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Ask A Queer Chick

@askaqueerchick / askaqueerchick.tumblr.com

Poetry, queer politics, relationship advice, cussing

Today In Solidarity (6/12/18): As we remember the two year anniversary of the Pulse massacre, it is important that we reflect on narrative and who gets to write history. In the weeks following the tragedy, police were lauded as heroes for their response. In reality, they dragged their feet in responding to the shooting, sprayed bullets indiscriminately into the club, and have used the opportunity to muscle their way deeper into queer spaces, potentially threatening the safety of them. Survivors have recently filed a lawsuit around parts of this reality. 

Intermittently, we must remember that the victims of this massacre were predominantly Latinx, some even with hazy immigration statuses. The reality is that to this day member of the Latinx LGBTQ community (in Orlando and across the country) experience xenophobia, racism, and classism at the hands of police/authorities. We must not allow the Pulse tragedy to be white-washed. We must demand accountability for the lives lost not just at the hands of terrorists, but due to the cavalier and reckless way police acted in response. #nojusticenopeace #noprideforpolice

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Anonymous asked:

Your young so you've still got a chance, don't comit to being a lesbian. If you do you'll never have kids and if you don't do that you'll turn into a crazy cat lady. Its not about hurting your feelings, this is about your future mental health and finding actual genuine happiness and purpose. Get out of this awful echo chamber and find a guy instead of waiting to hit the wall. Please don't become a greek tragedy

can y’all imagine being this dumb

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reblog this if you’re a lesbian who’s a greek tragedy

I’m a lesbian and I have a kid AND I’m a crazy cat lady, free yourself from the false binary.

Three pictures:

1. The surprising title of a recent interview, in a pretty pink font that I’m sure the magazine in question often uses for serious male literary writers as well

2. and 3. Literally the only references to parenthood in a 3000-word interview otherwise concerned with writing, Greek mythology, Shakespeare, the false dichotomy of art vs. commerce, the strangeness of looking back on one’s earlier works, the failed promise of Esperanto, travel, etc.

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osanfg73qgwhfiuequi some girl from my high school just posted this n like… she’s not the kind of person who would share it out of satire i’m fucking screaming

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“Halloween, commonly known in the homosexual community as ‘Gay Christmas”

MOTHERFUCKING GAY CHRISTMAS

Bring back Gay Christmas in 2016

happy Gay Christmas everyone

Gay Christmas is coming

This explains literally everything about me.

The Heathers in the new Heathers.

We’re getting a new Heathers movie where we get to watch the thin/straight/white leads kill the black lesbian, plus size, and gender fluid bullies… Cuz that’s what the world wants/needs…

On the plus side, the Heathers are gorgeous.

...did EVERYONE involved in this decision-making process eat a brain tumor for breakfast?

Anonymous asked:

i saw ur book at Barnes and Noble but I couldn't buy it because i went with my mom and im closeted lmao ):

Back channel me your address or the address of a safe friend who can hold onto it for you and I’ll send you a copy! This goes for everyone - if you want a copy of Ask A Queer Chick but can’t safely buy it or keep it in your house, get in touch. We’ll figure something out.

Anonymous asked:

There's a book called ask a queer chick... did you write it?

I did indeed!

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california anti-drought measures are always like “take shorter showers! consider brushing your teeth with the sink turned off” and never mention the fact that nestle is bottling all of our fucking water and selling it to people who live in areas with plenty of water

It’s like the Irish potato “famine” I stg

In California, residential use only accounts for 4% of total water use. Industrial use is 80%. Source:

This is true of any resource. Yes turning your lights off will save you a but of money. But industry wastes far more electricity than you. Yes recycling your garbage is good. But companies, like the retail chain i work at produce far more garbage than you ever could and do not recycle it at all.

Turning natural resource and environmental crises into individual responsibility is form of class warfare so fucking insidious

Honestly just burn every company to the ground or cut them off from electricity and water systems

Tax them heavily for their usage Make recycling mandatory or theyre fined Oh im sorry am i stepping all over your precious free market I hope to choke it out

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“Part of the problem is that we’ve been victims of a campaign of systematic misdirection. Consumer culture and the capitalist mindset have taught us to substitute acts of personal consumption (or enlightenment) for organized political resistance. An Inconvenient Truth helped raise consciousness about global warming. But did you notice that all of the solutions presented had to do with personal consumption—changing light bulbs, inflating tires, driving half as much—and had nothing to do with shifting power away from corporations, or stopping the growth economy that is destroying the planet?

