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CBC made a good documentary on adult ADHD and part of it really caught me off guard because i swear they repeated verbatim my life story for the past 3 years

full programme here:

My ADHD manifested in excellent in-class work. Excellent understanding in discussions. Excellent participation. 

My ADHD manifested in piles of homework left undone until the last possible minute, while I stared at them, thinking; “I want to get these done. I understand the theory. It would take 10 minutes. I want to start, why can’t I start?” 

My ADHD manifested in fantastic reading comprehension - nigh impenetrable focus on interesting topics the first time I’m reading about them. 

My ADHD manifested in a complete inability to focus on reviews or re-reads, mind skittering sideways and away whenever anything was boring or repetitive. I sat down to study, my books open, my eyes on the text, and my brain clawing its way out the back of my head to focus on something else - anything else. Focus, focus! [No.]

My ADHD manifested in Articulating wings half-finished but still beautiful, in beautiful lineart and half-hearted coloring. In stories written passionately for days until I forgot it existed and never returned. In projects started and forgotten and started and forgotten a thousand times until my bins of project supplies piled up and my bank account shriveled down. No, it will be different this time - I LOVE this new thing. This new thing is my world, my destiny, my Everything. I CREATE and CREATE and CREATE and never FINISH. 

My ADHD manifested in confusion and surprise as time slithered away, hours passing like minutes and minutes seeming endless by contrast. An inability to gauge how much time had passed, was left, a task would take. An inability to hold dates in my head, because time didn’t feel consistent or even real.

 My ADHD manifested in watching someone talk and not understanding a word they said - literally hearing sounds and translating out only nonsense. In thoughts so loud I couldn’t speak coherently. In a conversation across the room shattering an idea I was trying to hold. It’s hard to think when you’re already thinking about everything around you. 

Hi I was today years old when I realized some people truly don’t have to think about every single thing they do. They don’t have to have an imaginary set of rules (I’m not allowed to put on my bra until I’ve brushed my teeth) to function.

I had a conversation with my therapist (who has ADHD) about this, because this kind of phenomenon sometimes gets simplified to "ADHD people can't make habits", and that.... doesn't seem right. Cuz, like.

  • opening Tumblr every time you experience .2 seconds of boredom is a habit
  • clicking "Next" on YouTube or TikTok is a habit
  • buying a cookie every time you walk by this one store is a habit
  • plopping down on the couch the instant you get home and pulling out your tablet is a habit

There are lots of things we do without thinking about it. We totally form habits -- just not the habits we necessarily want. Therapist confirms: ADHD brains are capable of habit-making. We are, however, especially prone to forming bad habits, and struggle a lot with forming good habits, for several reasons:

  1. Forming a habit requires doing things in exactly the same way many times in a row. This is a problem when (a) you can't remember to do the thing and (b) you can't remember how you did the thing last time
  2. Forming a habit requires doing the thing every time a particular Cue occurs. Cues can be either events (I brush my teeth after dinner) or times (I brush my teeth at 7PM). Timeblindness takes away half of our possible cues, and dissociation/alexythmia take away another bunch. We're left with only the possible cues that our brain is capable of noticing, which is a much smaller set to hang a lifestyle on
  3. (perhaps most relevantly) forming a habit requires that the brain experience a sense of reward when the thing is done. People for whom brushing their teeth is a habit are overwhelming people who love the taste of toothpaste or love the smooth feeling of their teeth or who are squicked by the gross feeling when their teeth aren't clean; people for whom the gym is a habit are overwhelmingly people who get the runner's high from their workout. We don't experience rewards for most brain actions. Therefore we are overwhelmingly unlikely to accidentally form habits around doing chores or getting dressed or paying bills. We are, however, extremely vulnerable to accidentally forming habits around the things that do manage to provide us dopamine: hence the fact that our habits are almost all around things like social media, video games, and other instant-reward type activities.

The good news is, we are weirdly susceptible to forming habits around anything that does, in fact, get rewarded. I've had the most luck with asking my partner to give me a fistbump every time I do The Thing, but chocolate chips, gold stars, and verbal praise also work really well. TL/DR: Since ADHD people have trouble accidentally forming good habits, we have to intentionally form good habits if we want to have them (which I do 10/10 recommend because spoons). Check out The Power of Habit (paper book) (audiobook) and/or Atomic Habits (paper book) (audiobook) for step-by-step instructions, and choose "Take your damned ADHD meds" as the first habit to set up.

