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@autdhd

semi-verbal autistic adhd’er
celtic pagan (irish), lego star wars collector
i am visually dyslexic, so i type in bold/italics
check pinned before you reblog or follow :)

Welcome to my blog, here at autdhd I make memes and serious posts about me and my disabilities, neurodivergence and my spins.

[ G E N E R A L 📼 ]

* 18

* medium-high support needs autist (lvl.2)

* late diagnosed adhd’er

* learning to accept and love myself

* she/her + they/them

* posts are made in bold/italics, bionic reading and occasionally coloured words like here

[ DO NOT INTERACT 🕸 ]

* general dni (ableist, racist, antisemitic, homophobic, transphobic, pro-life, pro-ana, nazi/alt-right, etc.)

* If you happen to be anti-self diagnosis, this is a pro-self diagnosis blog so

* believers of narc abuse/psychopathic abuse/sociopathic abuse or use medical terms to refer to individuals you do not like (e.g “he’s such a narcissist” just no)

* if you are a nsfw content blog (fanfiction is fine as i am 18, but anything else? no thanks)

* radical feminists/terfs and gender criticals (you are NEVER welcome here, get the fuck off my page)

* if you are an aro and ace exclusionist

* Lastly, if you do not believe/agree with neo-pronouns

[ NOTES 🎃 ]

* I often come across as very blunt/rude, i can’t discern tone well and i am often triggered into argumentative episodes when i feel threatened or insulted. So, please use tone tags with me and don’t be an asshole. (i don’t know how to explain that better, but something definitely causes that and I just don’t know what yet)

* please if you see something in my post or my tags that you do not understand, send me an ask and i will be more than happy to explain or elaborate. i really appreciate this way more than those who are rude, disrespectful and aggressive in my tags. asks can definitely be scary, but i don’t mind anonymous asks!

* extra - most of my posts are typed with many random words in bold or italicised, this is done because there are quite a few adhd’ers who find this typing method makes it easier to read. posts are always tagged with autism tags and adhd tags because (like my url states), I am diagnosed autistic and adhd :)

You may also see a change into bionic reading, so to explain, I have bad eyesight which the way I type means I can easily read and see what I’ve written and/or typed.

I’m more than happy for people to reblog my posts and put my words into a standard text format for those who need it. No, I won’t be changing it.

* i do tend to investigatethe blogs of those that interact with my content, so if you find yourself blocked… it’ll probably be because you’ve reblogged content i don’t like/on my dni

I want to reiterate that this account is NOT a safe space for TERFS, Gender Criticals or Radfems. I do not want you here, you are not welcome. The same goes for Nazi’s, Alt-Right, Pro-lifers etc. I’ve seen a few of you assholes creeping in and if you think I won’t check your account and block you, you are wrong.

Someone help, please 🙏‼️

We really need an urgent emergency help as I need to bring my cat Kuppa to the vet ASAP because of the ugly rash on her mouth. She’s not been eating since yesterday because of it and it’s making her real uncomfortable! Vet visit might cost around $150-$180 and I don’t have the means to be able to afford it right now because we’re really on a tight budget plus the next paycheck will be on the 25th :(( I can pay it back if ever, please 🙏 I feel like a horrible pet owner because I can’t even provide just a vet visit for Kuppa 😭😭🐈 please help, even sharing my post if you can’t help financially will definitely mean a lot!

For those people who will send their love and support for Kuppa I have my paypal below,

please do send it through friends/family so paypal wont hold the funds since we need this for emergency 🙏🙏

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wish employers would realize that they aren't "committed to inclusivity and diversity, and welcome disabled job applicants" if they only hire people with disabilities who do not require accomodations

another poll for autistic people! :-)

*selective / "picky" eating: eating a restricted variety of food. having many foods you don't eat due to dislike of the texture or taste.

"High masking autism is hard because people don't take your struggles seriously and often refuse to accommodate you,"

and

"Low masking autistics do not automatically get support and are often denied basic autonomy,"

are two thoughts that can coexist btw. You can be upset about the lack of support in allistic society as a high masking autistic without assuming that low masking autistics are somehow always taken seriously and given all of the support they need.

things that can be symptoms of autism

- having no empathy. at all

- anger issues, being easily frustrated, explosive anger, destructive behavior

- being "over emotional" and sensitive- laughing for too long or too much, being easily amused, having big meltdowns over things people think "don't matter", having meltdowns because of even being able to hear horror movies or something sensitive someone told you. you could argue this is a type of "taking things too literally" too

- being too rough. i personally throw things i mean to just put down and slam doors i mean to shut quietly

- experimental behavior (saying or doing things just to see what will happen)

- not understanding boundaries

- not understanding consequences

- not understanding that other living things are real and have thoughts and feelings and bodies

- not understanding good and bad

- not knowing how to express emotions

- expressing or feeling a different emotion than is expected

- expressing an emotion you don't feel because you have no other way of communicating

- systemwide flat affect (tone, body language, and face)

- shallow emotions (feeling something but not feeling it as strongly as is expected)

- just flat out not feeling what you're expected to, at all

- what's considered manipulation because your brain just doesn't... work another way

- self absorption. both in terms of "only i exist to me" and "i will walk into the fucking road unless someone helps me watch where i am going". something parents of autistic children often complain about is their child coming out of their room, walking into the room where they are and they say hi and the child doesn't even acknowledge them. that. not acknowledging other people or objects or your environment at all. for me it's because my brain just literally doesn't "see" stuff but also sometimes i don't acknowledge people for reasons i don't even know. if anyone else gets this and knows why you do it lmk

- impulsivity

- incontinence

- not being able to understand, interpret, or process body signals like hunger, exhaustion, or needing to use the bathroom

