BAD TO THE BONES*

the way "steal" seems to have shifted in people's minds from literally taking an item to depriving someone of potential profit is genuinely kinda sickening

In utter disbelief

Hot take but I really do think that some of y’all need to consider how/why/when/how often you’re making fun of straight people for being straight

I do it too, I’m not going to pretend I don’t make jokes about the hets, or the down with cis bus, or whatever

But I recently befriended a cis, straight dude and I have watched him be dismissed, degraded, and unambiguously insulted for the perceived “crime” of being straight — all in queer environments where he is allegedly “completely welcome” and surrounded by “friends”

This guy is not a toxic person! But I have seen him be made to feel so small and like his comfort and safety in those spaces are conditional on his silence and acceptance of being treated like a human dunk zone, and I think that some of y’all have had so much shit from straight/cis people that the second you feel like you’ve got an inch, you want to luxuriate in the perceived catharsis of bullying someone who— actually —doesn’t deserve it

And until he very, very carefully mentioned to me in private that it makes him feel bad, I didn’t even clock that I was involved in doing that, that it had become so instinctive for me to make casual jokes like that, and that— well meaning or otherwise —I had been contributing to an environment that made someone I really really like feel like shit

So, I dunno, I think maybe some of y’all should think about that too

Coming back to say that while a lot of the responses to this post have been mainly positive, some folks have an attitude that it should be something that my friend— or any cis, straight man —should just be able to get over, because fuck ‘em, that’s why, because they’re in a queer space and they should shut up and accept it, because you suffer as a queer person and they should have to suffer too— regardless of whether or not this specific person has done anything to wrong you

I’m gonna say this point blank— you’re a tar pit if you think this way

Your suffering does not make you special, you are not granted brand new permissions to be belligerent and cruel because you have been treated poorly, straight people aren’t an oppressed class, no, but they’re people who are entitled to the same amount of basic decency that you, yourself, are entitled to

It feels good when you’ve been treated like shit to then go forward and treat other people like shit. That’s what you’re admitting. Does it make you feel good to do harm? Are you proud of that? Are you comfortable with being that kind of person? Because I dunno about the rest of you— but I realized I wasn’t, and it turns out it’s pretty fucking easy to change

Edit:

I saw another post today that I thought fits well in here and matches the vibe of my tags so:

Credits to @Hakusi_Katei from X/Twitter

pretty much the only good thing about the paper of record anymore, the crossword

typical centrist both sidesism from the nyt

the thing is, sitting with your legs curled up underneath you is so so comfy. until it's not. and your feet and legs are numb and cramping. and this happens every time

I don’t think the ultimate solution to “maladaptive” thinking or behaviors is “using better coping skills” I think it’s having a life you don’t constantly need relief from.

90s movies: Psychopharmacology is as good as a lobotomy. If you take pills to treat your mental illness it will literally murder your imaginary friends and you will become a boring, lotus-eating conformist drone.

Me after taking my meds: drives the scenic route home to see if there are any geese on the pond and does a little dance in line at the grocery store and comes home to throw everything​ in my fridge into a stew pot because I can finally taste food again while singing songs at my birds in which I replace all the instances of "she" with "Cheese" and doing a Dolly Parton impression on the phone to my sister

Beyblade

Girls will see this and say "Fuck yeah!"

His current plan is to boost Florida’s economy by investing in city infrastructure and green energy, to give back to the middle class that, he believes, kept Florida running, and wishes to further protect from climate change by investing in both state wide and country wide green policies. Russell also wishes to dismantle discrimination in his state and country, protect families and workers through affordable housing and wages, to address gun reform and the use the new bipartisan background check act, and, finally, wishes to institute reproductive rights for all and focus on women’s issues in the state.

has anyone noticed that to clean smth u often have to get smth else dirty

massively fucked up

like where does it end

"Nobody pays attention to a guy in a high-viz vest" adage untrue in exactly one situation

Dude imagine someone screaming their own name at climax. First middle and last

fascinated by how "dislocate" seems to be a word used almost exclusively to refer to the misalignment of bodies, or parts of the body, from their proper place. it's distinctly anatomical. you don't say "i dislocated my keys" for instance, even though that's technically a correct and coherent sentence.

on the other hand, it would be really funny to say "i misplaced my shoulder" to announce a devastating injury

it went that way 👉

It's because the dis- prefix in English carries a strong sense of undoing or reversal, whereas mis- means to do badly

So if my keys are misplaced that means I put them in the wrong spot, but if they are displaced it means someone else moved them from where they were supposed to be.

There's a lot of dis- words for bodyparts! Dislocate, dismember, disarticulate - if a corpse is disarticulated that means it's all jumbled up and torn apart. If it's misarticulated you put it together wrong in the first place (and your name is Victor Frankenstein).

....a better minimal pair would have been disassembled (taken apart) vs misassembled (put together wrong) wouldn't it

The existence of the word "misadventure" (unfortunate event happening to you, typically of your own doing) implies the existence of "disadventure" (unfortunate event of someone else's doing) and I'll be bringing this into my vocabulary for situations where other people's mistakes have become my problem.

I know it’s not actually the same prefix but now I’m thinking about the idea of an alternate to dystopia: mistopia. The world isn’t fucked up because of corruption or the sins of man, everyone was just really disorganized

King

my man was not having a great time

You think that's bad?

good lord his own mother

Dragged beyond recovery

This website’s hatemail game goes hard but Johanna Schopenhauer goes harder

King

my man was not having a great time

You think that's bad?

good lord his own mother

Dragged beyond recovery

a small island home 🌊🍊🌊

I tried to draw this a year ago but couldn't work it out, so it's nice to see I made some progress

prints here