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4 purple monochrome drawings which all have the words "ADHD is like..." in the top left corner. The artist's signature (@adhd_bri) is in the bottom left corner.

Image 1: A smiling person is standing next to a wheel that has an arrow on top, their hands holding the side in preparation to spin. The wheel has the following options on its segments: Understimulation, read a book, brain fog, sweep floors, overstimulation, do dishes, lack of focus, and do laundry. A thought bubble above the person's head reads, "I want to read a book today!"

Image 2: The image is the same as before except the wheel is now spinning and the person is holding their hands together, a smile on their face.

Image 3: The wheel continues spinning. The person is now frowning while staring at the wheel.

Image 4: The wheel continues spinning. The person looks at it with the same frown and a thought bubble above their head reads, "It's not stopping..."

/End ID ]

Autism & ADHD things that aren't talked about enough (NOTE: I have all of these)

✨ Having trouble thinking outside the box because of one-track thinking (plus years of conditioning from school) 

✨ Struggling with answers that most people think are simple because you think it has to be done a certain way (again, one-track thinking) 

✨ That specific ADHD & Autistic mood where you have intense special interests but they come and go periodically, so you don't hyperfixate on something for long 

✨ Slow Processing Speed, especially where your brain is fast but your body struggles to keep up with it so you can't react physically in time for most things

✨ Having facial expressions that always seem a little flat or stilted regardless of how strong your emotions actually are

✨ Gastrointestinal Issues (which are actually very common with Autism) 

✨ Poor Volume Control, like being totally oblivious when you're too loud or too quiet

✨ Having a hard time reading both tone and volume, such as feeling like someone is yelling at you based on their tone of voice instead of the volume

✨ Thinking in pictures or having a very visual, audio or physical-based learning style and ONLY being able to learn like that 

✨ Saying things that sound good to you in your head, but that seem inappropriate or weird to everyone else

✨ Unusual sense of humor that rarely lands with neurotypicals

✨ Good long term memory for things related to your special interests, but being unable to remember important things like appointments

✨ Very high or low pain tolerance

✨ Being hypersensitive to some stimulus and hyposensitive to others, possibly even both for the same sense depending on the situation

✨ Skin picking, hair pulling and other non- suicidal self injury, particularly when under stimulated or anxious

✨ Not getting jokes

✨ Not understanding phrases, like how when I was a kid I thought rolling your eyes meant rolling them all the way around in a circle

✨ Needing a guardian or help with seemingly simple daily activities

✨ Feeling the need to over explain everything so you're not as likely to be misunderstood

✨ How everything feels louder, brighter and genuinely painful when overstimulated and during a meltdown

✨ Talking too fast or too slow 

✨ Having your mind run so fast that your physical body can't keep up so you end up messing up words or phrases because you're brains too fast for your mouth

✨ Being legitimately unable to participate in conversation if there's too much background noise or you're distracted in some way. Like how in school I would say something completely different than what I was planning to say because people were talking in the background.

I'll probably add more to this later!

Ableds Kiss My Ass: A Collection

[ID: A post by accessibility_disters showing a market stall set up in a disabled parking spot.]

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[ID: An advertising sign set up in the middle of a disabled parking spot.]

[ID: A giant sign saying “For Hire” set up in a disabled parking spot.]

[ID: A pile of inventory on pallets in a disabled parking spot.]

[ID: Rows of shopping carts stored in a disabled parking spot.]

[ID: A FedEx delivery truck parked crosswise across disabled parking spots.]

[ID: A UPS truck parked crosswise across a disabled parking spot.]

[ID: A USPS truck parked in a disabled parking spot.]

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[ID: A giant pile of snow from plowing a parking lot that has been shoved into a disabled parking spot.]

[ID: A truck with an attached construction rig parked crosswise across two disabled parking spots.]

Oh look I hit my ten photo limit before I reached the end of my photos on this topic. What a surprise.

Ableds Kiss My Ass: Continued

[ID: A truck with a horse trailer parked crosswise across two disabled parking spots.]

[ID: A delivery truck parked crosswise across several parking spots with its ramp deployed across a disabled parking spot.]

[ID: A giant concrete barrier with an orange cone at one end in the middle of a disabled parking spot.]