Or let’s talk water. We so often hear that the world is running out of water. People are dying from lack of water. Rivers are dewatered from lack of water. Because of this we need to take shorter showers. See the disconnect? Because I take showers, I’m responsible for drawing down aquifers? Well, no. More than 90 percent of the water used by humans is used by agriculture and industry. The remaining 10 percent is split between municipalities and actual living breathing individual humans….People (both human people and fish people) aren’t dying because the world is running out of water. They’re dying because the water is being stolen.” - Derrick Jensen (author & environmentalist)

My thoughts for 2017 pride. Be safe, everyone!

Oh man, I wish I’d seen this earlier. We went to Pride last weekend and after buying a $12 bratwurst and a $10 slice of pizza we were like “Why did we do this, we hate Pride, it’s literally sponsored by Coors Light.” Don’t give in to Pride FOMO - if you think you won’t have fun, there’s a really good chance you won’t! Do something actually fun instead!

How Feminists Need to Stop Worrying & Learn to Embrace Critique in the Post Women’s March Era

Erasing a history due to your lack of respect for the sacrifices of the marginalized

It goes without saying that the Civil Rights Movement wasn’t some extra curricular activity. It was a movement that grew from one of the most violent eras of our nation’s history. Civil Right’s leaders put their lives and safety on the line, literally, for black folks to be seen as human beings & full citizens. Civil Rights leaders were assassinated for working to make the invisible humanity of black folk, visible. Many of the issues the leaders called in to question still persist and contribute to black death and injustice. The Million Man March. Million Women March and the March on Washington are all events that have happened for black liberation. The Womens March on Washington, previously titled the Million Women March, obviously lifted inspiration from the work of black activists in the past. Whether or not you support the march, ignoring the fact the movement was co-opted, or acting like it “doesn’t matter” erases the work of Civil Rights leaders, is disrespectful and racist. FULL STOP.

In the same vein, A Day Without A Woman, despite whatever international examples you’re reaching to present, was inspired by the recent A Day Without Immigrants. (This has been verified by the organizers.) This was a very specific collective act designed to counter the violent anti-immigrant narrative in our country right now. Our country’s xenophobia is violent, harmful, and is splitting families apart. Yet our country also pretends that it doesn’t have a dependency immigrant workforces, while we paint immigrants as violent, lazy scourges on society. A day without immigrants was designed to counter xenophobic language and highlight humanity. Once again, co-opting this erases that point - and whether or not you plan to strike you simply CAN NOT close your eyes & ears and ignore that this erasure is very real. Denying this only cements the erasure and devalues the initial message even more.

These aren’t just nit-picky examples. This is to explain that this is a very important trend that deserves to be acknowledged. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away and it makes it impossible for future events to reflect any type of genuine self awareness.

The invisible labor of marginalized solidarity

Despite the obvious evidence of the Womens March Co-Opting and erasing the labor and efforts of Civil Rights leaders, many black women attended the march. Even I have posted speeches given by black women at the Womens March, and followed it very closely. It is a false narrative to assert that it is mutually exclusive for one to be critical of a movement or event as well as supportive of its parts, some attendees, or learn from the fruits of its existence. As a black female who attended a PWI, I am no stranger to this. For 4 years I learned at an insutition that fundamentally came at odds with my marginalized identity in most ways. (Unsurprisingly my classmates and I were also faced with the response of “you should be grateful to be here” whenever we voiced dissent and critique - so way to be consistent y'all). But to my earlier point, there were many who came out in droves to support and participate in the women’s march who’s identities may not have been represented, celebrated, or fully recognized by the leadership/crowd of their local march. This is not new to the marginalized and it does not have to be explained to us, especially to black women, that in feminism you often are asked to join in and support a cause that may not support or respect the individual intricacies of your identity.

