kind of used to it. and it’s not sad, it’s just numb like a television caught on static. numb like i can’t remember if i care about this. numb like nothing works but i can’t be bothered to fix it. that’s not sad that’s every day stuff. everybody feels like this, right? feels like they’ve been shut off. right.  

maybe five. right in the middle. like not gonna shoot myself but i’m not wasting your time. a nonanswer. like could be worse could be better. like i need help but i don’t want you to worry even though i need someone to worry about me because i can’t worry about myself. maybe five. but what if five is too small. what if five is too big. what if -

“on a scale of one to ten,” he repeats into your silence, and then pauses. “and please be honest about this.”

also I learned about this project called “queering the map.” the idea is that in the past gay neighborhoods and gay spaces were very clearly defined bc it just wasn’t safe to be yourself anywhere else. as lgbt+ people become more visible and accepted many feel that we are losing our connection to those spaces

so every dot on this map is basically someone’s queer experience: coming out, meeting their future wife, seeing another gay man in public for the first time, anything you can think of that truly left a mark on them

it started in Montreal and is primarily English-language with most pins dropped in the US, Canada, and Europe, but there are people all over the world who’ve shared their experiences. it’s great to look at places near you but it’s also great to see that even people in places you thought were the middle of nowhere are happy with themselves and finding community and living their lives

It’s here and it’s SO SWEET?? Just clicking around it’s very personal stories, in first person and a lot of them addressed to a specific “you”, and sooo many in extremely poetic language. It feels like an art installation and it’s so beautiful. ;W; Thanks for sharing!!!

… there’s also a lot of really silly ones (like gay sharks in the middle of the ocean)

I looked at Jerusalem and immediately found two favorites for entirely different reasons.

If you're fifteen or older an still sleep with a stuffed animal please reblog this.

boy am I excited to get chickens and raise them in my expansive garden behind my cozy grass-roof cottage with a waterwheel and wear exclusively floral dresses and men’s overalls and yellow wellies! think of the possibilities!

PSA

There is no such thing as “trans enough”

THERE IS NO WRONG WAY TO BE TRANSGENDER!

unless you’re a trender ofc

No, not “unless you’re a trender”

You don’t need dysphoria to be trans. The term transtrenders is so damaging and cruel. No one is going to choose to go through the daily discrimination and hatred we dace for being transgender and if someone decides after coming out that they aren’t in fact trans that’s cool bc we’re all entitled to explore our gender identity freely and without judgment.

Lables are not permanent and we are allowed to change them as we grow and learn - and that doesn’t make our previous identities ‘phases’ or 'trends’ bc they were right at the time.

Stop shitting on people for trying to explore their identities and figure themselves out!

fam you got it twisted lmao. of course labels aren’t permanent. I’ve personally changed mine a few times because I was still figuring myself out, but now i actually know. There are some people out there who are giving themselves the term “transgender” just for the hell of it. im not saying that everyone who changes their labels does this. I’m saying that there are some cis people out there who pretend they’re trans for attention. i’ve dealt with it firsthand a couple times and it really sucks because you’re right! no one EVER should WANT to be trans. There’s a whole lot of shit that we go through just for people who pretend they’re trans for attention just to get shat on. im not sure if i’m saying what i want correctly, but i hope you’re getting my point 😅

PSA

There is no such thing as “trans enough”

THERE IS NO WRONG WAY TO BE TRANSGENDER!

unless you’re a trender ofc

i’m seeing a lot of people reblogging suicide hotlines and this is just a reminder that this is a suicide help line that works like a text-based instant messenger for people who may need to talk to someone but have trouble/are uncomfortable making phone calls

Never don’t reblog this. There are so many people who have such bad anxiety about phone calls. This can save so many lives