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@becks-beast / becks-beast.tumblr.com

An elusive 30-something loser from Nova Scotia who drinks too many energy drinks and spends an inordinate amount of time having emotions about fictional characters. Sometimes art maybe. Things I like: FFXIV, JRPGS, D&D, rping, etc (They/Them | He/Him)

I want to see you actively cherish and care for men. I really do. It's something I'm extremely passionate about.

In progressive circles, I can only talk about how harmful the way we view and talk about men is through the lens of how it affects trans people. It's like we're so focused on oppression that that's the only language some of us can speak in arguments.

If I say "calling men gross and predatory and saying you hate them and cutting them out of your circles harms trans women who get thrown away with those gross stinky men you hate," I get some nods of approval.

But if I say "hey treating men this way is just actively harmful to men and maybe that's a bad outcome too because they're people" I get "men can't be oppressed, idiot." Which is just a total non sequitur; I get that men are not oppressed in a broad social sense, but you can still be shitty to them and it's still shitty. And it still hurts them.

And you know how I know that? Because of that first part. Because I know exactly what it's like to be treated like a predator the way men are, and some of you only fucking care about that because I'm not a man.

Usually I keep out of these discussions because I know it's mostly online shit, but... it happens in real life, too, all the time. I live it. I see how you look at me until you catch that I'm queer. And I see how you look at the men I love, who will never see your gaze soften.

I just want to be able to ask people to love and care for men without having to (correctly) label their gender essentialism as oppressive to sexual and gender minorities.

I'm just tired, man. Treat each other right.

june is NOT pride month. it’s the month when people on the internet who have never been in irl lgbt spaces or have irl lgbt friends will be like “lgbt people need to STOP sucking and FUCKING during pride parades” and then when you go to a parade, instead of seeing the promised sucking and fucking, you get pelted with gay pens from bank of america 

i hate polymer clay ash trays i hate books clearly written to be enjoyed in soundbites by booktokers i hate mindfulness becoming the new dieting i hate clothing hauls i hate influencers pretending to be authentic in fake candid pictures i hate cute pastel two-piece gym sets that cost 100 euros i hate microtrends i hate celebrity makeup brand launches i hate ten step beauty routines

i love small red pottery human head bottle (Yangshao culture, Banpo to Miaodigou phase, 4800-3500 B.C.)