- dysphagia and problems with eating and talking. can result in drooling

- issues with balance, proprioception, and motor skills (frequently bumping into stuff, tripping, falling, knocking stuff over, spilling, missing trash cans, being unable to grab something, missing your face when you eat, having a hard time dressing yourself, messy handwriting, having a hard time with buttons or staying in the lines or drawing a straight line)

- atypical gaits and mobility issues (may require the use of mobility aids)

- not being able to understand sarcasm or jokes. by themselves. just sarcasm and jokes. no complexity.

the point of this post is "please keep all of this in mind when you think about and discuss autism, and when you interact with others, especially people you know are autistic."

happy autism month.

yeah hi if the parts of this you're relating to are the dysphagia, mobility issues, incontinence, atypical gait, etc and you are able to, please rule out other neurological disabilities as the cause of those symptoms first, because they can be signs of just pretty much anything though i'm particularly worried about stuff that can cause problems with your lungs, heart, and diaphragm, like whatever the fuck is wrong with me, which is literally miserable

these are also not solely symptoms of autism in general- as someone else very politely (/sarcasm) pointed out, a few of these are also symptoms of cluster b personality disorders. they're also symptoms of autism. (and depression and schizophrenia and brain injury and other developmental disabilities)

and a lot of people have been using this as "maybe i'm autistic" which i like, yeah i knew that would happen actually, but the purpose of it was... not that. the purpose was, i get tired of seeing "autistics are actually highly empathetic" and "autistics actually do understand sarcasm". "x autism symptom that actual people experience is actually a symptom of trauma"

*electrocutes myself and smacks into the ground*

I find it so funny when people get told I’m autistic and the first words out of their mouths are “I’m sorry” like, dude, the only thing you should feel sorry for is my bank balance.

There’s only so many special interests and hyper-fixation purchases it can take.

Eurovision Drinking Game for those playing along tonight

Modified from Buzzfeed 2014 Whenever [your commentator] says something mildly racist, put on their accent, repeat what they said and then drink two fingers. Every time the presenters flirt, swap drinks with someone else in the room and take a big gulp of your new drink (two big gulps if you’re alone) Finish your drink every time an act enters the stage in traditional costume. If a country attempts to make a political statement, drink 2 fingers. Every time a song has “love” in its title, tell someone in the room that you love them while gazing into their eyes. If you get the giggles, finish your drink. Whenever there’s a lighting or sound delay, start drinking. Only stop when everything works again. The moment [your commentator] gets too drunk to make sense, finish your drink. You’re going to need to match their drunkenness. Whenever you see glitter, feathers or coloured confetti, drink 3 fingers. Whenever a presenter awkwardly performs a short stand up routine before delivering their country’s scores, drink 2 fingers. If a country gives 12 points to its neighbour, drink 2 fingers. If a country finishes with nil points, drink until you have nil drink left. If the U.K. wins, down your bottle. And if the U.K. comes last, see off every bottle in the room.

time to bring this back and i take no responsibility for your livers or the resultant hangover

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If you’re Irish you drink as well every time graham Norton betrays us for englishness

a fair and pertinent addition anybody watching the UK broadcast: 1 finger every time graham pretends he’s not irish. if YOU’RE irish, 2 fingers.

reminder of the rules for anyone joining me in rabb.it this evening ‘glitter / confetti’ also covers pyrotechnics as per an addendum from last year

IT’S TIME

Graphic Design is absolutely NOT my passion (can you tell)

But I made all you printer goblins something…

I want to talk about AAC being treated as and/or viewed as a toy.

Many people, especially children (but not always), are curious about my device and want to play with it or push buttons. It can be frustrating when I am trying to use my device to communicate important messages. It can also be uncomfortable when someone touches my device without permission or moves it out of my reach. It is important to understand that AAC devices are not toys, but a vital disability aid. It is essential to respect an AAC user's communication device and treat it with the same respect as you would any other communication tool, such as a pen and paper or a phone.

I do not treat your vocal cords like a toy, so why is it any different with my AAC device? /rhet

neurodivergent culture is have a very precise and exact routine and if you mess up one thing you have a panic attack and go into a depressive episode because that’s the one thing you can control, and your routine will always be there, but if you mess it up you have no control. it is stability, it is something that will always be there, and you can’t mess it up. (also idk if this is an autism thing, ocd or general nd)

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one! one thing wrong with me. two! two thing wrong with me. three!

I came across this article in the wall street journal and thought it might be helpful for some of my fellow spoonies

This post really hits home for me just how many of the things old people do is just disability accommodation

Hate have say this but

NOT TOUCH OTHER PEOPLE DISABILITY THING PLEASE

Should not even have be please, should be good and know but somehow not.

Person in Aiden class before today *grab* Aiden laptop with AAC and Aiden had *physical* grab back because person start press random button on Aiden AAC.

Then! Person get *mad* because Aiden not want person play with Aiden *voice* like *toy*

This not good, and wish person know more good but guess Aiden have say too.

“Little” things that are accessibility features

Some of these might not have been intended for accessibility but are nonetheless very valuable for disabled people:

  • Railings on stairs
  • Textured stairs and walkways
  • High visibility markings on obstacles (again often found on stairs)
  • Easily accessible rewind features on videos
  • Ability to edit the size and color of captions/subtitles on videos
  • Ability to change the playback speed of videos and audio content
  • Features to boost or cut the bass, high end, or mid range frequencies (this feature can be found on Spotify)
  • Similarly, features to fine tune the presentation of different colors and contrast on devices
  • Wide passageways in shops, classrooms, offices, sidewalks, etc

RB with more small things that make a big difference to disabled people!

I think the worst thing about being autistic is that you spend your entire life trying to understand other people but nobody takes the time to understand you