When feminist communities mirror abusive relationships

Perhaps there is a belief that a movement can only grow to represent and support you and your needs if you stand inside of it, put in work and push it to grow. The main problem with that framework is that often times it gets written as this: Put in labor and work if you expect us to validate your humanity. Don’t expect us to want to help you if you keep criticizing what we’re doing wrong. How do you expect me to respect your humanity if you don’t present me your research and annotated bibliography, & an action plan? When unchecked it is wildly abusive, and as the voices of the marginalized are silenced it is poisonous. It loses support, and those who leave for their own mental health, humanity and self value are seen as nefarious detractors who are dividing the movement.

Pedagogy of the oppressors

At the end of the day, this poison looks like marginalized folks speaking out and having their very valid, well documented experiences & critique dismissed as ignorance and naivety. There is this nefarious idea within the greater movement that any dissent is a threat and needs to be taken down. There is also the condescending undertones of “if I don’t know what you’re talking about, it’s obvious unintelligent babble.” Even in instances where someone is merely minding their own business and expressing a thought that exists in the margins of greater feminism, white supremacy comes out of THE WOODWORKS to silence, gaslight and beat down.

Here’s just a brief breakdown of the different, racist & condescending ways others tried to silence me yesterday when I briefly spoke about mere reservations towards the way “A Day Without a Woman” co-opted “A Day Without Immigrants” and how the Womens March on Washington was also co-opting and erasing Civil Rights work.

  1. Imply my points are overused and doesn’t really matter (that the “movement” matters over our humanity, those who want their humanity recognizes are whining)
  2. Question my basic understanding of what the definition of a strike is and how it has worked through history (if she disagrees, she must be ignorant & I must educate her in all my glorious privilege)
  3. Tell me to stop “nit-picking” and “get involved" (calling for critical thought about the erasure of marginalized groups is merely unimportant nit-picking. That I need to stop complaining and continue to provide free labor to those who don’t respect my humanity)
  4. “we all must make sacrifices” (because my black ass doesn’t know what sacrifice is. read: YOU need to sacrifice your humanity for US)
  5. (My personal favorite) I care about what you’re saying, but I think you need to explain this a little more and provide more analysis. (I apparently didn’t care enough to go back and read the 5 other times you already answered this question and explained your point. I think you’re an unintelligent and I’m hoping that if I question you, you’ll realize you’re unintelligent)

tl;dr?

Full disclosure, I’m not saying anything that is particularly ground breaking. I think this is why I’m so surprised that the negative responses came out at full force last night. I really didn’t think that these things needed to still be explained in 2017, but I heavily underestimated the twilight in which people get engrossed into mainstream feminist movements and activities. I’m not telling you to stop supporting to women march, I’m not telling your not to strike. I honestly don’t care what people do either way, i’ll respect your decision one way or another. But what I don’t respect is this willful ignorance and desperate desire to shout out dissent within a movement. 

So just one last reminder: If your movement tells you anyone in the margins of it that poses a critique or challenge needs to be shot down or silenced (as opposed to understood or listened to) - you really need to stop worshipping that movement. Back away from the keyboard, avoid hitting that reblog button, and go do some research.

Further reading:

Damn, did you just write this in like 10 mins?? Teach me your ways!!

hahaha no I wrote it throughout the day. Last night got so wild with all the comments and questions that I received I figured I would just gather my thoughts in one post

Hey there! 

Are you an American? Do you have a sec to stand up for the millions of poor people, disabled people, people with pre-existing conditions and freelancers who rely on the ACA to keep them, y’know, not-broke and not-dead? (Hi!)

Do you live in Alaska, Arizona, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maine, Nevada, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Tennessee or West Virginia?

Congrats: you have a Republican Senator who has publicly expressed some concern about repealing the ACA without a replacement plan! If you haven’t already, this is your reminder to give their offices a call and help them make up their minds!

