“If you have time to watch Netflix you have time for a side hustle” my side hustle is relaxing so that my body and brain can heal from by this nose-to-the-grindstone bullshit. I refuse to feel guilty for being a human with the need to relax sometimes. my side hustle is no.

and i would swim 500 miles and i would waddle 500 more just to be the walrus that swam a thousand miles to knock on your door

Who is to say a walrus isn't a fairy. Did you ever think of that

I pray that every single soul who sees this, likes this, or reblogs this experiences a miracle within the next hour.

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The Virtual Toad Choir Presents: SILENT NIGHT

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A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

Mentalhealthceo

This is honestly better advice than “if at first you don’t succeed, try try again.”

By all means try again. But do that after you figure out WHY you failed!

You can believe in magic, but watch out.

It's fun learning astrology until you start to make broad assumptions about real people's behavior based only on their birthday.

It's fun to speculate about alien civilization until you say early cultures weren't competent enough to build their own pyramids or until scientologists stalk you for every penny you have.

It's fun dressing symptoms in mystical language like "empath" or "indigo child" until you go through life undiagnosed, unaccomodated and feeling less and less human.

It's all fun and games until Tiktokkers tell you hallucinations are actually attunement with a higher dimension and that you should stop taking your antipsychotics.

It's fun to think about possession and changelings until mom starts trying to "save" her child's soul or dad kills his family for having "serpent genes."

It's fun to see natural formations as if they were manmade until you start believing cultists when they say flying saucers are Antarctic Nazis.

You can believe in magic. It's fun to believe in magic. Believing in magic is valuable stimulation. But watch out. Remember your reality checks. There's a lot of cults and scams and white supremacists out there who want to sell you something, and that longing for magic to believe in is how they get you.

I'm not the first to say this. I won't be the last to say this.

But if you support Autistics, you need to support all Autistics.

Support the ones with moderate needs, the ones with high needs. The ones that are loud. The ones that haven't learnt any social skills and are seen as embarrassing by allistics.

Support the ones who are hyperverbal and talk way too much about their special interest.

Support the ones who are nonverbal and communicate with AAC and struggle to be heard.

Support the ones with stereotypical behaviours and then ones who mask so hard they deny they're autistic at all.

Support the Autistic parents who are exhausted all the time and the Autistics who still live with their parents.

Support Autistics all the time. Not just when they make you feel good.

i’m kind of like if a girl did nothing with her life

it’s almost as if Tolkien knew what he was talking about

It’s almost as if Tolkien personally witnessed one of the bloodiest wars in human history and then used that to fuel his writing.

Chocolate covered strawberry brownies

shaking six year old me by the shoulders YOU WERE RIGHT. YOU WERE RIGHT ABOUT LOVE AND ABOUT FAIRNESS AND ABOUT SHARING IS CARING. YOU WERE RIGHT. THE ADULTS DON’T KNOW ANY MORE ABOUT TRUTH THAN YOU DO. KEEP BELIEVING IN THE FAIRIES AT THE BOTTOM OF THE GARDEN. NOTHING IS “JUST THE WAY IT IS”. I AM SORRY THEY EVER CONVINCED YOU TO FEEL SHAME. YOU ARE REAL AND A PART OF THIS WORLD. YOU WERE RIGHT.

strawberries and cream cookies

Summer Solstice Honey Cookie Recipe

A sweet cookie recipe from Gather Victoria for celebrating the Summer Solstice.

Strawberry Brownies