Today’s submission comes from @blood-countess-elizabeth-bathory and features the entry to the elevator at their local drugstore. Because clearly potato chips are more important than disabled people. I particularly love the irony of the disabled access symbol and elevator buttons still visible to the left of the shelf. Here’s your access!

Anyway Ableds can kiss my entire ass.

[ID: A freestanding display shelf holding bags of potato chips is standing across the door of an elevator completely blocking it. To the left of the shelving you can see the elevator buttons with a disabled access symbol just below.]

why closed captioning should always be provided on every video:

  • Deaf People Exist
  • auditory processing disorder is a Bitch
  • people with ADHD can find it hard to concentrate on what is being said without the words in front of them
  • ^autistic people for the same reason
  • autistic people may also find it hard to interpret verbal messages within the context of the video, so it's useful to have written alternatives to fall back on
  • do you know how painful it is to be excluded from every joke, every video, every conversation because others just Can't Be Bothered?
  • some people live in a conservative household or with family who don't share the same ideals, and they may not have privacy to view things on their own, so they may need to watch things with the volume extremely low or muted
  • We Want To Watch Videos In Public, Dammit

feel free to add on!

as always, ableism will get you blocked (:

a lot of people have been saying this, so I'll go ahead and add it:

  • having written words in front of you when the language they're speaking isn't your primary/native tongue is very helpful for comprehension and fluency
  • Not everyone is fluent in every language and sometimes accents can make it hard to understand what is being said

• helps children learn how to read

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• Some people are hard of hearing

• Tinnitus is also a bitch

• You ever eat some really crunchy food and it’s super hard to hear over all the crunching?

Over half (52 per cent) of Canadians say they're $200 or less away from being unable to pay their bills, according to the latest MNP Consumer Debt Index.
This is a 6 per cent increase from the last index report released in April.
The report cites rising interest rates and the high cost of living as the primary reasons Canadians cannot meet their financial obligations.
"The escalating burden of household bills and food prices has intensified Canadians' financial anxiety — and is further compounded by increased debt-servicing costs, particularly for those who are deeply indebted," stated MNP President Grant Bazian in a release. [...]

“Well it’s not just mainstream music, aren’t ALL songs about sex and relationships if you really think about it—“ Absolutely the fuck not. I just listened to a song about being buried alive and one about pirates battling a giant squid. Listen to more weird music immediately

Just listened to a suite about a cyborg destroying the universe with vomit because he wanted to vomit and die like a human. There is so much variety to music if you just explore a little

DO NOT GO TO AO3 RIGHT NOW!!

I really mean it. Apparently Anonymous Sudan is getting desperate because this isn't the out come they're hoping for and are trying to do a DNS attack! Which means they will try and redirect you to a malicious website to obtain private information!!!! SO DO NOT GO ONTO AO3 AT ALL FOR YOUR SAFETY!!!!!!!! FOR YOUR SAFTEY DELETE ALL AO3 TABS NOW!

Anonymous asked:

As a christian, fuck israel. Palestine will be free, from the river to the sea. Unbelievable that you support terrorists on your blog. Reported you. Extremly sickening that in the year 2023 one finds people who support genocide and apartheid, as well as the illegal war crimes that terror state commits weekly. Every child that was murdered will get revenge. Whoever supports murderers is a murderer too.

Do u need me to wash the pacifier before I hand it back to you? :(((

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LMAO a Christian would have told you you're going to burn in hell, this is Muslim rhetoric 😂

"Every child will get revenge" naw fam it's "Lucifer is going to boil you in the lake of fire for eternity" at least get the stereotype correct.

I wonder how bad things would have gotten for the Christian population over there during the Ottoman centuries if not for the Ottomans trying to maintain a appearance of tolerance.

As for genocide,

Israel really sucks at that, the number is supposed to go down not have a nearly 5 fold increast.

As for apartheid, every citizen has the same rights and responsibilities, well not really mandatory military service,

Looks like a segment of the population can opt out really easy, so not the same responsibilities, still the same rights though.

Every argument I've heard about apartheid has amounted to someone screaming that we don't let the citizens of Canada and Mexico vote in US elections.

Citizens have the same rights, non citizens are a different story and that's not apartheid, you've been lied to if you believe it is.

There is the issue of racism that is apparently running deep in the IDF

How dare they be so awful.

Anon likely has a shrine to himmler somewhere because the person they really want to make one of would be too obvious.