"Khal Drogo laughed. "Moon of my life, you do not ask a slave, you tell her. She will do as you command."- Dany(AGOT VII). "You do not ask a slave," Mirri replied sharply, "you tell her"- Dany(AGOT VIII). It's weird that it was mentioned twice. Just because Dany didn't see her as one it doesn't mean Mirri is not slave.

It's Dany missing how the person she believes must think well of her for "saving her" is doing no such thing. Because Mirri isn't really a person to Dany, or she would have taken two seconds to consider anything from her perspective. How inadequate Dany's actions would look on the receiving end is a thing Dany never realizes and doesn't even fully understand when it's explained to her in the end.

Mirri was an important and respected woman in her city, running the temple of the great shepherd as godswife, richly dressed and highly educated, and a very successful healer, who knew her people well.

Mirri worshipped the great shepherd. She felt responsible for her people, and she knew that Dany was Drogo's wife and her whim of claiming all the captured women as her personal slaves was a way to temporarily protect them. And Mirri knew Drogo was the only key to upholding it, because it was more than obvious that the other men deeply resented Dany for it. So Mirri played nice. But sometimes her anger spilled over.

It dimly disguises the true extent of her fury, which is only suppressed in order to try and keep protecting her people. Dany never notices. Mirri is a useful object to her. Once Drogo is beyond saving, so is Mirri - and so are Mirri's people. There was nothing left to do but use that borrowed time to sow some chaos and teach Dany a very painful lesson about her empty self-righteousness.

Unfortunately, Mirri went too far by introducing blood magic into this lesson. It is always wrong, always a mistake, always calling for punishment. And it ended up turning Mirri into a human sacrifice to wake dragons, causing more harm to more people than Mirri would have ever wanted.

RIP, Mirri.

If the A/SOIAF at large either misses the mark thematically with the books (Reddit) or completely misses the direction of the characters (Tumblr and Dark Dany) then you pretty much have reason to scrutinise any of their fundamental approaches and start fresh. Jonsa is 'starting fresh'. If you outright dismiss Jonsa on the basis of it being deluded shippers - which a lot of fandom does - you miss the sociopolitical and thematic arguments motivating it.

It might not be popular, but fandom has never been about facts, it's always been about popularity and archetype-assignation. Just because ships get big in fandom it doesn't mean they're canon - just look at how Tumblr shipping fandom has treated most M/M ships. (No offense to M/M shippers). The reason why Jonsa feels 'right' for A/SOIAF is the same reason that Sansa isn't popular. She's a direct product of what makes A/SOIAF feel like A/SOIAF, tonally (and the same is true for Jon's canon character).

I'm going to actually say that out of all the fandoms I've been in since I was a teenager, most of the time the crowd that ends up being right has been the unpopular one. Fandoms will rewrite history but I remember. I was there. A great example in the A/SOIAF fandom? Everybody rewriting D/any as a 'tragic hero' and trying to make show!canon fit into book!canon with rewritings to their own desires (oh, ice threat will happen after burning KL, or Connington's gonna do it, whatever). Before that, that was not the tune they were singing (except for maybe one really big user who was a proponent of tragic Heart of Winter Jon/Dany sex and magic baby).

If anything the kind of controversial advice I want to give Jonsas is that being unpopular isn't so bad if you're actually close-reading the text. Most of the time people who move fandom to fandom are formfitting what they want to see. Basing your feelings off of fandom archetypes is not the way to go. If everybody is converging on a similar type of belief that I see people cultivate across fandoms... it gives me great pause. Lol. (E.g. there will be a group of five who'll be a #foundfamily and the #iceandfire pair will be #rivalstolovers, pretty much classic Tumblr fandom antics).

That's the points I ironically award to Jonsa. Obviously it doesn't lend to a pleasant fandom experience and I am sorry you have to deal with that. What do you think, Rouka?

I think this is really well put, anon!

how likely do you think is that jonsa happens?

Let me cite this CuriousCat answer: