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cannot go on walkies

@averyconcernedtable

^^^ a stupid head

“we live in an uncaring universe” yeah dude and I live in an uncaring house. and I shit in an uncaring toilet. but do you touch an uncaring lover? do you comfort an uncaring child? do you guide to sleep each night a cold and uncaring self?

"In the same way your heart feels and your mind thinks, you, mortal beings, are the instrument by which the universe cares. If you choose to care, then the universe cares. If you don't, then it doesn't." - Brennan Lee Mulligan, Fantasy High S1E17

Anyway please click on OP’s post like I did, intending to reblog directly therefrom

And enjoy

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omg

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this is their dynamic. to me

[ID: a redraw of a meme featuring Spider-Man. Peter Parker (in suit) is shown looking downright miserable, with dark colors and black hatching around his face to accentuate this, with text on the side attributed to him that says "The world is a cruel and unjust place. There is no harmony in the universe. The only constant is suffering." Then, indicated by text that says "minutes later," Peter is shown with a significantly brightened expression as Miles Morales (also in his suit) is seen leaning in and giving a peace sign. Peter says "OMG Miles hi" in all caps, while Miles replies with "sup lol." End ID]

turned reblogs off on that post bc people don't know how to be normal about trans women. again

the speed at which it went from "calling people eggs is weird" to "you're actually just a sexual predator" is kind of insane actually

this is indistinguishable from conservative narratives about trans people infecting the children with our degeneracy and subjecting strangers to our fetishes without their consent

(trans woman makes joke)

"Oh you clearly have (insert fetish here) and want to post publicly about it. Transwomen are always thinking about sex!"

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the "tumblr is hard to use 🥺" comment from staff is so funny bc like. its not untrue. but the solution isnt to make everything algorithmic, its to stop hiding the FAQ pages deep inside the site. just like. explain shit to new users. a concept. also obviously just fix the search function

its not funny but i do think about it a lot

Yeah I don’t get this.. glad I don’t have kids. I mean what are you supposed to say?

it’s about the context. if a kid feels bad about doing something, they are unlikely to do it again unless they feel like they have to or if they don’t know another way to get it done. children are just small humans; they don’t like feeling bad/guilty/etc. any more than anyone else does. so if a kid comes forward and says ‘I did this bad thing and I feel bad about it’ and you scold them for doing that thing that they already feel bad about, then you are effectively just scolding them for coming forward. if the kid already feels bad, they don’t need an adult to tell them they should feel bad. in reality, the kid was probably coming forward about it because they wanted the adult to explain how to make it right, or how to do it properly.

Thank you, this helps. I like kids but being autistic sometimes it’s confusing because here in don’t know what the script is.

An appropriate script could be:

  1. Telling the kid that it is very brave of them to come forward and admit that they did something wrong.
  2. Telling the kid that we all make bad decisions sometimes and while we should try not to do that again, making a bad decision doesn’t mean we’re bad forever.
  3. Telling the kid that the best way to feel less bad about it is to try to make things right. Did they secretly take mom’s piece of cake? Maybe we can go bake a new piece of cake together and give it to mom. (The point here is not to make the kid really produce something of equal value to what they stole/broke/etc. A child often can not do that. The point is to practice what fixing the damage you have done looks like).
  4. Finishing the conversation with supportive words and maybe a hug, depending on the child and your relationship to that child. Above all the goal is making sure the child leaves the conversation feeling happy that they chose to come forward and committed to doing so again if they mess up in the future.