Alaska – Lisa Murkowski:   (202)-224-6665

Arizona – John McCain:  (202) 224-2235

Arizona –  Jeff Flake:  (202) 224-4521

Kentucky – Rand Paul:  202-224-4343

Louisiana – Bill Cassidy:  (202) 224-5824

Maine – Susan Collins:  (202) 224-2523

Nevada – Dean Heller:  202-224-6244

Ohio – Rob Portman:  (202) 224-3353

Pennsylvania – Pat Toomey:  (202) 224-4254

Tennessee – Bob Corker: (202) 224-3344 

Tennessee –  Lamar Alexander:  (202) 224-4944

West Virginia – Shelley Moore Capito:  202-224-6472

Sample call script:  “My name is [YOUR NAME]. I’m a constituent calling to thank [YOUR SENATOR’S NAME] for having the integrity and foresight to see how disastrous it would be to [YOUR STATE] and to the rest of America if Congress votes to repeal the ACA without first agreeing on a solid replacement plan. Not only would it jeopardize the health and economic security of millions of Americans, it would also place a tremendous financial strain on our hospitals and our entire healthcare system, costing potentially hundreds of thousands of jobs. As you know, in [YOUR STATE], we [SOMETHING PERSONAL ABOUT HEALTH CONCERNS SPECIFIC TO YOUR STATE; YOU MIGHT WANNA DO A 30-SECOND GOOGLE. IF NOTHING ELSE SURFACES, JUST SAY YOUR STATE BELIEVES IN SOME POSITIVE CHARACTER TRAIT THAT IS ASSOCIATED WITH KEEPING HEALTHCARE AFFORDABLE FOR AMERICANS, LIKE “LOOKING OUT FOR YOUR NEIGHBOR” OR SOMETHING.] As a voter, this is a vital issue to me, and I will be paying close attention to how [SENATOR’S NAME] votes.”

Call today if you haven’t already, and bug your local friends/family to call, too!

We only need to flip three senators, so it’s not impossible. Do this before this Friday, the 27th.

I’m sorry to ask this of you–I know there’s a lot of these things going around right now–but I depend on the ACA for my healthcare and I’m pretty damn terrified.

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If you live in one of these states and y’all can do this, I HIGHLY recommend it. I’ll be trying on my own boulders, Cruz and Cornyn, and they’re not likely to shift but they better know where we stand.

1.  “Ableist feminism is making reproductive rights activism all about birth control, abortion, and the right to *not* have children if you don’t want to, while writing off the fact that so many disabled people have to fight for the right to have kids, as if that’s not a reproductive rights issue, too.”

2.  “Ableist feminism is centering all their body positivity on “being healthy!!” when my body cannot be and will never be “"healthy”“ and i will always be ill.”

3.  “Ableist feminism is accusing people of being “bad/fake feminists” for not going to/participating in rallies, protests, and other events and ignoring how inaccessible these events can be.“ 

4. “Ableist feminism is criticizing people for not speaking up about misogyny and disregarding reasons why ND people may not be able to do so (such as lack of spoons, not being able to handle conflict/confrontation, difficulty with communication, etc).”

5.  “Ableist feminism is being outraged at the women who were sent to abusive asylums for being outspoken and such, because they “didn’t belong there,” while completely ignoring the institutional abuse of actual ND people.“

6. “Ableist feminism acts like autistic men are inherently more misogynistic than allistic men.”

7. “Ableist feminism is arguing that women’s concerns are valid because they’re not “crazy”

8.  “Ableist feminism is mocking people for “living in their parent’s basement”

9.  “Ableist feminism is no or poor accommodations for the disabled at feminist events.”

10.  “Ableist feminism is calling bigots ableist slurs.”

Let’s talk about ableism in mainstream feminism - submit your examples of ableist feminsim here.

If you needed any more proof that liberals are not our friends.

Well, this is a fuckin useful expenditure of resources.

He

is

a

fucking

NAZI

Like… If you don’t like the violence against him then ok, but giving a Nazi money? Really? Fucking really? There is nothing else more worthy than giving money to white supremacists?

Fuck this.

If you donated to this never fucking talk to me again.

Too bad the teacher can’t do this anymore.

I was at a show just a few days after the last Harry Potter book came out. The emcee was trying to get the crowd to be quiet, with little effect. Finally he yelled: “WHO WANTS TO KNOW WHAT PAGE HARRY DIES ON?”

Dead. Silence.