Confusion with semi-verbalism
I think a lot of people get confused with semi- verbalism. They think it’s something like selective mutism, or situational mutism as some call it. For me, that is apart of it but isn’t all of it.
What’s it mean?:
For me being semi verbal means its a constant state. I’m always struggling with verbal communication. I’m always stuttering over my words, saying things I don’t mean, or unreliable speech. Sometime, yes, it does mean that I can’t talk in certain situations. However, this isn’t the extent of my communication. I need several days in advance to talk with friends. With family my communication is eh, but it can be unreliable, and I often get in trouble for saying things I don’t mean.
I use an AAC device now, but I still struggle because sometimes even typing doesn’t make my brain work. Sometimes the words get stuck and I have to pause and be like “what was I saying?” Or try and find the word I meant or a similar one. It can be frustrating, and does cause a lot of meltdowns.
Recently, regression has hit me hard. In the past, speech was ok but still a bit unreliable. Now, it’s pretty unreliable, and although I can have conversations my words are slurred, too fast, some words skipped, stuttering, just overall a hard time. Semi-verbalism isn’t just losing my speech sometimes. It’s losing my speech all the time. Wether that be a word, a stutter, or something more. It’s a constant struggle, constant tension, constant frustration.
I want people to realize that it’s ok to use terms that fit you, but use the terms that actually fit you. Don’t steal the terms of semi-speaking and non-speaking people.