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I picked up a pen. I wrote my own deliverance.

As a country we need to be doing more for poor people, but the south in particular is being hit hard

ETA: if I see any specious red versus blue political party stuff in the notes I will single you out PERSONALLY

Something you should always do with these kinds of maps is look at a population density map to make sure the map isn't just showing you where people live.

Population map:

Good, we can see there's not just a correlation between where people are dying and where people live. In fact, in some cases, places with cities can actually have a higher life expectancy! So the correlation clearly isn't "more people = more death". In the north, the city-to-longer-life correlation is likely caused by those cities being more liberal and having better healthcare policies.

But that trend only seems to work for cities in the north and for California. For the south and the Midwest, there isn't much of a correlation at all.

Now let's look at a poverty map.

There's a correlation. Notice the poverty map includes regions that correlate with lower life expectancy that the racial map does not, like Kentucky, West Virginia, and Alaska. No clear explanation for why the life expectancy in Nevada is so low, though.

That doesn't mean race has nothing to do with this or that there isn't a correlation between race and life expectancy - there are a few parts on the racial map that correspond to the life expectancy map that don't show up on the poverty map, too!

It's clear that both race and poverty, both combined and independently, play a role in lower life expectancy.

hey see that red up in the top center? surrounded by counties with much higher life expectancy?

those are native american reservations

Dear Mr. Gaiman,

I hope this finds you well.

I wanted to tell you of an idea that I had. It’s nothing much but I liked it and wanted to know your opinion on it.

My idea is about characters in the Sandman universe that can enter the dreaming while (partially) awake. They are called "Daydreamers". (Simple I know).

As the name suggests, they are people that are able to interact with the Dreaming and its inhabitants while awake. I had the idea that they are discernible by their eyes. I thought it would be interesting if one could see the thing they are doing/the place they are at in them (like if they were walking past a coffee shop or on the train) And if their eyes are closed while they are daydreaming, that they are black. I thought that it would be something interesting, and I wanted to know what you thought about my idea, as the author of the Sandman.

Kindest Regards,

Pandora.

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I think that at the point I realized you were using the Ask line to talk about a plot idea I stopped reading and started writing this reply. Please please please please don't do this, or I'll have to stop with the asks. I'm an exec producer of Sandman and as such I can't read your ideas.

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sobbing. i love u my jewish learning ♡

[ID: Screenshot of an instagram post. The photo shows a young man dressed in traditional Orthodox Jewish clothing- a black hat, black suit and pants, and white shirt- wraps tefillin around the arms of a person draped in the rainbow pride flag. The person in the pride flag has shoulder length hair and is wearing a large white kipah, a t shirt, and shorts. They are standing outside on pavement. It's captioned "Do a mitzvah." End ID.]

EDIT: Photo is by uri cohn

This is the world I want to live in.

(Context for gentiles: the man on the left is probably a member of Chabad. Chabad is a sort-of-Orthodox-it’s-really-complicated-please-don’t-ask-me-to-elaborate Jewish organization that does outreach involving asking Jews in the wider community if they’d like the chance to complete a mitzvah; for example, at Sukkot they’ll ask if Jews walking by would like to shake the bundle of Four Species, which they might not have the chance to do at home. This probably-a-Chabad-member has identified the queer person in the photo as a Jew and offered them the chance to wrap tefillin, which is a central part of certain Jewish blessings. Basically this very traditional man has walked up to this very untraditional man and said “hey! Have you had the chance to pray today? Would you like to?” Jewish prayer mostly revolves around the saying of blessings, not around requests, so the prayers said with tefillin are basically “it’s an awesome day and I’m glad I’m living it.” There is no “this person is wrong for their flag or orientation or gender”—it’s just “this person is a fellow Jew, I will ask if they want to perform a mitzvah.”)

I was already here, but I’m taking a closer look at this image and I think there’s another important thing to add:

Especially because this is a Pride event, there is a much higher than usual greater-than-zero chance this person is either nonbinary or a trans man.

Wrapping tefillin is a male mitzvah. That’s to say, women aren’t obligated to do it, and many traditionalists say women shouldn’t do it. And it’s also considered an act of modesty for men not to touch women outside of their own family.

The probably-a-Chabad-member is wrapping tefillin (a male mitzvah), which involves touching someone he’s not related to (forbidden between sexes), on someone who may not be a cisgender man and, if he is, presents as GNC.

So in addition to everything I said above: this is a very traditional man looking at a very untraditional person-who-may-not-meet-his-own-definition-of-“man” and saying “you are a man to yourself in the eyes of G-d, therefore you’re a man to me. Have you had the chance to pray today? Would you like to?”

about adhd

it concerns me that people really don’t know that adhd isn’t a personality type or behavioral problem.

adhd isn’t someone who’s personality is driven by fun and disorder.

adhd is someone who’s brain goes all over the place looking for dopamine, because it doesn’t make or register enough of it, and when it finds a source of dopamine, it hyperfixates on it. it’s about deregulation of attention as well as emotions.

it’s not a person who can’t behave. a person with adhd can look like a lot of things. misconceptions about what adhd looks like kept me from even looking for a diagnosis, and it also kept myself and others (professionals, even) from taking my suspicions seriously.

everyone’s encouraged to reblog, but if you don’t have adhd, keep your additions to the tags.

Smart people can have ADHD. And a lot of the time, they compensate for the ADHD with intelligence- until they reach the point where they just can’t overcome it anymore, which is why a lot of gifted + ADHD people have good grades their whole lives and then “suddenly” crash and burn. For some it’s college, for some it’s grad school, for some it’s postgrad or professional exams like the bar. Whenever the things they have to do can no longer be brute-forced at the last minute.

