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Am I the only one who thinks that hitting a kid and abuse are different things? Like, if I ever had a kid, I wouldn’t spank their ass raw or something like that. But a bop on the mouth or the ear pull or a smack upside the head? Yea. Those are behavior modifiers.

Except they’re not.

The studies done by the trained psychologists in this joke show that little kids don’t associate being hit with the thing they’ve done wrong. Very small children only understand consequences that are directly caused by the thing they did. Steal a biscuit, biscuit tastes good. Then for no reason mummy hit me. Very different to stole a biscuit, now no biscuit after dinner because I stole a biscuit.

And they also show that when a child is old enough to understand why they are being hit that non-physical punishment is equally as effective and less mentally harmful in the long run.

Do you know who benefits the most from hitting as a punishment? The parent. It gives a satisfaction rush. Parents do it because it makes them feel good.

Basically kids have two stages: too young to understand why they are being hit so physical punishment is useless for anything other than teaching a child that bigger stronger people can hit you whenever they like (Which sounds like the same lesson you would learn from abuse)

And the second stage is old enough to be reasoned with so many punishment options are available and you chose physical violence because it makes *you* feel better, which is an abusive action.

The only time a person should ever use violence against another human being, of any age, is to stop that person from being violent themselves.

Hitting a stranger is a crime. Hitting someone small who relies on you for food, love, and shelter should be as well. Don’t hit your fucking kid.

And also the way Barbie and Ken are role playing heterosexuality without any inherent sexuality of their own, without any understanding of what it means, or even any genitals at all! Just pretty-girl + handsome-guy = obviously a couple. And the way it fucks them both up! Because they’re both stereotypes, neither of them is a specialist version, no brain surgery or pilots license or Nobel prize for either of them. They’re just assigned the roles of Every Man and Every Woman. And Ken ends up doing Way Too Much because he’s hanging his entire self-worth on being important to Barbie. And Barbie just isn’t interested in him, she was assigned a boyfriend she didn’t ask for and doesn’t want and doesn’t know what to do with, just because that’s what society expects of men and women, that they will necessarily couple up and fall in love because… that’s what they do. Regardless of any personal quality of either party.

It’s about heteronormativity and amatonormativity and the unrealistic expectations society sets boys and girls up for from infancy. Barbie and Ken are every pair of toddlers sharing a sandbox while the adults around them call them each other’s little “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” even though neither party understands or is capable of understanding the implied meaning of that. Or wants to.

It’s a literal funhouse mirror of that weird pressure put on kids to perform heterosexuality from an early age. It examines how that leaves us unprepared for the complicated reality of actual relationships even if it turns out that you are heterosexual and do want sex and romance. Boys and girls aren’t really allowed to be just kids on the same team, so they grow up into men and women who generally want very different things from each other and are trained to look for it in everybody because anybody is better than nobody, and try to force it to work.

Barbie and Ken letting each other go in the end was perfect. Barbie the Every Woman realizing that she doesn’t have to be special, she just has to be, and Ken the Every Man realizing he has to seek validation elsewhere and lean on his fellow Kens for emotional support, WHICH THEY GIVE.

Truly a movie of all time.

me after saying “it is what it is”

French the language of love the only language aziraphale is not fluent in

no no wait hold on. French, the language of love, is the only language Aziraphale decided to learn the hard way. He chose to do it the human way, without the aid of a Heavenly miracle. And, yes, he's bad at it. He's awkward about it. But the important bit is he still keeps trying.

Worst part of living in the void is all those assholes screaming into it. Keep it down, would ya?

It was better when I lived in the abyss. People just stared into it until it stared back. I mean, lack of privacy was an issue, but at least I could get some sleep.

Fuck it. Moving to the cloud. Surely I won't have any problems there.

Goddammit

Bitches be like ‘I’m so tired and sleepy’ and then stay up doing hyperfixtation shit for the next 5 hours

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just in case it breaches tiktok, someone is doing a gon.charov 2 basically. its called "zepotha" and it is yet another 'joke' based in acting as though a work of fiction that does not exist and never has is 100% real and claiming that people look "just like maxine from zepotha!!" and will not let up on the bit, and refuse to give real information about the topic (because there isnt any). if you see these "jokes" (which, if you are participating, please, please tag them as un.reality, without the period), you are not insane, the world is not warping to leave you out of information, or whatever other type of delusion this trend may trigger. this is a media that does not exist, and as such, no concrete information will ever be able to be found. you are okay

edit: please do not tag this post with tags meant to steer people away from un.reality based content. doing so stops people who need this warning from being able to see it.

btw an important figure in feminist history being a trans man does not erase their importance or significance because trans men are also oppressed by the patriarchy. trans men's defiance against misogyny is not somehow less radical because they aren't a woman. feminism has gotta stop clinging to woman-identity as the most important thing wrt anti-patriarchal action

its important to talk about how being a woman is not inherently anti-patriarchal & how anyone, including men, can be anti-patriarchal. but what specifically annoys me is the idea that trans men's experience with patriarchy & misogyny is somehow lesser than cis women's, that our stories of resistance are less important and that by transitioning/identifying as a man it devalues our entire existence in relation to feminism.

what specifically prompted this post was pauli murray. there is substantial evidence that pauli was transmasculine & likely would have identified as a trans man if the concept existed then; and by substantial evidence i mean he changed his name to an androgynous one, wanted to be examined to see if he had undescended testes, was well known to have had gender dysphoria, and literally pursued HRT for years. he was publicly a woman and did a massive amount for feminism & specifically Black feminism. and yet, everywhere, he is referred to with she/her pronouns. not even they/them, which is pretty common when there's a question of gender identity in a historical figure- she/her, because how can we square an important feminist figure who suffered due to misogyny/misogynoir with non-female identity? how could pauli murray be remembered as a feminist icon who bravely resisted sexism if we remember him as a trans man?

even this article calling out the cissexism in how pauli murray is discussed has this strange line:

Which I find strange because it implies that the most logical reason a trans man would be so vigorously anti-sexism is because he feels a man shouldn't have to deal with it. instead of.... for the same reasons women are anti-sexism? because they suffer from its oppression and also are morally opposed to it? cisfeminists are like. stuck between "trans men are cis women who are being weird" or "trans men are cis men who are fucked over a bit more." cisfeminists are like "but if i cant relate every trans experience back to the cisbinary how am i supposed to understand gender???????"

"passing privilege" is saw trap discourse. like, you don't pass and you get fucked over, or you do pass but you're still traumatized and hurt. and the illusion of choice, not every saw trap is survivable, just like not every trans person is able to pass even if they do everything they can. sometimes the people who survive go on to perpetuate the system that traumatized and injured them. why does this analogy work so well

what is transgenders even about. vroom vroom car turns into robot

TRANSFORMERS

Some poor suffering gobs!!

I love these and I wish to adopt them.

How does one purchase these in sticker form?

inside you, young transmasculine person, is a voice that will tell you not to like certain things because they're For Girls. that is the voice of the devil, and you must never listen to it.

for those that need it:

inside you, young transfeminine person, is a voice that will tell you not to like certain things because they're Too Manly. that is the voice of the devil, and you must never listen to it.

Someone made Felonies Georg into a graphic. Bless.

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