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Full video here of this gastropod-specialized snake actually eating the snail, I just think these first few seconds are the new funniest thing in the world somehow

random, but I think the way people talk about abusers as hypercompetent, calculating manipulators that Know exactly what they're doing makes it easier for people to get into abusive relationships

The people who abused me prolly had no idea what the fuck they were doing. It was still bad! I still don't regret buggin out!! But I don't think they had a secret wall covered in red string linking notes like "How to fuck up this person specifically". Pretty sure they were in their own bubble the whole damn time, actually, and yeah, that does make it harder to recognize or get out of

THIS ^^^

This is why I always say that in abusive relationships, intention means nothing and results mean everything. I spent so long forgiving people who treated me like shit for treating me like shit because I was convinced (and maybe I was even right, who knows) that they didn't MEAN to. Even when they refused to listen to my objections or change their behavior, it wasn't because they necessarily wanted to hurt me - it could be that I hadn't explained myself well enough, it was really hard for them to think/act differently because of trauma or circumstances, etc. And then one day I realized none of that fucking mattered, because I was being treated like shit and I was miserable. It didn't matter if that was the INTENT of their actions, that was still the RESULT, and I didn't deserve to be treated like shit no matter what was going on with them. I'm a person who deserves just as much consideration as they do, but they were the only ones being considered. The difference between "won't" and "can't" is purely academic. Whether they won't or can't treat you better, you can and should go find people who will. No one is entitled to your suffering for their shitty behavior, or to have relationships they don't properly maintain.

As someone who received their personal trauma through other children my own age (i was like 8 or something), this is so important.

People sometimes don't know better. But if they don't change, if they keep abusing you, keep blaming you for their own mistakes and make you feel dumb about everything you do, then you, as a Person yourself, can never make it right with them.

Set your lines. Warn people of those lines and make them pay the consequences, when they cross them. Even if you lose them or make them angry. You're a person too and they do not own you.

It took me 15 years to recognise that I didn't HAVE lines. That the few ones I had were too close for comfort and made me aggressive as hell when toed.

It is the people who don't know better that will hurt you the most. And those who won't change their behavior for you, are the most dangerous ones.

Stay safe.

This post articulates something I've felt for years but have struggled to put into words. It's so important. And I wish I had heard this message like 20 years ago instead of now. I hope this information can protect people in the future.

hmm

That's one reason I'm struggling to overcome my own trauma. Because it isn't logical.. My mother hurt me. But she didn't necessarily mean to hurt me. She just did what she did and wonders why I cut contact because she was "a good mom".

I struggle to understand how she could have done what she did. Because it wasn't deliberate! It still happened.

a compliment from a child is worth like a million dollars idk

everyone is a reference

2021.09.14

just some datalores

I was a weird kid and am now a weird adult but I wake up every day and thank god I wasn’t a weird kid in the age of tiktok and putting your face and government name next to dogshit takes

What if Kris' cape was a hooded shawl that would be cool I think

i think cis girls can have a packer as a treat

actually no make this a thing. itd probably be so good for making trans girls feel safe

im glad like at least 500 people can agree that gender affirming prosthetics shouldnt be exclusive to just trans people. honestly this goes for cis guys too feel free to get some breast forms. just dont be surprised if afterwards you decide you dont want to be a guy anymore

Definitely one of the Top Images of all time I gotta say

As someone who has been following the Cal Falcons all season, this has been one heck of a story.  The TL;DR is that Grinnell, the longtime mate of Annie, the female, died after the second egg was laid, but a new male, Alden, stepped in and became Annie’s mate, and they had a third egg.  Only two of the eggs hatched--the Cal Falcons team believes that it was the second egg that did not hatch, meaning that Alden is most likely raising his chick, plus one of Grinnell’s (they’ll confirm it with DNA testing later).

Alden is believed to be much younger and inexperienced than Grinnell and Annie and... it shows.

..He is trying so hard to Dad. 

A for effort, Alden.

coworker told me he “hates all mollusks” today. and to each their own obviously but like… theres 100k species of mollusk… you really hate all of them bro? nautiluses and oysters and snails and nudibranches and chitons and thousands of animals youve never even heard of???? what did ammonites even fucking do to you

he hates sea bunny?

AND leaf sheep??

ALSO MUCH OF THIS IS BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH HE HAS UHURA AS A LOVE INTEREST HE STILL SOMEHOW READS AS COMPLETELY GAY TO ME AJDUSKANAHW

And another note. I do enjoy when trek is comically bad. Theres a line where it becomes enjoyable to me. Benedict Cumberbatch as khan qualifies here. What the fuck. Like i hate it more than anythingbut its so fucking funny

everyone when i roll up

greeting the mutuals

https://twitter.com/astrofloof/status/1272714794764771333?s=21

the models social media accounts

the gimmick blogs are like tumblr’s rogue gallery. yes we’ve got some heroes, yes we’ve got some villains, but more importantly if you look over here you will see some freak who devotes all their time to counting the number of “t’s” in a post

T Count: 15

Letter Count: 198

Your T Percentage: 7.58%

Average T Percentage: 6.95%

You used the letter T 1.09 times as much as average!

YOU EXIST???

ma’am could you please take a step back. yes—yes ma’am it’s because of your AOE poison attack aura

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ma’am please

simply dont monday

duolingo be like green tea, rice. she is a cool student.

it's water and sushi