ADHD is often lumped in with learning disabilities but it’s really a DOING disability. We know what we should do. Probably we know six ways to do it. The trouble is actually getting our brains to activate so we CAN do it. Sometimes it’s like you’re being controlled by aliens or something because you say “I need to do X” and you’re going to do it and you just. Don’t.

‘children should not be exposed to literature about bigotry, violence, etc because they’re Not Prepared For It’ is like one of the most privileged opinions you can possibly have. i hate to tell you this but a lot of children face bigotry and violence in their daily lives! for children of colour and children who are victims of abuse and children in poverty, these things are Actually Happening to them In Real Life! what you are advocating for when you say children should be shielded from these things in media is for the white children with stable loving nuclear families to be shielded from acknowledging the lived realities of their peers!

I saw an experimental standup show by a comedian (his name is Corey White tho he’s not active anymore) who talked extensively about the neglect he experienced in his family of origin and then the sexual abuse and violence he went through in the foster system etc, and at the end he was talking about getting a scholarship to attend a private school. He found The Metamorphosis by chance on the shelves in the library when he was like 15? And when he read it, he saw this character, Gregor, and how he was rejected totally by his family for something that wasn’t at all his fault, and yet his love for them was constant and unconditional.

And being a fifteen year old boy who’d been brutalized his whole life by the people who were meant to care for him, for no reason at all, Corey broke down and cried in the middle of the library. And obviously this stuck with him because he was given this national platform (an hour-long stand up special) and he finished it with this memory. That story and the message he took from it stayed with him long into adulthood, he said suddenly he didn’t feel totally alone in his experience as an abused child. Who would deny a young person that kind of catharsis??

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People have even gotten to the point where they’re saying that children can’t experience stories about death, as if death is something “too grim” and “too upsetting” for a child to possibly understand. But children are exposed to death all the time. Children have grandparents who die, parents who die, siblings who die, friends who die, and they know what it’s like go go through that grief. Overall, to act like childhood (which people paint with a very broad brush, sometimes they mean six-year-olds and sometimes they mean middle schoolers?) is a period of complete and total innocence and that children never experience any suffering, any grief, any bigotry, is really deliberately ignorant. People are talking about a fictional, idealized, archetypal Childhood and fictional, idealized, archetypal Children who are nothing but innocence have never experienced any kind of suffering

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Caitlyn Doughty, of Ask A Mortician, wrote in one of her books about how her first encounter with death came from watching a child fall off one of the elevated aisleways at the mall, when she (Caitlyn) was eight. And how much it fucked her up, to have that be her first experience with death, and how so much of the driving force of her crusade to have a healthier and more open understanding about death comes from knowing, viscerally, the difference being equipped to process it makes.

And I think the “children aren’t prepared for it” argument is a self-fulfilling prophecy, because people are running on this idea that if you just shield people from something as long as possible they’ll magically develop the maturity to deal with it and that’s not how it fucking works. You’re just leaving them deliberately unprepared and playing chicken with the universe, which doesn’t play chicken.

Also, and I cannot stress this enough: stories are the preparation. Ideally, people explore and experience difficult things in concept before they encounter them in reality. But even in retrospect, having the means to process something that’s already happened to you has major benefits on its long-term effect on you, and there’s much comfort to be had in realizing that you’re not alone.

This is also part of why it’s important to let kids self-pace their development and their exploration– it’s not that information can never be traumatizing to kids, it’s that what kids need and when they need it *varies.*

And why it’s important to teach them HOW to self-pace (e.g, skills like assessing their feelings about content, stepping away from upsetting content, seeking out support for processing content, etc.)

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Lion King (1994) explaining the importance of stylized 2D animation: Lion King (2019) and Cats (2019):

Kimba The White Lion (1965) explaining the importance of an original idea:

Lion King (1994) Lion King (2019) Cats (2019)

Shakespeare (1564) explaining the importance of an original idea:

Kimba the White Lion (1965), The Lion King (1994), The Lion King (2019), Cats (2019):

Saxo Grammaticus (c. 1160 – c. 1220) explaining the importance of understanding that all creative work is inherently derivative once you study the oral tradition of storytelling and history and that’s okay because generations have always reformatted tropes and themes to make them relatable to their current audiences 

Shakespeare (1564), Kimba the White Lion (1965), The Lion King (1994), The Lion King (2019), Cats (2019):

Tyrannosaurus rex (Late Cretaceous) explaining nothing because he’s a don’t give a fuck

tumblr you frustrated me enough that i bothered fuckin’ around in the web developer tools section and folks, if you have ublock origin, here’s the list of filters to make tumblr functional:

www.tumblr.com##.B6Xr2 www.tumblr.com##.zytrC._y4kh for the y2k stuff

www.tumblr.com##.TRX6J.CxLjL.qjTo7.IMvK3.q8kZB for the frogs button the rest here all remove things like tumblr live (no more seven day limit!), the suggested stuff that interrupts posts (like the buttons you can click on, etc), and removes the multiple dashboard options at the top so you can have just your dash of people you follow: www.tumblr.com##.KDoiW.rR_oZ www.tumblr.com##.T4ddP www.tumblr.com##.RAEnv www.tumblr.com##.EvhBA.T0bbH www.tumblr.com##.TQmoN www.tumblr.com##.MJvwO.kDCXR www.tumblr.com##.wl0Ka

caveat: i only run tumblr on my desktop and i have xkit going too

here’s the difference on my dash (thanks @evenlarksandkatydids​ for the cute pic):

vs

tell me y’all don’t want a functional dashboard again

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Oh that’s useful also!