That is.... so much more liberating than thinking womanhood is femininity, or lipstick, or shaving your legs, or wearing skirts, or conforming to misogynistic ideals, or somehow “feeling” like a woman.
Honestly, I wish I could agree with this, but just on a personal level, I can’t.
I was well aware that, biologically, I was not male. I understand that my biology is specifically designed so that I can get impregnated, whether I wanted it or not, and potentially be forced to gestate and give birth to it.
I tried for so long not to transition because I figured I would just…snap out of it. That I was too stupid, or neurodivergent/autistic, to know what was best for me. That I’d somehow go back to being neutral or positive about being a woman.
There was nothing liberating about those years of forcing myself to be something I wasn’t. Of trying to seek help from radfems and being bullied, shunted aside, mocked, talked down to, and given useless (and sometimes downright dangerous) mental health and medical advice. Of feeling utterly trapped and helpless.
What is liberating about that?
What is liberating about telling yourself over and over and over again that you are something you know in your gut is wrong, that your body is designed for a function that you fundamentally know it should not be able to do, and that you can never change that?
Do you want to know what liberated me?
Accepting that I was transgender - that I am not cis, and that that’s okay. Starting hormone therapy that put a stop to self-destructive behaviors that have plagued me my whole life.
I am happy that you find pride in your biology. I do. I wish I could have, some days, too.
But claiming across the board that biology that many of us with dysphoria find distressing “liberating”?
It was not my experience.